two piece ok for girls?

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Anonymous wrote:So heels and lipstick ok then too? Toddlers and Tiaras? If you don’t see how you are subtlety encouraging the sexualization of your daughters I cannot help you.

So not the same thing. Different kinds of biking/swimsuit is like comparing different length skirts or shorts. I would never think that an 8 year old needs to wear skirts below the knee or people would think she is sexy. The same way as a girl in a bikini is not sexy… unless they are wearing a padded bra, make up and heels… then I would think it’s weird, inappropriate, and an attempt at sexualizing a child. A small/big bikini does not do that AT ALL and there is something wrong with you if you think it does… and I can’t help you either.

Would you let your 8 yr old wear one of these?

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-sandollar-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6795206?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=402

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-peace-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6828001?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=440

While they don't look "sexy" on young girls, the style is clearly trying to be a copy of an adult woman's bikini that IS meant to be sexy.

That’s crazy. Yes, I would be ok with both as long as they are not padded to give the illusion of breasts (couldn’t tell about the first).
The idea that bikinis are meant to be sexy is crazy. How is a bikini sexier tha a one piece? Because the belly is such a sexy part of the body? Again, I am not American, but I really don’t get it.
I understand thongs and push up/padded bras, but normal bikinis like the ones you linked? Totally fine for me or my daughters.

Are Norwegians and German families who go to the beach fully naked (adults and kids) sexualizing everyone? All European/south American moms sexualizing their daughters when they put them in bikinis?
This is insane

Different cultures have different mores. Are Indians “insane” because they expect less skin to be showing than Americans (belly aside)?

Personally, I — an American — think it looks weird when I see kids in skimpy bathing suits. Like why would an 8 year-old wear a bikini rather than a tankini? I just don’t see any reason for that.

because she wants to. the end.

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Anonymous wrote:So heels and lipstick ok then too? Toddlers and Tiaras? If you don’t see how you are subtlety encouraging the sexualization of your daughters I cannot help you.

So not the same thing. Different kinds of biking/swimsuit is like comparing different length skirts or shorts. I would never think that an 8 year old needs to wear skirts below the knee or people would think she is sexy. The same way as a girl in a bikini is not sexy… unless they are wearing a padded bra, make up and heels… then I would think it’s weird, inappropriate, and an attempt at sexualizing a child. A small/big bikini does not do that AT ALL and there is something wrong with you if you think it does… and I can’t help you either.

Would you let your 8 yr old wear one of these?

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-sandollar-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6795206?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=402

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-peace-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6828001?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=440

While they don't look "sexy" on young girls, the style is clearly trying to be a copy of an adult woman's bikini that IS meant to be sexy.

That’s crazy. Yes, I would be ok with both as long as they are not padded to give the illusion of breasts (couldn’t tell about the first).
The idea that bikinis are meant to be sexy is crazy. How is a bikini sexier tha a one piece? Because the belly is such a sexy part of the body? Again, I am not American, but I really don’t get it.
I understand thongs and push up/padded bras, but normal bikinis like the ones you linked? Totally fine for me or my daughters.

Are Norwegians and German families who go to the beach fully naked (adults and kids) sexualizing everyone? All European/south American moms sexualizing their daughters when they put them in bikinis?
This is insane

Different cultures have different mores. Are Indians “insane” because they expect less skin to be showing than Americans (belly aside)?

Personally, I — an American — think it looks weird when I see kids in skimpy bathing suits. Like why would an 8 year-old wear a bikini rather than a tankini? I just don’t see any reason for that.

I have no issue with bigger bikinis (or whatever American parents feel comfortable with), but I have issues with people telling me I am sexualizing my daughter because her bikini is smaller than the average American girl.

Since you mention it, how would you feel if an Indian or Muslim mom tells you you are sexualizing your daughter when she wears a skirt or a one piece swimsuit at the beach showing arms and legs?

What I mean is that you may not like it for your girls, but don’t talk about my intent when I/my daughter choose a smaller bikini than yours (I.e. don’t tell me I am sexualizing my daughter).

A) I said nothing about “sexualizing.” That was other posters.

B) I don’t think whether something is sexy or not has to do with the mom’s intent. It’s what the viewer perceives. For example, an American-Indian colleague once told me that, yes, the greater amount of skin here is impossible not to notice after spending a a long stretch in India. Same idea why most of us would dress relatively modestly in Muslim countries, because relatively immodesty tends to attract notice of a particular sort.

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Anonymous wrote:So heels and lipstick ok then too? Toddlers and Tiaras? If you don’t see how you are subtlety encouraging the sexualization of your daughters I cannot help you.

So not the same thing. Different kinds of biking/swimsuit is like comparing different length skirts or shorts. I would never think that an 8 year old needs to wear skirts below the knee or people would think she is sexy. The same way as a girl in a bikini is not sexy… unless they are wearing a padded bra, make up and heels… then I would think it’s weird, inappropriate, and an attempt at sexualizing a child. A small/big bikini does not do that AT ALL and there is something wrong with you if you think it does… and I can’t help you either.

Would you let your 8 yr old wear one of these?

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-sandollar-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6795206?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=402

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/hobie-kids-peace-two-piece-swimsuit-big-girl/6828001?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FKids%2FGirls%27%20Clothing%2FSwimsuits%20%26%20Cover-ups&color=440

While they don't look "sexy" on young girls, the style is clearly trying to be a copy of an adult woman's bikini that IS meant to be sexy.

Yeah, I don’t see anything wrong with these. If that’s what my kid wants to wear, cool. There is nothing remotely “sexual” about it and I can’t control your sick hang ups.

That said: I would 100% want my DD to do some work on those eyebrows.

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We’re a pale family she’ll be wearing a rash guard and bikini bottom in college.

But, I will adjust my clothing expectations to her activities just like I do now (she’s under 10). At the pool now she’s diving and roughhousing and running— the bikini in those links could easily come up/off. When she reaches an age where she is more hanging out with friends chatting at the pool well re-assess, but I think “appropriate to the activity” is the first line of rational clothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

So you force your kids to wear what you want? Great parenting.

No, they can choose within reason. I just can’t stand the “sexualizing” little girls posters. You people are ridiculous.

How do you presume to speak for the experience the PP may have had?

I’m the PP who referred to as being sexualized here. The bikinis I had to wear were way skimpier than the young girls bikinis from Nordstrom’s people were sharing links to. They were string bikinis. My mom didn’t want me wearing them for comfort. She wanted me to wear them to “look cool,” even though I was much more comfortable in one pieces. I’m not scarred but I was very uncomfortable wearing it. The only point I was trying to make was that a 3rd grader probably has a good idea of what swimsuits they want to wear to feel both fashionable and comfortable enough to splash around with friends. Would you as an adult want someone to make you wear a bikini in a public setting when you’d feel most comfortable in a one-piece?

I'm not sure what the point of your posts are - no one here is saying they are forcing their child to wear bikinis. In fact, most posters are saying they want their kids to be comfortable and wear what they want to wear and what makes them happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember how my mom would force me to wear bikinis in elementary school even though I didn’t want to and felt uncomfortable. Please make sure your daughter feels comfortable in whatever swimwear she wears. I still recall the uncomfortableness of essentially being sexualized at a young age.

Oh the drama. Did she put you in bras and heels and paraded you in front of pedophiles?
She thought you would be more comfortable (as bikinis are always more comfortable than one piece… except for water sports).

So you force your kids to wear what you want? Great parenting.

Nope. That would be for you.

You’re still missing the point.

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I let my 6 year old wear two pieces. They're easier for her to get on/off and she has a long torso/is tall so honestly they are less revealing since 1 pieces tend to give her wedgies or be too low cut because they aren't long enough for her.

But she does dance, so maybe I'm a "crazy dance mom"

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We don't do skimpy or mature looking tops (ex: no triangle string tops) but I let my kid wear a bikini. I aim for a top that stays put, so ones that look more athletic. Mainly because she is very active so it has to stay on.

But I let her choose. We have a mix of things: 1 piece, long sleeve rash guard, short sleeve rash guard and a bikini top. She actually prefers the rash guards more and more because it's less sunscreen application.

I want her to be confidant and feeling good at every age in any kind of swimsuit, so I'd never outright forbid anything.

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Honestly the lack of reading comprehension here is astonishing.

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Our DD has the mocked neck swim top and shorts from Athleta girl: https://athleta.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=405849282&cid=1192158&pcid=1054836#pdp-page-content

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My husband took my girls to the pool today while I finished up my work day. DD8 wore her one piece swimsuit and DH texted me in a panic because she was in the bathroom for 10+ minutes when she should have just peed and come out. She was in the bathroom for that long because she couldn't put her wet swimsuit back up.

THAT is why people buy two pieces for their kids, ladies, not because they want them to be sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband took my girls to the pool today while I finished up my work day. DD8 wore her one piece swimsuit and DH texted me in a panic because she was in the bathroom for 10+ minutes when she should have just peed and come out. She was in the bathroom for that long because she couldn't put her wet swimsuit back up.

THAT is why people buy two pieces for their kids, ladies, not because they want them to be sexy.

You need to teach her to pull the crotch to the side so she doesn’t have to peel the whole thing off. Easy peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband took my girls to the pool today while I finished up my work day. DD8 wore her one piece swimsuit and DH texted me in a panic because she was in the bathroom for 10+ minutes when she should have just peed and come out. She was in the bathroom for that long because she couldn't put her wet swimsuit back up.

THAT is why people buy two pieces for their kids, ladies, not because they want them to be sexy.

You need to teach her to pull the crotch to the side so she doesn’t have to peel the whole thing off. Easy peasy.

Ew, I’d rather just get a two piece.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband took my girls to the pool today while I finished up my work day. DD8 wore her one piece swimsuit and DH texted me in a panic because she was in the bathroom for 10+ minutes when she should have just peed and come out. She was in the bathroom for that long because she couldn't put her wet swimsuit back up.

THAT is why people buy two pieces for their kids, ladies, not because they want them to be sexy.

You need to teach her to pull the crotch to the side so she doesn’t have to peel the whole thing off. Easy peasy.

Ew, I’d rather just get a two piece.

Same, that sounds like a good way to get pee all over your wet bathing suit. Gross.

It's fascinating to me how easily people will accept putting girls and women in complicated, inconvenient, or uncomfortable clothing based on discomfort with female bodies. I honestly don't think this conversation is that different than people who freaked out about the sight of a woman's ankle 150 years ago. It's like the comfort and convenience of womens/girls clothes is irrelevant to a lot of people -- the most important thing is how the sight of a female person in said clothes makes OTHER people feel. It's so weird.

Imagine if we all collectively decided that boys needed to wear one piece bathing suits because there was something scandalous about male torsos, even on little pre-pubescent boys. Can you imagine? "Just tell little Larlo he can hike up one leg and pull it over to the side to pee. Easy peasy!" It would never happen.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband took my girls to the pool today while I finished up my work day. DD8 wore her one piece swimsuit and DH texted me in a panic because she was in the bathroom for 10+ minutes when she should have just peed and come out. She was in the bathroom for that long because she couldn't put her wet swimsuit back up.

THAT is why people buy two pieces for their kids, ladies, not because they want them to be sexy.

You need to teach her to pull the crotch to the side so she doesn’t have to peel the whole thing off. Easy peasy.

Ew, I’d rather just get a two piece.

Same, that sounds like a good way to get pee all over your wet bathing suit. Gross.

It's fascinating to me how easily people will accept putting girls and women in complicated, inconvenient, or uncomfortable clothing based on discomfort with female bodies. I honestly don't think this conversation is that different than people who freaked out about the sight of a woman's ankle 150 years ago. It's like the comfort and convenience of womens/girls clothes is irrelevant to a lot of people -- the most important thing is how the sight of a female person in said clothes makes OTHER people feel. It's so weird.

Imagine if we all collectively decided that boys needed to wear one piece bathing suits because there was something scandalous about male torsos, even on little pre-pubescent boys. Can you imagine? "Just tell little Larlo he can hike up one leg and pull it over to the side to pee. Easy peasy!" It would never happen.

This. Hell, pants were designed with a fly so that men could pee without needing to take them off.

Bizarre that this is even an issue. Boys have exposed torsos. No reason girls can’t. And I say this as someone with a DD who chooses to wear a tankini because she doesn’t like having her stomach exposed.