When your spouse buys the cheap stuff but eats the good stuff

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Anonymous wrote:Write your name on the things you want. My husband said I needed to do that once when I brought back half a pizza from a dinner out with friends because he didn't know he wasn't allowed to eat everything in our house. I had been planning to eat the remaining half for lunch but when I went to get it, he had already eaten it. Another time I bought a specific kind of cracker to go with a specific kind of cheese that I wanted to have at some point during the week. When I went into the pantry, the crackers were all gone because he had eaten them. So now I do literally write my name on the items that I have purchased for myself and that I plan to eat. My husband isn't a jerk like yours - he didn't argue with me when I expressed frustrating at him having eaten something I had planned to eat myself - so maybe that won't work in your case.

We tried this....my adult daughter still living with us buys all her own groceries (except for when she eats dinner with us she will eat what I have made), and usually puts her name on the bottle of specific condiments, baking mixes, etc (some of which is gluten free) to protect it from her ravenous teen siblings, but my husband gets offended. "Oh I guess I'm not allowed to eat her food even though she eats ours?"

What a dip$hit comment your H made.

No he can’t have any. It’s not like he’s going to go out asap after he depletes her food and buy the same exact thing to replace it. Meal planning is more than just eating what you see out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what no one has the heart to tell you:

He knows exactly what he's doing. He's playing a game of "What can I get away with? How can I nickle and dime this dummy and play the fool when she brings it up?" He's eating your apples deliberately and is perfectly capable of telling the difference. He gets a sadistic or selfish kick out of being the one in the household to eat all the "good stuff" and leave you with the junky stuff. He's a fundamentally selfish, anti-socially competitive person.

And deep down inside, you know this.

+ 1. And even if we give him the benefit of the doubt re: apples (hey, they're all red-pink spectrum after all), there is NO way in hell that the guy doesn't know the difference between the value of a Coors and the value of a good Belgian red-brown pint.

Regarding the bolded ^^^, the detail about racing through the shared dessert in a restaurant -- leaving you none -- confirms this. FFS, you're sitting right there 2 feet from his face -- do NOT let him claim "What? What? I didn't know you were enjoying it because you didn't spell it out for me and your half was disappearing more slowly than my side of the cake." He's a dick in sheep's clothing

DP

And his mother is the same way. Comes to “help” on maternity leave and eats all the gift foods from my friends and work they sent. Inventories all the cupboards and eats the nicest stuff first. Has the gall to say: Don’t want anything to go to waste! Eats 4-5x a day when staying with us but only 2x a day when we stay there.
The father snacks constantly, crumbs are everywhere he goes.
The make a game out of trying to never pay for groceries or meals out. And if it does come up they immediately say they do not want to split the meal, you get this one and they’ll get the next “thing”. Then proceed to order a glass of wine, salad, steak dinner, dessert. The next day they’ll spot an ice cream stand and say it’s their turn to buy the kids a cone!

It’s like some greedy sport to them. And they have $3m in the bank in rental properties.

Yuck.

Hide all the good stuff when they come and drink a lot of wine or get out of the house.

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And start splitting every food or meal or outing expense. Two credit cards for a bill is. Or difficult for anyone.

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Can you walk to the farmer's market together? Bring a wagon to haul a load of apples home?

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Same here. I hid food from my husband. Especially the good beers and any snaky things - nuts will be gone in a hot minute if I dont hide them.

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Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

So you are talking about approximately 180 individually wrapped snacks that your in-laws ate in 3 days? They went through 60 snack packs a day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and his family are like this. Greedy little gluttons. It took a while to train him out of it.

When we moved into our first house he ran around excitedly placing his objects in prime locations and claiming all the best closet space like he was competing with a sibling. I said oh hell no. I once made an Asian dish with shrimp, vegetables, rice and chicken and set it out bar style as the kids won’t eat shrimp, some adults were vegetarian, etc. I turned around and he simply added rice to the shrimp serving dish and walked away it. I had to tell him you take a serving you don’t take the serving dish.

When I was pregnant, I finished making kids breakfast, getting MIL coffee and pastries and was making myself an English muffin. As I was holding the muffin, raising it to eat it, she plucked it out of my hands and took it saying umm, yum yum. I told her how rude that was to do.

You have to be direct. These people weren’t raised right.

Uh, why did you marry a selfish child with no self-control? I can’t believe you let him put his penis inside you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

Who are these posters who feel the need to stan for thoughtless, greedy behavior? No, you don’t go to someone else’s house and eat ALL of ANYTHING.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

No. They also made a pie or cake or cookies each day. Didn’t like my turkey noodle soup so pureed it with cream (they don’t like soup with things or chunks in it! Must puree it!). And we had big bags of pretzels, taco chips, etc they still had to eat. They just don’t give a damn and want to use up everything. And don’t get me started on all the appliances or electronic feature that “suddenly stopped working.” Or broken class is fine in the garage and ask to go vacuum the area with the super vacuum as we have little kids. Silence every time we asked about something broken.

It’s like they got developmentally stunted at age 4

Are you the poster who now only buys grapes and bananas for their visits because they kept plowing through the organic raspberries and sending your DH to the store to buy more?

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File under “things I did not know I had to be grateful for…”

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Anonymous wrote:I’d try to find a way to buy more of the “good” apples, and for the apples and everything else, I would literally label my share of everything. Half the apples, beer, special treats would have my name on them and half would have his name on them. Two bottles of dressing, each labeled. You don’t even need to bother to label the stuff he buys that you don’t want. Don’t hide stuff; just be upfront about what his share of the good stuff is and what’s yours. That’s what I do for my kid with ADHD so she doesn’t eat all of the most desirable snacks. It’s works very well.

It only works with someone who respects you. This guy would go on a rant about how he can eat an APPLE in his own house and will stop listening the moment his lips stop moving.

[Anonymous]

Please please hide your food and report back. I need to know if he’ll eat the gross apples and beer and/or mention anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

Maybe they felt shy/embarrassed to cook “real food”? So they ate snacks all day?

No. They also made a pie or cake or cookies each day. Didn’t like my turkey noodle soup so pureed it with cream (they don’t like soup with things or chunks in it! Must puree it!). And we had big bags of pretzels, taco chips, etc they still had to eat. They just don’t give a damn and want to use up everything. And don’t get me started on all the appliances or electronic feature that “suddenly stopped working.” Or broken class is fine in the garage and ask to go vacuum the area with the super vacuum as we have little kids. Silence every time we asked about something broken.

It’s like they got developmentally stunted at age 4

Are you the poster who now only buys grapes and bananas for their visits because they kept plowing through the organic raspberries and sending your DH to the store to buy more?

No but they do like their $9 a pack fresh berries in winter replenished every couple days!

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Anonymous wrote:File under “things I did not know I had to be grateful for…”

IKR?! This thread is completely believable to me. DH has, like a PP described, eaten sweets that were clearly someone else's if they were still uneaten after 2 days ("I assumed you didn't want those homemade cookies, it's been DAYS!").

But this thread is off the charts. And I'm loving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In laws came for Thanksgiving and at the entire shelf of kids’ individually wrapped snacks for school Monday - Wed while we were at work and they were at home w the kids. Well H was working from home so should have helped out more. It was 3 months supply for 3 kids.

Meanwhile we had $600 of real food from Costco out in the house.

I think I would have seriously asked them to replace this. Jesus.