two piece ok for girls?

[Anonymous]

This thread is crazyballs. Just got back from the pool, where I observed many little girls enjoying themselves fully and freely in completely age-appropriate bikinis.

[Anonymous]

Regular two pieces are fine. My daughter will not wear one of those itty bitty string bikinis with the triangle tops or demi bra styles cups made to give the illusion of breasts that the dance and pageant moms put on their girls. A tiny string bottom is not at all practical ans I do find those suits sexualizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regular two pieces are fine. My daughter will not wear one of those itty bitty string bikinis with the triangle tops or demi bra styles cups made to give the illusion of breasts that the dance and pageant moms put on their girls. A tiny string bottom is not at all practical ans I do find those suits sexualizing.

I have never seen little girls with bikini tops with cups that give impression of breasts. I would not be ok with those either. Everything else is 100% fine by me.

European

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A little lesson for you all. The bikini was invented for the male gaze. It is worn for the male gaze. When you have your little girl wearing that you are teaching her that she should dress for the male gaze. The only reason they want it is because they have been culturally conditioned already. Little girls are not laying in the sun working on their tan. They are swimming and playing and should be wearing attire that allows them to do that fully.

A little lessons for you - I teach my girls to wear what they want to wear without thinking about what other people will think about. They wear what makes them happy and confident and feel good. They are perfectly capable of swimming and playing in a cropped top and high waisted bikini bottom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from Brazil where bikinis are the norm like from birth until granny hood. Eww you say, that’s so inappropriate! Nah, we just don’t sexualize it. It is what it is. There are cute age appropriate bikinis for girls. Oh and boys and men wear speedos at the beach. The horror!

But that’s the difference. In our country, bikinis are considered sexy. Which is why they don’t belong on prepubescent children.

in whose country? I just bought this https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=807789002&cid=45211&pcid=45211&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ASwimsuits&cpos=37&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D45211&cvar=16849&ctype=Listing&cpid=res22060414527012753545778#pdp-page-content for my 8 year old. If anyone in "our country" looks at her and considers it "sexy"...that's their problem. Gross.

I posted the orange version of this as something I bought for my 3rd grader, too. It's not sexy and the only difference between it and the one piece that the uptight lady above puts her kid in is less than 2 inches of abdomen. I had no idea 8yo belly buttons were so sexy, thank you for educating me crazy ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Regular two pieces are fine. My daughter will not wear one of those itty bitty string bikinis with the triangle tops or demi bra styles cups made to give the illusion of breasts that the dance and pageant moms put on their girls. A tiny string bottom is not at all practical ans I do find those suits sexualizing.

I have never seen little girls with bikini tops with cups that give impression of breasts. I would not be ok with those either. Everything else is 100% fine by me.

European

I have seen little girls in triangle-top bikinis, and it's creepy. A sports-bra type top is different, but some people do put their little kids in itty-bitty bikinis.

[Anonymous]

So heels and lipstick ok then too? Toddlers and Tiaras? If you don’t see how you are subtlety encouraging the sexualization of your daughters I cannot help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So heels and lipstick ok then too? Toddlers and Tiaras? If you don’t see how you are subtlety encouraging the sexualization of your daughters I cannot help you.

So not the same thing. Different kinds of biking/swimsuit is like comparing different length skirts or shorts. I would never think that an 8 year old needs to wear skirts below the knee or people would think she is sexy. The same way as a girl in a bikini is not sexy… unless they are wearing a padded bra, make up and heels… then I would think it’s weird, inappropriate, and an attempt at sexualizing a child. A small/big bikini does not do that AT ALL and there is something wrong with you if you think it does… and I can’t help you either.

[Anonymous]

I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

As a mom of 3 girls (2 are now adults, one is 7) I agree. I always have/had my girls have imput on what swimwear to wear. The older girls loved the Lands End tankinis, those are 2 piece with the tank top. My little one chose a one piece long-sleeve zip up this year. We live in FL so the more sun coverage the better anyways.

As young adults, the older girls choose a variety of swimwear. One like bikinis but also has a rashguard (because, FL) and the other likes the high waist modest bikinis.

My concern about skimpy swimwear for little ones is sun exposure. There are so many cute 2 piece suits that have a rashguard top, right at Target and Walmart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

So you force your kids to wear what you want? Great parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

So you force your kids to wear what you want? Great parenting.

No, they can choose within reason. I just can’t stand the “sexualizing” little girls posters. You people are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

So you force your kids to wear what you want? Great parenting.