Drinks with female colleague

Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.


Agree. Would never do anything inappropriate, but it is relaxing in that it's a break from family responsibilities. I don't get moms who complain about travel or have "mom guilt". That being said I wouldn't do it constantly.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Drinks with more than one business associate is okay.

Drinks with one business associate of the opposite sex is not okay.



I mean, this is nuts. A large part of my job is taking strange men out to dinner and drinks. If I couldn’t do that, I couldn’t do my job.
Anonymous
thats how my affair started ..drinks with my secretary who was married & 10 years younger than me. it lasted 15 years
Anonymous
Haven’t any of you been on work travel or something with a guy and they say something like “I bet everyone thinks we are on a date” or something creepy like that? I had this happen one time when I was traveling with an older male colleague who was clearly about to have mid life crisis and it made me realize that sometimes men are having a weird little fantasy that you aren’t even aware of and don’t want to participate in.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Haven’t any of you been on work travel or something with a guy and they say something like “I bet everyone thinks we are on a date” or something creepy like that? I had this happen one time when I was traveling with an older male colleague who was clearly about to have mid life crisis and it made me realize that sometimes men are having a weird little fantasy that you aren’t even aware of and don’t want to participate in.

I travel with mostly men. It does sometimes feel like a date when we are at a nice restaurant.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.


Agree. Would never do anything inappropriate, but it is relaxing in that it's a break from family responsibilities. I don't get moms who complain about travel or have "mom guilt". That being said I wouldn't do it constantly.


Some parent love their kids. It would break my heart to be away from them.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.


Agree. Would never do anything inappropriate, but it is relaxing in that it's a break from family responsibilities. I don't get moms who complain about travel or have "mom guilt". That being said I wouldn't do it constantly.


Some parent love their kids. It would break my heart to be away from them.


And this is how we smother children. As SAHM, I see no problem with someone enjoying a different aspect of their life other than being a 24/7 on-call mom.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.


Agree. Would never do anything inappropriate, but it is relaxing in that it's a break from family responsibilities. I don't get moms who complain about travel or have "mom guilt". That being said I wouldn't do it constantly.


Some parent love their kids. It would break my heart to be away from them.


And this is how we smother children. As SAHM, I see no problem with someone enjoying a different aspect of their life other than being a 24/7 on-call mom.


I don't know why people like you have kids. Poor kids...

- np
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.



I mean I agree! And maybe I’d bring a vibrator or even pick up a rando at the bar but seeing my coworker naked and then having to deal with that does not sound appealing.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Haven’t any of you been on work travel or something with a guy and they say something like “I bet everyone thinks we are on a date” or something creepy like that? I had this happen one time when I was traveling with an older male colleague who was clearly about to have mid life crisis and it made me realize that sometimes men are having a weird little fantasy that you aren’t even aware of and don’t want to participate in.

I travel with mostly men. It does sometimes feel like a date when we are at a nice restaurant.


I feel like it does feel like a date but that’s just the awkward intimacy of business travel.

I had one male colleague I traveled with so much that I learned to schedule 20 minutes between breakfast and departure so he could disappear back to his room to poop.

We had a lot of “date” dinners but did not have sex, lol.
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I on a business trip at this moment and just got back to my room after dinner and drinks with the male coworker I am traveling with.

We sat next to each other on the flight, drove to our hotel, went to dinner and had two drinks at the bar. We have spent way more than two hrs alone, nothing happening there.



If he is attractive and you are a 5 or better give it time. Especially if you both have kids and all the grind that brings along. Out away from responsibilities, dinner, drinks………..


I don’t understand this. What could be less sexy than business travel? After a day on planes and meeting with clients, I just want to be alone in a dark cold room as long as possible before I have to get up and do it again.

I personally feel a lot more like a woman when I’m not mothering.


Business travel is so fun, company is paying for everything and you are having fun with zero home responsibilities.


Agree. Would never do anything inappropriate, but it is relaxing in that it's a break from family responsibilities. I don't get moms who complain about travel or have "mom guilt". That being said I wouldn't do it constantly.


Some parent love their kids. It would break my heart to be away from them.


And this is how we smother children. As SAHM, I see no problem with someone enjoying a different aspect of their life other than being a 24/7 on-call mom.


I don't know why people like you have kids. Poor kids...

- np


A lot of women who become hyper-obsessed with being mom end up divorced. Who wants to be married to a woman who is a one trick pony? Plenty of women (SAHM/WOHM) seem to be capable of doing things on occasion that don’t involve their children. Most people call that HEALTHY.

I feel sorry for children who have parents constantly hovering. Hovering doesn’t equal love and is often an indicator of an unhealthy attachment.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Haven’t any of you been on work travel or something with a guy and they say something like “I bet everyone thinks we are on a date” or something creepy like that? I had this happen one time when I was traveling with an older male colleague who was clearly about to have mid life crisis and it made me realize that sometimes men are having a weird little fantasy that you aren’t even aware of and don’t want to participate in.

I travel with mostly men. It does sometimes feel like a date when we are at a nice restaurant.


I feel like it does feel like a date but that’s just the awkward intimacy of business travel.

I had one male colleague I traveled with so much that I learned to schedule 20 minutes between breakfast and departure so he could disappear back to his room to poop.

We had a lot of “date” dinners but did not have sex, lol.


Ah yes, we do get so close and sometimes know a bit too much about each other. My male coworker once ran to cvs to buy me tampons when I unexpectedly got my period. I have taken care of a coworker when he got sick while on a business trip. We are all really close friends now after spending so many days on the road together.
Anonymous
Generally speaking, no. My husband has a lot of female work friends (and other friends as well) that he grabs dinner with, and I don't go. I don't tend to be jealous and we are pretty independent people. Does kind of depend on who it was, though.
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