For those of you whose parents divorced when you were 20+, if one of your parents started a second

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

Same! Vasectomies all the way!

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

How do you know this? Even it is the case, it is the father’s life and money. He does what he wants, he does now owe his adult child anything.

He doesn’t owe a grown woman anything either. He should be able to do with his money what he wants. So if that is give it to his kids, good for him.

All these women marrying to get the money is sick and pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

Get over it..your money lol ? ? Greedy. If you weren't such a greedy cow you would be married.
second wife here just read this to my DH. He says if you women on this thread weren't such greedy c*ws you would probably still be married

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

So that she will take care of him, because he is old. Obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

Get over it..your money lol ? ? Greedy. If you weren't such a greedy cow you would be married.
second wife here just read this to my DH. He says if you women on this thread weren't such greedy c*ws you would probably still be married

That’s why our money always went into a family trust because money grubbing women like you. Not sure why you want my money. Your H sound like a winner, he wants his ex wife to fund his new wife, pathetic. Get a job, build your own trust.

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

So that she will take care of him, because he is old. Obviously.

Not obviously.

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

How do you know this? Even it is the case, it is the father’s life and money. He does what he wants, he does now owe his adult child anything.

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Ask yourself how you would like your children to be treated, if their father is still alive when they are adults. Ignored in favor of a new family? Would you remarry and have more kids and ignore your older children? I doubt it. But somehow it's okay for your DH to do it to his.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

Get over it..your money lol ? ? Greedy. If you weren't such a greedy cow you would be married.
second wife here just read this to my DH. He says if you women on this thread weren't such greedy c*ws you would probably still be married

That’s why our money always went into a family trust because money grubbing women like you. Not sure why you want my money. Your H sound like a winner, he wants his ex wife to fund his new wife, pathetic. Get a job, build your own trust.

I have a job idiot do you not read. It's your crazy as* groveling to us for money because oh no alimony and child support not taking you far. I have put all my cash earnt on my own into a trust for my kids. So your greedy as* doesn't drain me to pay for your kids weddings because your benefit check won't cover it

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The adult child should be thinking about how to work hard to be financially independent, instead of thinking about getting money from parents without hard work. Grow up!

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

How do you know this? Even it is the case, it is the father’s life and money. He does what he wants, he does now owe his adult child anything.

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Ask yourself how you would like your children to be treated, if their father is still alive when they are adults. Ignored in favor of a new family? Would you remarry and have more kids and ignore your older children? I doubt it. But somehow it's okay for your DH to do it to his.

Why do adult children need an inheritance. Younger children I understand

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Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter as you are grown? I am the second wife. We have kids and they are 20 years from the youngest and no big deal. Kids were adults so it did not impact their lives.

Happened to me. My Dad died in his 50s leaving a young bereft child. Stepmom and child moved coasts and lost so much family time with sibling. Still chat to stepMom. Just life can surprise you, embrace the baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Always feel relieved that my husband and I both agreed to get fixed when we had our last kid. No matter what happens our kids will not be second fiddle.

My spouse and I agree our two kids are the only ones we want. And it’s laughable to us the men that start an entirely family once their first set of kids reach college. Ohmygod hell no! We are 3 years to empty nest and have all kinds of trips and fun plans lined up. He also got a vasectomy.

Blended family drama - no thanks. And having to go back to preschool, and teacher conferences and kids sports and busy weekends and worry …no way!

So, you think its ok women move on and get remarried and have more kids but men should just stay divorced and hand over their entire check to their ex?

Not to their ex, to their kids. The kids should not have their dads estate diluted by your kids.

No one is entitled to inheritance.

Exactly why the 2nd wife should not expect to get it.

Who says we want it?

Good we agree, you should not get it.

You should also start working stop collecting alimony and start saving for your kids inheritance. Instead of using men as a pay check

I actually have always made more money than my ex. Our money is in a trust and my ex can’t get it out without my say so.

I don’t think he’s stupid enough to take on a dependent 2nd wife.

I suspect if he’s stupid enough to remarry she wouldn’t be a slug who expected money from my family trust.

Good God! Second wives are slugs are they lol i have a career and don't take a dime from DH.
Seems to me from this thread these poor men WERE
Married to 'slugs' and now their baby slugs are crying about inheritance

Glad we agree his inheritance goes to his kids when he dies since you are not a slug and you don’t need it.

Exactly goes to all kids...not just your greedy baby slugs crying about daddy's money

You and he can create an inheritance if you want for your slug. My kids get all the money in our trust during our marriage.

Come on slug I had him during the low earning years… you can do this without your slug getting our money.

There was no money during the marriage. If she wanted his money, she shouldn't have cheated and stayed married to him. Simple.

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Anonymous wrote:The greed and entitlement on this thread is so gross. I hope it’s the same poster over and over and not multiple crazy people.

+1. OP, did your father treat you well before you turned 18? Do you want your father to be happy? What do you expect from your father when you are an adult?

Why does their father need to pay a woman to “be happy”?

How do you know this? Even it is the case, it is the father’s life and money. He does what he wants, he does now owe his adult child anything.

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Ask yourself how you would like your children to be treated, if their father is still alive when they are adults. Ignored in favor of a new family? Would you remarry and have more kids and ignore your older children? I doubt it. But somehow it's okay for your DH to do it to his.

Why do adult children need an inheritance. Younger children I understand

It's not about inheritance, it's about getting to spend time with their father, and about their own children having a grandfather in their lives. Men in this situation simply don't have the time or energy to be a good husband to the new wife and a good father and grandfather to all their children and grandchildren. Someone's going to get the short end of the stick, and it's usually the ACOD because he doesn't want another divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:The adult child should be thinking about how to work hard to be financially independent, instead of thinking about getting money from parents without hard work. Grow up!

It's not about money, it's about time. And about not having your family life dominated by annoying new wife and her spoiled kids.