two piece ok for girls?

[Anonymous]

American here. I was thinking it over, and realized I never wore a two-piece until I was 13, and then it was a sporty tank bra top. I may not have gone full bkini until 17. I also was encouraged to never wear black, and thought it was risque when I finally did, as a teenager. My mother was appalled at young girls wearing heels, and I didn't do so until 12-13. Also, pierced ears, etc. It's a conservative culture, about girls' bodies, except when it's not.

I don't have a girl, but I would get her a two piece whenever she asked for it. I think it's more practical for a girl to have a one piece in sporty situations, but if she wants a two piece for playing, I think that's cute. She will grow up to be a female, after all.

I have a boy, and he understands it's ok to have his top off. I do not know exactly how I would tell a little girl she can't have her top off other than "you're a girl." I am not ready to fight all that, unless the kid is ready to fight it. For example, kid is trans, they can decide about top on or top off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:American here. I was thinking it over, and realized I never wore a two-piece until I was 13, and then it was a sporty tank bra top. I may not have gone full bkini until 17. I also was encouraged to never wear black, and thought it was risque when I finally did, as a teenager. My mother was appalled at young girls wearing heels, and I didn't do so until 12-13. Also, pierced ears, etc. It's a conservative culture, about girls' bodies, except when it's not.

I don't have a girl, but I would get her a two piece whenever she asked for it. I think it's more practical for a girl to have a one piece in sporty situations, but if she wants a two piece for playing, I think that's cute. She will grow up to be a female, after all.

I have a boy, and he understands it's ok to have his top off. I do not know exactly how I would tell a little girl she can't have her top off other than "you're a girl." I am not ready to fight all that, unless the kid is ready to fight it. For example, kid is trans, they can decide about top on or top off.

You have a daughter and you aren’t willing to tell her that society has different and unequal rules and expectations for women and girls?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:American here. I was thinking it over, and realized I never wore a two-piece until I was 13, and then it was a sporty tank bra top. I may not have gone full bkini until 17. I also was encouraged to never wear black, and thought it was risque when I finally did, as a teenager. My mother was appalled at young girls wearing heels, and I didn't do so until 12-13. Also, pierced ears, etc. It's a conservative culture, about girls' bodies, except when it's not.

I don't have a girl, but I would get her a two piece whenever she asked for it. I think it's more practical for a girl to have a one piece in sporty situations, but if she wants a two piece for playing, I think that's cute. She will grow up to be a female, after all.

I have a boy, and he understands it's ok to have his top off. I do not know exactly how I would tell a little girl she can't have her top off other than "you're a girl." I am not ready to fight all that, unless the kid is ready to fight it. For example, kid is trans, they can decide about top on or top off.

You have a daughter and you aren’t willing to tell her that society has different and unequal rules and expectations for women and girls?

I would phrase it just like that for a 4yo, yes. No I said I do not have a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No unless it’s still full coverage like a tankini

+1
My kid wears a rash guard and bottoms, so technically a two-piece, but I wouldn't be okay with a bikini or crop top at this age. Tankini or rash guards are fine.

[Anonymous]

Whether or not they are "sexy" aside, I prefer the sun coverage of a tankini or rashguard. Sunburns on your tummy are PAINFUL. My kid burns pretty easily, so I take whatever extra coverage I can get.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from Brazil where bikinis are the norm like from birth until granny hood. Eww you say, that’s so inappropriate! Nah, we just don’t sexualize it. It is what it is. There are cute age appropriate bikinis for girls. Oh and boys and men wear speedos at the beach. The horror!

But that’s the difference. In our country, bikinis are considered sexy. Which is why they don’t belong on prepubescent children.

Different Brazilian here. I will never understand this mentality. Little girls in bikinis look as sexy as flamingos in bikinis.

American here and +1 to this statement. Let them wear whatever they want.

But the reason they want to wear that is that they are mimicking grown women who ARE trying to be sexy.

This is not true AT ALL. My girls think boobs are disgusting and they never want to grow up. So no, they are not trying to be sexy. Perhaps your daughter is, but definitely not mine or the other girls I know

No one said they are trying to be sexy, that doesn’t change the fact that they are mimicking sexy behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from Brazil where bikinis are the norm like from birth until granny hood. Eww you say, that’s so inappropriate! Nah, we just don’t sexualize it. It is what it is. There are cute age appropriate bikinis for girls. Oh and boys and men wear speedos at the beach. The horror!

But that’s the difference. In our country, bikinis are considered sexy. Which is why they don’t belong on prepubescent children.

Different Brazilian here. I will never understand this mentality. Little girls in bikinis look as sexy as flamingos in bikinis.

American here and +1 to this statement. Let them wear whatever they want.

But the reason they want to wear that is that they are mimicking grown women who ARE trying to be sexy.

No one is talking about putting little girls in thongs, you weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:Any age is ok for a bikini! We personally don't wear them because I don't feel like dealing with the sunscreen / sunburn issues. More coverage = less sun exposure.

Exactly. The only reason to put an 8 year old in a bikini is because you think it looks "cute" and "grown up" which is gross. Kids need to be covered up in the summer as much as possible for protection from the sun.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from Brazil where bikinis are the norm like from birth until granny hood. Eww you say, that’s so inappropriate! Nah, we just don’t sexualize it. It is what it is. There are cute age appropriate bikinis for girls. Oh and boys and men wear speedos at the beach. The horror!

But that’s the difference. In our country, bikinis are considered sexy. Which is why they don’t belong on prepubescent children.

Different Brazilian here. I will never understand this mentality. Little girls in bikinis look as sexy as flamingos in bikinis.

American here and +1 to this statement. Let them wear whatever they want.

But the reason they want to wear that is that they are mimicking grown women who ARE trying to be sexy.

No one is talking about putting little girls in thongs, you weirdo.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Any age is ok for a bikini! We personally don't wear them because I don't feel like dealing with the sunscreen / sunburn issues. More coverage = less sun exposure.

Exactly. The only reason to put an 8 year old in a bikini is because you think it looks "cute" and "grown up" which is gross. Kids need to be covered up in the summer as much as possible for protection from the sun.

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Then I take it that you’re wearing burqinis to the pool?

[Anonymous]

A little lesson for you all. The bikini was invented for the male gaze. It is worn for the male gaze. When you have your little girl wearing that you are teaching her that she should dress for the male gaze. The only reason they want it is because they have been culturally conditioned already. Little girls are not laying in the sun working on their tan. They are swimming and playing and should be wearing attire that allows them to do that fully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A little lesson for you all. The bikini was invented for the male gaze. It is worn for the male gaze. When you have your little girl wearing that you are teaching her that she should dress for the male gaze. The only reason they want it is because they have been culturally conditioned already. Little girls are not laying in the sun working on their tan. They are swimming and playing and should be wearing attire that allows them to do that fully.

What a subservient remark. You are not teaching a child to dress for the male gaze if she wears a bikini. You are teaching her to dress how SHE wants. What does a child know about the male gaze. I wore bikinis because the other girls liked them. Is your name Duggar?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A little lesson for you all. The bikini was invented for the male gaze. It is worn for the male gaze. When you have your little girl wearing that you are teaching her that she should dress for the male gaze. The only reason they want it is because they have been culturally conditioned already. Little girls are not laying in the sun working on their tan. They are swimming and playing and should be wearing attire that allows them to do that fully.

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Anonymous wrote:A little lesson for you all. The bikini was invented for the male gaze. It is worn for the male gaze. When you have your little girl wearing that you are teaching her that she should dress for the male gaze. The only reason they want it is because they have been culturally conditioned already. Little girls are not laying in the sun working on their tan. They are swimming and playing and should be wearing attire that allows them to do that fully.

So much for girl power! How sad. My girls have no idea that bikinis are made for the men (ridiculous statement). They like bikinis because when they are in and out of the water all day, wearing a wet shirt and shorts is really not comfortable or nice. That’s it. If it were up to me, I would have them naked or at the very least topless (unfortunately not allowed in this country).

I am European, but went to college and grad school in the US. The most sexual women (by far) are the Americans. In college it was all about wet t-shirt contests, getting drunk and having threesomes, etc. these were 18-19 year old girls… but of course they would wear conservative bikinis at the beach…
You should think about what you put in your daughter’s head when she is so young and has to worry about men’s attention

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Anonymous wrote:I’m from Brazil where bikinis are the norm like from birth until granny hood. Eww you say, that’s so inappropriate! Nah, we just don’t sexualize it. It is what it is. There are cute age appropriate bikinis for girls. Oh and boys and men wear speedos at the beach. The horror!

But that’s the difference. In our country, bikinis are considered sexy. Which is why they don’t belong on prepubescent children.

in whose country? I just bought this https://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=807789002&cid=45211&pcid=45211&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AGirls%3AShop%20Girls%20Categories%3ASwimsuits&cpos=37&cexp=2223&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D45211&cvar=16849&ctype=Listing&cpid=res22060414527012753545778#pdp-page-content for my 8 year old. If anyone in "our country" looks at her and considers it "sexy"...that's their problem. Gross.