When your spouse buys the cheap stuff but eats the good stuff

[Anonymous]

Red delicious apples are absolute worst apples for pie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is hilarious. It’s true that many apples are junk! Anybody with tastebuds knows this; DH does. Hide the apples in your car

Share vinaigrette tips/recipe, please?

The keys to the vinaigrette are sherry vinegar and many cloves of crushed garlic. (I'm not kissing DH anytime soon, so I embrace the antibacterial properties of garlic!)

To the sherry and garlic add: a finely chopped shallot, good olive oil, dijon and/or a seedy mustard (not too much), salt, black pepper, basil, ancho chili or something a little spicy, a squeeze of honey or maple syrup, half of a squeezed lemon or so, a tiny bit of water, and whatever else seems good after you sample it.

Wow! Thanks, that sounds absolutely delicious!

[Anonymous]

Maybe less garlic and more kissing would help?

[Anonymous]

Clearly there is more going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t buy any more farmers market ales until he’s finished all the 1990s apples. (In the ‘90s all we could ever find were red delicious and Granny Smith in the grocery stores). If he notices they don’t taste as good, tell him to stop buying them.

This was going to.be my answer. No new apples to you are out. Same with salad dressing and beer. Maybe that will change his shopping habits.

[Anonymous]

He’s a jerk. Hide apples and beer in your car for now. See if he starts to but better stuff.? Label food if it comes to it. We have hiding spots but it’s from the kids who will eat all the chocolate.

Thx for the vinaigrette recipe.
We crush garlic olive oil and a little mustard in the salad bowl, mix with lettuce to cost all with film of oil (never gets overdressed this way) and then add in a bit of vinegar but sometimes I’d like a change and have it ready to go and it sounds interesting.

[Anonymous]

This post is so funny. My DH is a terrible shopper. I wonder if he does it poorly on purpose. I always do the grocery shopping. The very few times he goes, he gets it wrong.

[Anonymous]

I get it op.

It's all the sa.e money ans not about separate groceries. It's about the fact that you like certain things and buy them but can't enjoy them. Your husband is cheap but enjoys your things to the point that you can't enjoy them.

I got pass this by not buying those things or if I buy them I hide them in a place in the kitchen for my enjoyment. The kids enjoy the good stuff too. I dont mind with them as much but with my spouse I do because he can go buy those things also but chooses not to.

[Anonymous]

Just make an agreement to buy honeycrisp at the grocery store.

[Anonymous]

My DH is a gobbler and a great shopper. The only thing I need to do (since I'm a slow and savor person) is either put a bit aside or just tell him to replace what he gobbles. That combination leaves me pretty ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re a good writer, OP, so I can see we are in “A Jury of her Peers” territory here. You don’t want to do any of the time, so I agree with keeping groceries separate.

I have a healthy marriage to a great guy and love my three children equally. But I and two of my kids routinely hide our favorite things from DH and the other kid because there is otherwise no guarantee that we’d get a chance to eat the things we especially like. It’s funny when we realize we’ve used the same hidey holes.

chef's kiss to this reference.

[Anonymous]

i have one those too. its being inconsiderate. i buy organic berries for the kids and he acts ticked off when he tries to eat them and I say - this is for the children. Major dick.

[Anonymous]

Its inconsiderate. I would stop buying the nice apples. Get one for yourself at the market and eat it. He needs to both change his shopping (put pink ladies on the list explicitly) and realize that he lives in a house with other people. The latter is the hardest to change.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad to see that I'm not alone. My husband did grow up food insecure (came here alone as a refugee) so I sort of get it. He doesn't cook or shop so I've simply adjusted how I approach both. He insists he doesn't eat dinner - something I knew when we got married - but over the years I've learned to cook 'extra' of food that I know he will eat nonetheless... not sitting down at the table with us of course but grabs portions as I'm trying to get the kids' meals on plates. He also does very weird things like eating a few bites of a cookie or leaving the packaging undone so things go stale. My kids know to hide food that they want to save for later. We once were staying with family and he took pieces off all the chocolate that my pregnan SIL had bought; I thought the house was going to explode. It literally makes me crazy at times, but in the abstract I realize it mostly comes from a very sad childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just hide the good food from him from now on. Don’t you have a drawer or something? He sounds rude.

This. I do this with my kids and, frankly your husband sounds like a man-child so I’d take the same approach.