Do all men cheat?

[Anonymous]

^ some people don’t take well to being lied to. That pp said an arrangement was in place so we aren’t talking a one-off.

And this anonymous poster you claim to know? She sounds right. A guy bragging to his friends about cheating on his spouse multiple times is disrespectful and degrading to his wife. No need to go banging and telling. The bragging about geo g a dishonest sh@t is a serious character flaw.

The web of lies people tell to get away with it and the needed gaslighting do real damage. It messes with someone’s head. Honesty, character and integrity are important to many.

[Anonymous]

Chump lady actually isn’t about forgiveness. She’s about kicking the cheater to the curb. You seem to have her confused with affair-sympathist Esther Perel.

[Anonymous]

I'm a happily married man for 18 years and never considered cheating and never will. I would be willing to bet there are a ton of men just like me, probably the majority of US husbands. Sorry to be boring and not fit the DCUM/Lifetime profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a happily married man for 18 years and never considered cheating and never will. I would be willing to bet there are a ton of men just like me, probably the majority of US husbands. Sorry to be boring and not fit the DCUM/Lifetime profile.

+1
29+ years here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just wanted to comment from another perspective.

I am 52 and never married - there are a variety of reasons why I have avoided marriage but one of the primary reasons was my realization from a very early age how rampant infidelity is at least among men- I cannot speak for women because I have never cheated in a committed relationship.

But as a pretty enough girl who was ‘built like a brick sh*thouse’ as my leering father used to say, I got hit on by men A LOT from age 14 until very recently when health issues caused a very significant weight gain. I can’t even remember all the times I was being hit on by married or committed men - I’m sure many who I thought were single were not. I only ever slept with one man I knew to be married - but only because I’d already slept with him a couple of times before he confessed his marital status and I very briefly faltered in my otherwise solid morality on the issue, but broke it off within weeks because I honestly could not sleep for thinking of his wife and children. This is doubtless because I saw my mother emotionally destroyed by my father’s repeated infidelity in their marriage.

Anyway so yeah, a lot of men are cheating. The stats vary so I don’t believe them I just trust my own experience. And I did not ever accept any of the proposals I got because I saw how this can destroy a woman’s psyche along with the family’s dynamic and I’d seen firsthand that the odds of a good sexy guy staying faithful were way too low for my liking, I am a risk averse person.

Oh I also forgot I spent a summer working weddings at a lovely Maine resort and I walked in on infidelity happening, on the wedding reception day, in closets and bathrooms alike.

In fairness once it was the bride doing a groomsman.

It sounds like your dad's infidelity really did a number on you. This is tragic. In my observation people whose childhoods were scarred by their parents' infidelity later attract unfaithful people because they feel familiar with something about these individuals, and/or they expect it so they find it. Many many people do not give these guys the chance based on nightie more than a vibe picked up while dating. Men seem to have a sixth sense for women who are vulnerable to cheaters.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just wanted to comment from another perspective.

I am 52 and never married - there are a variety of reasons why I have avoided marriage but one of the primary reasons was my realization from a very early age how rampant infidelity is at least among men- I cannot speak for women because I have never cheated in a committed relationship.

But as a pretty enough girl who was ‘built like a brick sh*thouse’ as my leering father used to say, I got hit on by men A LOT from age 14 until very recently when health issues caused a very significant weight gain. I can’t even remember all the times I was being hit on by married or committed men - I’m sure many who I thought were single were not. I only ever slept with one man I knew to be married - but only because I’d already slept with him a couple of times before he confessed his marital status and I very briefly faltered in my otherwise solid morality on the issue, but broke it off within weeks because I honestly could not sleep for thinking of his wife and children. This is doubtless because I saw my mother emotionally destroyed by my father’s repeated infidelity in their marriage.

Anyway so yeah, a lot of men are cheating. The stats vary so I don’t believe them I just trust my own experience. And I did not ever accept any of the proposals I got because I saw how this can destroy a woman’s psyche along with the family’s dynamic and I’d seen firsthand that the odds of a good sexy guy staying faithful were way too low for my liking, I am a risk averse person.

Oh I also forgot I spent a summer working weddings at a lovely Maine resort and I walked in on infidelity happening, on the wedding reception day, in closets and bathrooms alike.

In fairness once it was the bride doing a groomsman.

It sounds like your dad's infidelity really did a number on you. This is tragic. In my observation people whose childhoods were scarred by their parents' infidelity later attract unfaithful people because they feel familiar with something about these individuals, and/or they expect it so they find it. Many many people do not give these guys the chance based on nightie more than a vibe picked up while dating. Men seem to have a sixth sense for women who are vulnerable to cheaters.

Children of cheaters are more likely to cheat as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Around 60% of all men cheat and the rest just don’t have the opportunity.

I’m in the 40% and I’ll choose to chalk it up to superior values/self control. You’re welcome to call that lack of opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

Umm. 60s?!? They get crepey skin. Boobs sag. Varicose veins pop up. Saggy knees. Muscle loss, loose belly skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I never thought my stbx would and there were no hours unaccounted for. We still had regular sex and laughed and socialized together. He still planned romantic things. Together 20 years. I was absolutely floored and blind-sided when I found out he had a no-strings arrangement with a married woman once a month. His friends and family were shocked.

How do you recover any faith in men or a long term relationship after something like this?
Same here. I'd have literally bet our house or kids lives he wasn't cheating. So sorry it happened to you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

Umm. 60s?!? They get crepey skin. Boobs sag. Varicose veins pop up. Saggy knees. Muscle loss, loose belly skin.

You think the man they are with is some Adonis? They can still have relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

Umm. 60s?!? They get crepey skin. Boobs sag. Varicose veins pop up. Saggy knees. Muscle loss, loose belly skin.

People are so offended by the thought of 60 year old women having sex and being attractive, and I’m here for it!!!

My 74 year old mother in law gets hit on by handymen or other workers who come through my house while she’s babysitting the grandkids.

You don’t like their power, I get it. But that’s not their problem, it’s yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ who is banging a 60-year old woman in an affair??? What man?

Women's bodies do not age the way their faces, necks and hands do.

Umm. 60s?!? They get crepey skin. Boobs sag. Varicose veins pop up. Saggy knees. Muscle loss, loose belly skin.

Yep. And you’ll be there too someday. Laugh it up now.

[Anonymous]

I cheated on the woman I am now married to when we were dating. I thought I had found someone better, but it didn’t take me long to realize that I was wrong.

I would never, ever cheat on my wife. It was the dumbest thing I ever did to cheat on her when we were dating and I never want to hurt her like that again. We’ve been married more than 25 years and I have never cheated on her in that time and I never will. She just means too much to me for me to risk losing her.