Barbie movie 'iconic' monologue is BS

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

Yes I can. But I can’t be a football player.

I’m not threatened by the fact someone can be a football player and you should not be threatened that I can “do it all”.

Btw, running a house is not a full time job.

Great! You seem very fulfilled at “doing it all” and extremely satisfied that none of this is an issue for you. That’s wonderful for you.
And I’m not threatened by that.
But I’d think if that were true then this monologue would seem quite silly to you in the first place.

It’s a movie about a plastic doll, of course it’s silly.

But you are misunderstanding the monologue.

I have it all and I’m criticizing. Like you are criticizing my ability to do it all. In your assertion, I must not be doing it all because I work so there is something that you think I’m not doing.

So you are doing exactly what the monologue says.

I was thin and told too thin, then I was a healthy weight and told I needed to lose weight, then I worked and criticized for not “always being home” even if my kid was literally sleeping or in school, and on and on

But I never said you SHOULD (or even COULD) do all those things. YOU did.
You are creating the dichotomy in your own mind. And then complaining about how it’s impossible to have it both ways. (Except something you are still claiming that YOU do it all. Except. You don’t.)

For example, you can’t work outside the home AND be the caregiver for your 3-year old. So you EITHER don’t work during that time OR you outsource the caregiving to someone else.
That isn’t doing it all. Because it’s literally not possible to be two places at once.
Your husband can do it while you go to work. But that’s division of labor, not “doing it all.”


And for some weird reason

You just posted that having a father raise his child is akin to outsourcing… wtf.

DP. Um, no - she didn't say that at all. She correctly called it "division of labor" - when one parent cares for the children while the other goes to work. That's the very opposite of outsourcing. You seem very confused, not to mention triggered.

+1. I also noticed this. I work F/T and division of labor and, more so, outsourcing childcare during working hours, allow me to work full time. I don’t care for my children full time and that’s ok, that’s a choice I’ve made. But I wouldn’t say that I do everything a sahm does because I don’t. They spend an extra 40+ hrs a week in which they can spend time with their kids and take care of their home.
Minimizing this isn’t fair to sahms or working moms as we all have to make compromises and pretending we don’t perpetuates this pressure to do both work and home at 100%. Why would we pretend that this is doable or even a “right” choice?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought it was on point, OP.

Audiences may not have realized it, but the movie's entire goal is to show that Barbieland's matriarchy is just as stifling as the real world's patriarchy. That we have not yet found any way of living as equals, and may never do so. That some minority populations (Allan, weird Barbie, etc) will never find their place.

The conclusion is quite dark, actually, but because it's all wrapped in pink and smiles, a lot of people missed it.

I found this so obvious and the fact so many missed the point just shows how ignorant most are.

Your take is very condescending and very dismissive...You are not the main character and we are not all stupid because we have different takes on this an other things

Get over yourself. You are not as clever as you think.

Oh, you mean your “alternative” takes?

I meant what I said, gaslighter

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

Yes I can. But I can’t be a football player.

I’m not threatened by the fact someone can be a football player and you should not be threatened that I can “do it all”.

Btw, running a house is not a full time job.

Great! You seem very fulfilled at “doing it all” and extremely satisfied that none of this is an issue for you. That’s wonderful for you.
And I’m not threatened by that.
But I’d think if that were true then this monologue would seem quite silly to you in the first place.

It’s a movie about a plastic doll, of course it’s silly.

But you are misunderstanding the monologue.

I have it all and I’m criticizing. Like you are criticizing my ability to do it all. In your assertion, I must not be doing it all because I work so there is something that you think I’m not doing.

So you are doing exactly what the monologue says.

I was thin and told too thin, then I was a healthy weight and told I needed to lose weight, then I worked and criticized for not “always being home” even if my kid was literally sleeping or in school, and on and on

But I never said you SHOULD (or even COULD) do all those things. YOU did.
You are creating the dichotomy in your own mind. And then complaining about how it’s impossible to have it both ways. (Except something you are still claiming that YOU do it all. Except. You don’t.)

For example, you can’t work outside the home AND be the caregiver for your 3-year old. So you EITHER don’t work during that time OR you outsource the caregiving to someone else.
That isn’t doing it all. Because it’s literally not possible to be two places at once.
Your husband can do it while you go to work. But that’s division of labor, not “doing it all.”


And for some weird reason

You just posted that having a father raise his child is akin to outsourcing… wtf.

DP. Um, no - she didn't say that at all. She correctly called it "division of labor" - when one parent cares for the children while the other goes to work. That's the very opposite of outsourcing. You seem very confused, not to mention triggered.

+1. I also noticed this. I work F/T and division of labor and, more so, outsourcing childcare during working hours, allow me to work full time. I don’t care for my children full time and that’s ok, that’s a choice I’ve made. But I wouldn’t say that I do everything a sahm does because I don’t. They spend an extra 40+ hrs a week in which they can spend time with their kids and take care of their home.
Minimizing this isn’t fair to sahms or working moms as we all have to make compromises and pretending we don’t perpetuates this pressure to do both work and home at 100%. Why would we pretend that this is doable or even a “right” choice?

Depends.

I’m not sure SAHM’s have 40+ extra hours for example .., school aged kids, kids who nap or go to preschool. If a SAHM goes to a gym with a daycare are they not caring for their kids.

I have a friend who is a SAHM, she goes to the gym every morning and her H does morning routine, I’d say she does it all… you’d say she doesn’t.

Why?

What you’ve bought into is that you’re not doing it all if you spend one second away from your child.

That’s the lie you’ve bought into.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

Yes I can. But I can’t be a football player.

I’m not threatened by the fact someone can be a football player and you should not be threatened that I can “do it all”.

Btw, running a house is not a full time job.

Great! You seem very fulfilled at “doing it all” and extremely satisfied that none of this is an issue for you. That’s wonderful for you.
And I’m not threatened by that.
But I’d think if that were true then this monologue would seem quite silly to you in the first place.

It’s a movie about a plastic doll, of course it’s silly.

But you are misunderstanding the monologue.

I have it all and I’m criticizing. Like you are criticizing my ability to do it all. In your assertion, I must not be doing it all because I work so there is something that you think I’m not doing.

So you are doing exactly what the monologue says.

I was thin and told too thin, then I was a healthy weight and told I needed to lose weight, then I worked and criticized for not “always being home” even if my kid was literally sleeping or in school, and on and on

But I never said you SHOULD (or even COULD) do all those things. YOU did.
You are creating the dichotomy in your own mind. And then complaining about how it’s impossible to have it both ways. (Except something you are still claiming that YOU do it all. Except. You don’t.)

For example, you can’t work outside the home AND be the caregiver for your 3-year old. So you EITHER don’t work during that time OR you outsource the caregiving to someone else.
That isn’t doing it all. Because it’s literally not possible to be two places at once.
Your husband can do it while you go to work. But that’s division of labor, not “doing it all.”


And for some weird reason

You just posted that having a father raise his child is akin to outsourcing… wtf.

DP. Um, no - she didn't say that at all. She correctly called it "division of labor" - when one parent cares for the children while the other goes to work. That's the very opposite of outsourcing. You seem very confused, not to mention triggered.

+1. I also noticed this. I work F/T and division of labor and, more so, outsourcing childcare during working hours, allow me to work full time. I don’t care for my children full time and that’s ok, that’s a choice I’ve made. But I wouldn’t say that I do everything a sahm does because I don’t. They spend an extra 40+ hrs a week in which they can spend time with their kids and take care of their home.
Minimizing this isn’t fair to sahms or working moms as we all have to make compromises and pretending we don’t perpetuates this pressure to do both work and home at 100%. Why would we pretend that this is doable or even a “right” choice?

Depends.

I’m not sure SAHM’s have 40+ extra hours for example .., school aged kids, kids who nap or go to preschool. If a SAHM goes to a gym with a daycare are they not caring for their kids.

I have a friend who is a SAHM, she goes to the gym every morning and her H does morning routine, I’d say she does it all… you’d say she doesn’t.

Why?

What you’ve bought into is that you’re not doing it all if you spend one second away from your child.

That’s the lie you’ve bought into.

I think you may have misunderstood, I am not saying that spending a second away from your child means that you don’t care for them I’m saying that you are either your child’s primary caretaker during the week or you are not. Neither choice is better in every instance and no one should feel like they have to do everything all the time as that would be totally impossible and unreasonable. I don’t think your friend or you or me is doing It All. Hopefully we are all doing what’s working for us and our families.

The lie is that doing it all is possible. We should pretend to or feel shame that we don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

I disagree with you on this. We can leave it at that.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

I disagree with you on this. We can leave it at that.

You can leave it at that, but I don’t have to.

You’ve been socialized to believe this load of crap and I’m not doing it. And by the way, since this thread is about Barbie, and the monologue, she’s talking about you, not me.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

I disagree with you on this. We can leave it at that.

You can leave it at that, but I don’t have to.

You’ve been socialized to believe this load of crap and I’m not doing it. And by the way, since this thread is about Barbie, and the monologue, she’s talking about you, not me.

You have been all over this thread begging for strangers to praise you and how amazing you are. Why is that? What exactly is it that you are getting out of this, or hope to get of this? Do you want a virtual gold star, or a cookie? Maybe a trophy?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

I disagree with you on this. We can leave it at that.

You can leave it at that, but I don’t have to.

You’ve been socialized to believe this load of crap and I’m not doing it. And by the way, since this thread is about Barbie, and the monologue, she’s talking about you, not me.

You have been all over this thread begging for strangers to praise you and how amazing you are. Why is that? What exactly is it that you are getting out of this, or hope to get of this? Do you want a virtual gold star, or a cookie? Maybe a trophy?

Mai
You can’t “leave it at that”. What is that about.

I have not been “all over this thread” because I just found it today.

I actually don’t think what I do is amazing, what has happened in your life that that you take away?

My hope is women understand that they’re doing everything and they shouldn’t let people tell them they’re not. Stop minimizing women.

I don’t need any more trophies. And I don’t eat cookies, put some Brie and bread sounds good.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't like the monologue either especially the beginning..."it's literally impossible to be a woman"

It's not impossible. I am one everyday. So much of it was the helpless, victim role, but women never acknowledge how we feed into it especially things like beauty standards, plastic surgery, etc. Women put that pressure on themselves.

Did you never study even a little feminism? I mean, The Beauty Myth has many flaws but it covered this ground 30 years ago -- and was required reading in my high school in the 90s.

I agree with a PP who thought the movie was pretty dark (though fun!) and the monologue is not really the point of the story. I wouldn't be shocked if it was a late addition.

I think it is a generational thing. As a Boomer, I thought the monologue was directed to Gen X women. My Gen X friends found the monologue to be very moving and touching, while my Boomer friends and I thought, basically, "No sh!t, Sherlock", and "Didn't we figure this out 50 years ago?"

That’s an interesting take.
I’m a GenX-er and I let out an audible laugh at this monologue because to me, it feeds right into what the boomers were told would happen (usually by men who were not pleased with the whole “women in the workplace” thing). “You won’t like it….” “You can’t do it ALL”, “We have division of labor in a household for a reason”, “running a home is a full-time job! You can’t expect to work 8-10 hours a day and come home with energy left over to do all of the following: grocery shop, cook, do laundry, clean, take care of the kids/help with homework, volunteer in the community/school…you’ll hate it!”
But our moms said “no, no—we got this! Watch us!”

But it turns out the nay-sayers weren’t wrong. At all.

As evidenced by the monologue.

I chose to stay at home and pour all my energy into the full-time job there. And I don’t feel that “expectation” that America Ferrera ranted about.
It honestly comes off as someone whining about getting what you signed up for!

I think the “you can’t do it all” is just BS to make people who can’t work and take care of their family and feel better.

So in other words—you CAN do it all…you just need the recognition of being a martyr for it, righ?
That’s what the monologue is. It’s double-speak. “Don’t you dare tell me I can’t do it all”—that’s BS…
“But now I will complain about how miserable it makes me to do so and how terrible “the world” is to me for putting these “impossible expectations” on me.”

Tiresome.

BINGO.

No what it says is women are doing it all but they are told they are not.

If you skinny your too skinny, if your healthy your not skinny enough….

And if you’re doing it all… you are told u r not because… you don’t slaughter your own meat.

No one is doing “it all”. A lot of people are doing the best they can and the best case scenario is that they are able to do what is fulfilling for them, personally. But that’s not “it all”.

You really allowed people to minimize your life and sell you a load of crap.

Somebody is making $200,000 a year, is home at 4 o’clock when their kids get home from school, has a husband who helps with morning routine, has time to work out, travel, have hobbies, due dates with their husband on the weekend… they are doing it all.

You need to ask yourself why you’ve bought into this crap that they aren’t.

I disagree with you on this. We can leave it at that.

You can leave it at that, but I don’t have to.

You’ve been socialized to believe this load of crap and I’m not doing it. And by the way, since this thread is about Barbie, and the monologue, she’s talking about you, not me.

You have been all over this thread begging for strangers to praise you and how amazing you are. Why is that? What exactly is it that you are getting out of this, or hope to get of this? Do you want a virtual gold star, or a cookie? Maybe a trophy?

Mai
You can’t “leave it at that”. What is that about.

I have not been “all over this thread” because I just found it today.

I actually don’t think what I do is amazing, what has happened in your life that that you take away?

My hope is women understand that they’re doing everything and they shouldn’t let people tell them they’re not. Stop minimizing women.

I don’t need any more trophies. And I don’t eat cookies, put some Brie and bread sounds good.

Pp you are replying to here is a different poster. Hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

I agree op.

I think a bunch of those individual statements aren’t even true.

Like, when have I ever answered for men’s bad behavior? Haven’t done that!!

A bunch of other things too, but I don’t have time to go back and refute them all.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree op.

I think a bunch of those individual statements aren’t even true.

Like, when have I ever answered for men’s bad behavior? Haven’t done that!!

A bunch of other things too, but I don’t have time to go back and refute them all.

Me again: “You have to never get old”

That is happening all around us all the time.

No one tells my mom or mil they are terrible people for growing old. They’re awesome and their character and actions shine through. People love them even more as they age.

If you read the monologue again, it sounds like this is Greta’s letter to Hollywood. But that’s Hollywood. She can always get out of there, or deal with the crap.

Outside of certain arenas, people and women are so much more free.