Hate my job but MUST stay in it until Jan 2 for my retirement to vest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for the encouragement!

I’m very low on annual leave and sick leave because I had a baby last year and still haven’t restored my balance but I should have enough to cover at least a day or two.

I know this is NOTHING in the grand scheme of things but part of the struggle is my job is 100% in person now, zero telework allowed, and zero flexibility. So I have to be in the office from 8-5, Mon-fri and they police it ruthlessly (despite us working remotely up until October of this year…..).

What a snowflake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t make it from now until January 5 you’re the biggest baby on the planet.

She had a baby but she isn’t a baby. I’m in the same boat just trying to get through the end of the year (but for bonus not retirement). It’s hard! Every day is soul-sucking, and I am burning my leave just to make it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally distract yourself during the days listening to music or books. Clock hours to the minute. That said, is there any positive that you can cling to for a few more weeks to get you through?

Op here. The positives are $$ and also knowing that I am extremely capable at my job and they won’t be able to replace me and even if they manage to find SOMEONE, it would take at least a year to train them up because nothing is written down (I’ve raised this as a problem a dozen times over the years but management won’t support me in developing playbooks, SOPs, templates, etc.). They have zero understanding of what I do.

I do have one work friend and I enjoy seeing her.

I mostly enjoy my actual work, but the anxiety of all the yelling and confrontation has left me so on edge that it’s hard to function. This was much less of an issue when we were remote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t make it from now until January 5 you’re the biggest baby on the planet.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t make it from now until January 5 you’re the biggest baby on the planet.

She had a baby but she isn’t a baby. I’m in the same boat just trying to get through the end of the year (but for bonus not retirement). It’s hard! Every day is soul-sucking, and I am burning my leave just to make it.

Op here. I’m not actually retiring but just waiting for vesting which happens at 5 years.

Solidarity!!! It’s weird how knowing there’s an end date doesn’t relieve you of the misery and despair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t make it from now until January 5 you’re the biggest baby on the planet.

Op here. Nope not kidding. Things are very difficult at work. The micromanagement, toxicity, screaming, backstabbing, and lying are worse than any other job I’ve ever had. And I’ve just had it. I’m so completely done. I don’t trust my bosses, they don’t trust me, there’s no goodwill between us. Screaming matches are not unheard of in our office.

I’m a very non confrontational person and just knowing that someone could come into my office and start yelling at me at any moment has left me so on edge that I’m having trouble sleeping, eating, etc.

Sorry, OP. I had a fed supervisor like that. Two actually. I think some folks thrive on the anxiety they provoke in others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. If you can’t make it from now until January 5 you’re the biggest baby on the planet.

Op here. Nope not kidding. Things are very difficult at work. The micromanagement, toxicity, screaming, backstabbing, and lying are worse than any other job I’ve ever had. And I’ve just had it. I’m so completely done. I don’t trust my bosses, they don’t trust me, there’s no goodwill between us. Screaming matches are not unheard of in our office.

I’m a very non confrontational person and just knowing that someone could come into my office and start yelling at me at any moment has left me so on edge that I’m having trouble sleeping, eating, etc.

I get it. I've been through that. I made a little timer here and every time I felt anxious I'd switch over to that tab and watch the clock tick. Felt like I was in jail. https://www.timeanddate.com/countdown/create

[Anonymous]

OMG, what is wrong with you that you can't make it five weeks?

[Anonymous]

OP you are so hyperbolic and dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, what is wrong with you that you can't make it five weeks?

Op here. For me the biggest struggle is the amount of yelling that my direct supervisor does. He doesn’t just yell and bark orders but he actually gives me a dressing down where he attacks my character, work ethic, intelligence, etc. The total inflexibility with the schedule is also a struggle. They give me so much attitude whenever I have doc appointments for the baby or myself, etc.

I’m in a constant state of anxiety, not knowing when my boss will come to the office or what his mood will be when he’s there. He’s only screamed at me a handful of times but just knowing it could happen at any moment is enough to set me on edge and every time I interact with him I’m usually sweating, heart pounding, dizzy, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, what is wrong with you that you can't make it five weeks?

Op here. For me the biggest struggle is the amount of yelling that my direct supervisor does. He doesn’t just yell and bark orders but he actually gives me a dressing down where he attacks my character, work ethic, intelligence, etc. The total inflexibility with the schedule is also a struggle. They give me so much attitude whenever I have doc appointments for the baby or myself, etc.

I’m in a constant state of anxiety, not knowing when my boss will come to the office or what his mood will be when he’s there. He’s only screamed at me a handful of times but just knowing it could happen at any moment is enough to set me on edge and every time I interact with him I’m usually sweating, heart pounding, dizzy, etc.

Nobody should take that type of abuse. Good for you on leaving. Don't listen to naysayers. Make this month fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally distract yourself during the days listening to music or books. Clock hours to the minute. That said, is there any positive that you can cling to for a few more weeks to get you through?

Op here. The positives are $$ and also knowing that I am extremely capable at my job and they won’t be able to replace me and even if they manage to find SOMEONE, it would take at least a year to train them up because nothing is written down (I’ve raised this as a problem a dozen times over the years but management won’t support me in developing playbooks, SOPs, templates, etc.). They have zero understanding of what I do.

I do have one work friend and I enjoy seeing her.

I mostly enjoy my actual work, but the anxiety of all the yelling and confrontation has left me so on edge that it’s hard to function. This was much less of an issue when we were remote.

I was in the same boat last year.
But I am at a much better place this year!

[Anonymous]

Curious minds want to know what government agency this is. You don’t have to be too specific.

Have you considered filing a complaint (hostile work environment)? What you describe is sickening, and no one should put up with it.

Glad you’re getting out. Keep your eyes on the prize. You’ll be glad you toughed it out until vesting.

[Anonymous]

This does not sound like govt- mandatory party and 5 years sounds like private sector.

[Anonymous]

I am concerned that you do not have a different job yet. Are you financially ok to go without your salary? Also maybe give them notice and they will start leaving you alone.