Mid 30s - Tips for updating outdated millennial style

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Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

And then turn sideways in your mirror...yup, fat.

And when you turn sideways in your mirror wearing skinny jeans and a tunic, you look like Bella Hadid?

Gen Z has the right idea about how you don't have to hide every imperfection under a tent.

+2 we older Millennials and older have got to get over this “Omg fat” nonsense. Your body looks like your body no matter what you’re wearing, style-wise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

And then turn sideways in your mirror...yup, fat.

And when you turn sideways in your mirror wearing skinny jeans and a tunic, you look like Bella Hadid?

Gen Z has the right idea about how you don't have to hide every imperfection under a tent.

It’s the Gen Z clothes that look like they are wearing tents! At least when we are talking about pants/jeans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

And then turn sideways in your mirror...yup, fat.

And when you turn sideways in your mirror wearing skinny jeans and a tunic, you look like Bella Hadid?

Gen Z has the right idea about how you don't have to hide every imperfection under a tent.

It’s the Gen Z clothes that look like they are wearing tents! At least when we are talking about pants/jeans.

The pants are looser in the legs but they're usually paired with more cropped (not necessarily midriff-baring) and fitted tops, not the tenty "Christian Girl Fall" tunics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

And then turn sideways in your mirror...yup, fat.

And when you turn sideways in your mirror wearing skinny jeans and a tunic, you look like Bella Hadid?

Gen Z has the right idea about how you don't have to hide every imperfection under a tent.

+2 we older Millennials and older have got to get over this “Omg fat” nonsense. Your body looks like your body no matter what you’re wearing, style-wise.

Okay. As a GenXer, I'm wondering if you remember US diet culture and how hideous it was in the 80s. It's been rebranded in the name of health (intermittent fasting! strong is the new skinny!), but casually blaming women for struggling in this environment is all kinds of lousy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bootcut jeans, cropped sweaters and tops, mock neck and high cut tanks are in. Thin gold or silver necklaces instead of chunky statement. Two_scoops_of_style on Instagram has a few “millennial makeover” reels that show outfits going from millennial to modern

I’ve seen some of these videos and I have come to the conclusion that the two things making Millennials look the most dated are the whole “tall boots over skinny jeans or leggings” look, and long, tunic-like tops with leggings or skinny jeans. I think if you ditch just those two things and opt for white sneakers, flats, or like … literally any other shoe, and somewhat shorter tops, you’ve ditched the most dated styles.

There’s some dated accessories too like big statement necklaces, light indoor/decorative type scarves or blanket scarves, faux fur vests etc. that I’ve seen people our age holding on to as well but those are easy enough to just not wear anymore.

What do you mean by tall boots? Knee high boots?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think they mean tall knee high boots over the jeans. That look is very dated now. Knee high chunky or block heeled boots however are in and best work under music skirts or dresses for fall or with mini pleated and plaid skirts.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

And then turn sideways in your mirror...yup, fat.

And when you turn sideways in your mirror wearing skinny jeans and a tunic, you look like Bella Hadid?

Gen Z has the right idea about how you don't have to hide every imperfection under a tent.

+2 we older Millennials and older have got to get over this “Omg fat” nonsense. Your body looks like your body no matter what you’re wearing, style-wise.

Okay. As a GenXer, I'm wondering if you remember US diet culture and how hideous it was in the 80s. It's been rebranded in the name of health (intermittent fasting! strong is the new skinny!), but casually blaming women for struggling in this environment is all kinds of lousy.

Thank you. Millennials didn't invent any of this. Bad body image and diet culture existed long before it was imprinted on us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I think they mean tall knee high boots over the jeans. That look is very dated now. Knee high chunky or block heeled boots however are in and best work under music skirts or dresses for fall or with mini pleated and plaid skirts.

+1 Tall boots are never going to be "out" - they are still fine with dresses and skirts - it's the pairing of them over skinny jeans or leggings that is passe.

[Anonymous]

So what are stylish elder millennials wearing "out" these days? Not clubbing, but say, cocktail bars with girlfriends, shows, or dinner dates with DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what are stylish elder millennials wearing "out" these days? Not clubbing, but say, cocktail bars with girlfriends, shows, or dinner dates with DH?

Ok I'm going to answer this with the preface that I am NOT fully on-board with all of the trends right now. There are some I like and am trying, but some I refuse.

So for these events, I'd wear slim-straight leg jeans or skinny jeans (I'm not getting rid of ALL of my jeans), a heeled bootie (probably one with a higher shaft, those are still "in"), and a top that hits at my waist/can be tucked in. I like the trend of shorter cardigans worn buttoned up as a top. I like a black body suit. Oversized white button downs are very popular (although I don't know how much I'd wear this once we're into winter.) For very casual, I'd wear an oversized flannel "shacket" open over a cropped waist-length tank. All of these could also be paired with leather pants or a skirt for a dressier look.

Here are some links of tops I like/have:

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/checkerboard-stitch-notch-neck-sweater-49043820?seq=06&categoryId=6570723&faceout=model

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/corset-sweetheart-sweater-bodysuit-49614320?seq=04&categoryId=6570723&faceout=prod

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/long-sleeve-asymmetrical-ponte-top-49539819?seq=01&categoryId=6570723&faceout=model

[Anonymous]

Leather is very "in" right now -- I think a nice "going out" look is a pair of vegan leather straight leg trousers or coated straight leg jean in like a camel or chocolate brown, with a slim fitting black top of some sort, and then a nice boot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen Z fashion isn't for me. I'm riding this wave out and sticking to simple timeless pieces.

This stuff is awful. The crop tops. The mom jeans. It's look terrible on everyone, even the young and fit.

Wake me when it's over.

But it actually doesn't look terrible at all. Here's the thing ... a lot of women INCORRECTLY think they look better in skinny jeans + tunic length top than straight-leg & high-rise jean + crop-length top. Women feel like the former is flowy and covering things like FUPA, etc. up, so it must look better than the latter. But, truly, nope. For most of us, a tunic length top is hitting us at our widest point, and therefore making us look... WIDE. And if you are at all pear shaped, the skinny jeans you think flatter you . . . DON'T.

Just try buying a pair of high-waisted straight-cut denim and pairing it with a "cropped" slim sweater that sits basically just at the top of the waist (so not showing midriff). Even if you have a bit of a FUPA, you will look longer and less wide than in a tunic-length top and skinnies.

Lug sole boots are tricky unless you are quite tall -- good other options are loafers or white sneakers. Bonus: they are comfy!

No way, these are great for shorties—they add height!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what are stylish elder millennials wearing "out" these days? Not clubbing, but say, cocktail bars with girlfriends, shows, or dinner dates with DH?

Ok I'm going to answer this with the preface that I am NOT fully on-board with all of the trends right now. There are some I like and am trying, but some I refuse.

So for these events, I'd wear slim-straight leg jeans or skinny jeans (I'm not getting rid of ALL of my jeans), a heeled bootie (probably one with a higher shaft, those are still "in"), and a top that hits at my waist/can be tucked in. I like the trend of shorter cardigans worn buttoned up as a top. I like a black body suit. Oversized white button downs are very popular (although I don't know how much I'd wear this once we're into winter.) For very casual, I'd wear an oversized flannel "shacket" open over a cropped waist-length tank. All of these could also be paired with leather pants or a skirt for a dressier look.

Here are some links of tops I like/have:

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/checkerboard-stitch-notch-neck-sweater-49043820?seq=06&categoryId=6570723&faceout=model

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/corset-sweetheart-sweater-bodysuit-49614320?seq=04&categoryId=6570723&faceout=prod

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/long-sleeve-asymmetrical-ponte-top-49539819?seq=01&categoryId=6570723&faceout=model

Huh. I thought my Abercrombie days were far behind me, but these are very cute!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leather is very "in" right now -- I think a nice "going out" look is a pair of vegan leather straight leg trousers or coated straight leg jean in like a camel or chocolate brown, with a slim fitting black top of some sort, and then a nice boot.

What about leather moto jackets? Out?