Do all men cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stand by my 20-60-20 rule.

20% of men are completely unfaithful and cheat as rampantly as possible.

60% of men are generally faithful but have a strong desire to sleep with other women. Whether they remain completely faithful depends on how well their marriage is going combined with an opportunity to stray.

20% of men will never cheat.

I am a guy and I think this is about right. I am probably in the 60%. I have not, and don't plan, on cheating because I have good marriage with a beautiful wife. But I recognize I biologically want to have sex with as many attractive women as possible. I also admit that if I did not have a good sex life with my wife, it would be hard to resist cheating in a sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No.

Two significant things which cause cheating: cutting off sex, and making the man feel insecure in the relationship.

I disagree.

I think one thing causes cheating - a lack of integrity.

If you are unhappy with sexual frequency or the relationship, deal with that. If necessary, get a divorce (or break up if not married), and then have as much sex as you want.

Why on earth would somebody get a divorce over something trivial like being unhappy with marital sex? Since sex is unimportant to your partner, there is no reason for her/him to care when you go do that unimportant thing elsewhere. If you don't want sex AND you are bothered by the idea if your spouse getting that elsewhere, then it's on YOU to initiate the divorce since YOU are the abnormal sexless person.

If you really believe what you write then there’s no problem telling your wife. Cheating has to do with trust as well.

[Anonymous]

How many men would cheat if they had the opportunity to do so (no chance of rejection ) with an attractive coworker 5-10 years younger?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t and I had the opportunity, more than once, when I was young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many men would cheat if they had the opportunity to do so (no chance of rejection ) with an attractive coworker 5-10 years younger?

I wouldn’t, but at my attractiveness level I know there’s no chance of this happening!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many men would cheat if they had the opportunity to do so (no chance of rejection ) with an attractive coworker 5-10 years younger?

Why would I consider screwing up my marriage and my job all at once?

Some people are into self sabotage. I am not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Around 60% of all men cheat and the rest just don’t have the opportunity.

I’m in the 40% and I’ll choose to chalk it up to superior values/self control. You’re welcome to call that lack of opportunity.

Lol exactly. I haven’t had the opportunity because I haven’t entertained the opportunity being created.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Most outgrow it eventually, but they all do it at some point.

This is the correct answer. Seriously.

I am 48 and reasonably attractive man. Almost all men I know have cheated at some point. That doesn't mean "affair and other woman." It could be just ONS at a conference or kissing your co-worker or less than a full blown affair.

Now, at 48, most of us have settled down and actually just hang out.

All of that being said, of course not ALL men cheat. Some are faithful and would never, ever cheat. I think that is about 25% of men.

+1. This is exactly right. Most men cheat, stray, etc., when younger, and then you grow up.

Career, kids, other responsibilities crowd out a bunch of the time and energy you used to spend on activities that could lead to cheating. You have less drive (not none, obviously, just less than a 24 year old). You hopefully have been through enough in life to think more about consequences and care more about potential impact on other people (spouse included) and other aspects of your life. And you just don’t need the headache honestly.

I think the “never cheated” number is way below 25%, though.

Not true. Most men cheat midlife. Look at the statistics. They are much less likely to cheat early in marriage. It’s later in life. Women are the opposite. They cheat earlier. 30s they now cheat on rates higher than men.

LoOk aT tHE sTaTiSTicS!!! :eyeroll:

[Anonymous]

No, they don’t. I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t and I had the opportunity, more than once, when I was young.

Was this in the Niagara Falls region?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not all guys cheat. Find a truly good person with morals, and they will not cheat.

Unfortunately with all the temptation these days even moral men are tempted too much. Not saying they all will but for instance all the people in my divorce care were married to devout people. Everyone is moral till they aren’t.

When you say devout, I am assuming you mean they are devout Christian’s or Jews or whatever religion. Devout has nothing to do with having morals. Too many devout people hide behind their religions to commit immoral acts. Someone who has good morals will not cheat. Someone who is devout I wouldn’t trust by virtue of the fact they are devout.

[Anonymous]

Forget about the percentages for a second.

Would you agree that people have a variety of needs or desires? If yes, then would you also agree that it is rather unusual for one person to be able to satisfy all of another person’s needs or desires over years & years?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

Just watch any Lifetime movie these days.

When confronted by another Female, then being seduced by her the men ALWAYS give in to seduction.
Not saying that Lifetime movies are actual portrayals of men but who would believe a married man being seduced by another woman then denying her.

That just wouldn’t be believable since that would never happen in real life.

Those that claim that they have never cheated nor would ever cheat just have not had the chance to do so.
Lol.

How many men, if given the opportunity to be w/another woman…..someone they were physically attracted to….and could do so w/out getting caught…..would do so in a heartbeat??!

Crickets 🦗

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

Just watch any Lifetime movie these days.

When confronted by another Female, then being seduced by her the men ALWAYS give in to seduction.
Not saying that Lifetime movies are actual portrayals of men but who would believe a married man being seduced by another woman then denying her.

That just wouldn’t be believable since that would never happen in real life.

Those that claim that they have never cheated nor would ever cheat just have not had the chance to do so.
Lol.

How many men, if given the opportunity to be w/another woman…..someone they were physically attracted to….and could do so w/out getting caught…..would do so in a heartbeat??!

Crickets 🦗

Uhh no. Turn off lifetime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forget about the percentages for a second.

Would you agree that people have a variety of needs or desires? If yes, then would you also agree that it is rather unusual for one person to be able to satisfy all of another person’s needs or desires over years & years?

You don’t get five different parents yet somehow you have other parental influences and friend influences. The person you marry isn’t supposed to satisfy all your needs and desires. You are responsible for this while working in the confines of society and the needs and wants of others around you. It was established to give you a sex partner for procreation and taking care of children and to allow the children to have a family to grow up in and inherit. You must be referring to limiting sexual needs. Yes people have been able to limit their sexual needs to one person in their life. For some that is harder than others.