Do all men cheat?

[Anonymous]

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I never thought my stbx would and there were no hours unaccounted for. We still had regular sex and laughed and socialized together. He still planned romantic things. Together 20 years. I was absolutely floored and blind-sided when I found out he had a no-strings arrangement with a married woman once a month. His friends and family were shocked.

How do you recover any faith in men or a long term relationship after something like this?

Same here. I'd have literally bet our house or kids lives he wasn't cheating. So sorry it happened to you too.

Never bet your kids’ lives on anything.

I’m sorry this happened to you both. :/

My DH is amazing and very moral but who knows what life has in store… so far so good.

[Anonymous]

I stand by my 20-60-20 rule.

20% of men are completely unfaithful and cheat as rampantly as possible.

60% of men are generally faithful but have a strong desire to sleep with other women. Whether they remain completely faithful depends on how well their marriage is going combined with an opportunity to stray.

20% of men will never cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low T, overweight, unattractive, Beta-types, unsuccessful/no $ are NOT likely to cheat.

Very good-looking, fit, successful/$$$ are hit on constantly by women and when they are married they become even more desirable to gold-diggers. More likely to cheat, especially in very long marriages- no matter if they are happy or not.

It’s really an opportunity game.

No the ugly ones cheat too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do all men cheat given an opportunity? If not how do you find one that won’t and be sure that you have found one that won’t?

The only guarantees you have in life are death and taxes.

“Best ways to meet a decent potential partner is your faith community or volunteer groups.” Think about that.

[Anonymous]

He lies, cheats and has fungus on his feet.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

Umm. 60s?!? They get crepey skin. Boobs sag. Varicose veins pop up. Saggy knees. Muscle loss, loose belly skin.

People are so offended by the thought of 60 year old women having sex and being attractive, and I’m here for it!!!

My 74 year old mother in law gets hit on by handymen or other workers who come through my house while she’s babysitting the grandkids.

You don’t like their power, I get it. But that’s not their problem, it’s yours.

It’s gross they are having AFFAIRS. At 60, wtf? Why? There aren’t even kids in the house anymore.

[Anonymous]

I mean, no, not all men cheat. My wife is my queen and I have no desire to cheat on her and never will. I enjoy being monogamous. Some people - men and women - cheat, but many do not. Among my friends, mostly middle-aged dads like me, only one has cheated as far as I know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

Two significant things which cause cheating: cutting off sex, and making the man feel insecure in the relationship.

I disagree.

I think one thing causes cheating - a lack of integrity.

If you are unhappy with sexual frequency or the relationship, deal with that. If necessary, get a divorce (or break up if not married), and then have as much sex as you want.

Why on earth would somebody get a divorce over something trivial like being unhappy with marital sex? Since sex is unimportant to your partner, there is no reason for her/him to care when you go do that unimportant thing elsewhere. If you don't want sex AND you are bothered by the idea if your spouse getting that elsewhere, then it's on YOU to initiate the divorce since YOU are the abnormal sexless person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stand by my 20-60-20 rule.

20% of men are completely unfaithful and cheat as rampantly as possible.

60% of men are generally faithful but have a strong desire to sleep with other women. Whether they remain completely faithful depends on how well their marriage is going combined with an opportunity to stray.

20% of men will never cheat.

Somewhere in this percentage is another group of men who are either asexual and not interested in sex and/or closeted gay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do all men cheat given an opportunity? If not how do you find one that won’t and be sure that you have found one that won’t?

The only guarantees you have in life are death and taxes.

“Best ways to meet a decent potential partner is your faith community or volunteer groups.” Think about that.

Best way for me to meet a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Not all guys cheat. Find a truly good person with morals, and they will not cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all guys cheat. Find a truly good person with morals, and they will not cheat.

Unfortunately with all the temptation these days even moral men are tempted too much. Not saying they all will but for instance all the people in my divorce care were married to devout people. Everyone is moral till they aren’t.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. And 3/4 of them had spouses who cheated on them.

[Anonymous]

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I never thought my stbx would and there were no hours unaccounted for. We still had regular sex and laughed and socialized together. He still planned romantic things. Together 20 years. I was absolutely floored and blind-sided when I found out he had a no-strings arrangement with a married woman once a month. His friends and family were shocked.

How do you recover any faith in men or a long term relationship after something like this?

I never recovered. Lost faith/trust in everyone and everything after that monumental blindside in 25-year relationship.

This is what the chump lady website is all about. How to get yourself to forgive. Feel vulnerable again and be ok to leave if it happens again to you.

Alternatively you could have some fun yourself. Women are fools for not living like men. Don’t quit your job when you have kids and have great sex when there’s an opportunity.

[Anonymous]

The Chump lady website is NOT about forgiveness, it is all about kicking cheaters to the curb.