Hate my job but MUST stay in it until Jan 2 for my retirement to vest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not give notice until you are vested. They could walk you out the door that day and you would lose it all. Instead of stressing about the lunch, go to the lunch. It’s food, it’s in public, and think of it of four fewer hours your boss can go off on you. Stay at your desk the other times and keep your head down. Confide in no one there. The sad thing is that I’m sure plenty of people know your boss is an AH, and they’re just choosing not to do anything about it.

Op here. You’re right. I’ll try to just go.

Yes, I’m giving notice on Jan 2nd (the day I vest), knowing I’ll be ok if they walk me out the door.

I'd do it on the 3rd. If you are let go on the 2nd it may disrupt the vesting.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Just bumping this up. I’m surviving one day at a time, but it is hard. The holiday lunch is next week and I’m going to just go since it feels easier than putting on a performance of being sick. My doc gave me a prescription for Valium so I’m going to take 2 before the lunch and just zone out.

I had a panic attack on the way to work yesterday which was awful.

Looking for any more tips on how to survive, or any subtle and legal ways to mess with my management in my final weeks.

[Anonymous]

OP give your notice the day AFTER you vest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP give your notice the day AFTER you vest.

Op here. Yes, sorry, thank you. You’re right.

I’ll give notice on the 3rd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP give your notice the day AFTER you vest.

Op here. Yes, sorry, thank you. You’re right.

I’ll give notice on the 3rd.

Triple check this - I'd hate for you to accidentally quit too early!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Just bumping this up. I’m surviving one day at a time, but it is hard. The holiday lunch is next week and I’m going to just go since it feels easier than putting on a performance of being sick. My doc gave me a prescription for Valium so I’m going to take 2 before the lunch and just zone out.

I had a panic attack on the way to work yesterday which was awful.

Looking for any more tips on how to survive, or any subtle and legal ways to mess with my management in my final weeks.

Love you

[Anonymous]

You're almost there, OP!

So happy for you

[Anonymous]

Also work out more which will help with dealing with work.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you taking any time off over the holidays? And even if you are not, I would guess your managers are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also work out more which will help with dealing with work.

Op here. Thank you!! This is a great recommendation!! I’m going to try and do this.

[Anonymous]

I'm the bingo card poster from earlier in the thread. Have you hit bingo a few times? Another thing I did when my last place "let us go" but basically just told us we were done in 2 weeks. We didn't work those 2 weeks but showed up. I wrote a lot of ridiculous Haiku's during that time lol. There were ridiculous things that happened or were said during those 2 weeks and the Haiku's made me (and a fellow release) giggle.

[Anonymous]

Oh no here he comes
Yelling and being a dick
I got a bingo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Create a bingo card with the ridiculous things that usually happen. "Larla reminds me 3x about X", "Larlo makes snide comment", "Marla finds way to pat self on back", etc. Come up with some prizes if you get bingo, and if you cover the board!

Definitely go to the holiday lunch. Be as present as you can. See how fake and quickly you can get out of conversations. Turn everything into a game.

+1 you have to make it a game

[Anonymous]

Best wishes OP!
Making it a game helps.

One thing I did that was slightly vengeful was only leave the bare minimum in documents or files for my boss / successor. Delete, delete, delete your last few days.

[Anonymous]

3 weeks come on op stop being so dramatic ffs.