We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

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I really admire her for speaking up. I’m not single and older and I feel like this is the kind of annoying “joke” that guys made all the time that I’d laugh at and my DH makes too. It’s annoying. I’m not sure how it’s funny and if it’s funny- it’s cheap humor at best. Like you’re joke was at the most a bad, dumb joke. A) there is a very troubling war going on and she was likely in the midst of starting to share her feelings about that or whatever was in the news and then b) you heard her say “news” and pivoted to calling her dumb. This is crap middle schoolers do.

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Anonymous wrote:I really admire her for speaking up. I’m not single and older and I feel like this is the kind of annoying “joke” that guys made all the time that I’d laugh at and my DH makes too. It’s annoying. I’m not sure how it’s funny and if it’s funny- it’s cheap humor at best. Like you’re joke was at the most a bad, dumb joke. A) there is a very troubling war going on and she was likely in the midst of starting to share her feelings about that or whatever was in the news and then b) you heard her say “news” and pivoted to calling her dumb. This is crap middle schoolers do.

Meant to write “that I’d laugh at to be polite.”

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Anonymous wrote:This is DCUM so you're at fault since you're a man.

I'd just ignore and move on. She's insecure about her intellectual abilities, and wasn't able to fire back with a joke back to you like "No, I stopped watching TMZ becuase it got too violent with all the Oscars coverage.."

She did say she’s doesn’t read TMZ and has never read the National inquirer or Star Magazine in her life.

When must be a boring person, back out slowly!

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

Or she overreacted because it's clearly a joke since they can't be watched.

*furious backpedaling*

Or the issue is the OP proved he wasn’t even listening. She said she watched the news and OP responded with print media that only old people read or know about and a website whose heyday way 10+ years ago. To top it off I don’t think OP knows what petty means. The more OP protests, the more I am starting to picture his as some newly divorced white guy in his 50s, new to dating with rusty social skills because of the pandemic. Possibly OP has dabbled in pick up culture and male rights BS and thinks he “deserves” this woman and/or thinks subtle put downs will make women want him.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

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Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

Or she overreacted because it's clearly a joke since they can't be watched.

*furious backpedaling*

Or the issue is the OP proved he wasn’t even listening. She said she watched the news and OP responded with print media that only old people read or know about and a website whose heyday way 10+ years ago. To top it off I don’t think OP knows what petty means. The more OP protests, the more I am starting to picture his as some newly divorced white guy in his 50s, new to dating with rusty social skills because of the pandemic. Possibly OP has dabbled in pick up culture and male rights BS and thinks he “deserves” this woman and/or thinks subtle put downs will make women want him.

I’m not in my 50s. I’m 39 and have been divorced for 3 years now.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

Or she overreacted because it's clearly a joke since they can't be watched.

*furious backpedaling*

Or the issue is the OP proved he wasn’t even listening. She said she watched the news and OP responded with print media that only old people read or know about and a website whose heyday way 10+ years ago. To top it off I don’t think OP knows what petty means. The more OP protests, the more I am starting to picture his as some newly divorced white guy in his 50s, new to dating with rusty social skills because of the pandemic. Possibly OP has dabbled in pick up culture and male rights BS and thinks he “deserves” this woman and/or thinks subtle put downs will make women want him.

I’m not in my 50s. I’m 39 and have been divorced for 3 years now.

Are you gaining any appreciation that you were wrong?

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You made a dig at her, and she called you out. If I were her I’d note the red flag that you are making mean spirited digs at me after just a month of dating.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a Female and would likely be okay w/this joke since I tend to be a laid back person in general who says a lot of tongue and cheek stuff all the time.

For her to react the way she did - may signal that you and her may be a bit incompatible.

Yup. I would have given nit right back to you but this is how we joke and tease with people we care about in my culture. There's nothing wrong with either of you guys don't have a similar style of humor at all and you will be miserable together.

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If she doesn't seem to appreciate your sense of humor, or is overly sensitive, maybe this isn't the girl for you.

But it was kind of a condescending "joke".

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

What’s the big deal? I’m doing this from my phone so I didn’t take the time to capitalize everything properly.

Lol. Are you OP? The issue isn’t capitalization, it’s that when the woman said she just finished WATCHING the news, you asked if she had just finished watching the National Enquirer, or Star magazine…both are print publications.

He knows those are print magazines, not news. This is why we said he’s the a-hole for insinuating that’s her form of news.

Or she overreacted because it's clearly a joke since they can't be watched.

*furious backpedaling*

Or the issue is the OP proved he wasn’t even listening. She said she watched the news and OP responded with print media that only old people read or know about and a website whose heyday way 10+ years ago. To top it off I don’t think OP knows what petty means. The more OP protests, the more I am starting to picture his as some newly divorced white guy in his 50s, new to dating with rusty social skills because of the pandemic. Possibly OP has dabbled in pick up culture and male rights BS and thinks he “deserves” this woman and/or thinks subtle put downs will make women want him.

I’m not in my 50s. I’m 39 and have been divorced for 3 years now.

Yeah that’s unsurprising.

Break up, because you’re obviously not willing to be the kind of partner this woman wants (respectful, open to being told when she doesn’t see eye to eye with you, accepting of constructive criticism) and either find someone whose “humor” aligns with yours or (better!) do some therapy to figure out why you’re so triggered by this— Sunday morning couch psychology suggests you’ve got some lingering baggage from the divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:If she doesn't seem to appreciate your sense of humor, or is overly sensitive, maybe this isn't the girl for you.

But it was kind of a condescending "joke".

This. You can be a laid back person with a sense of humor and still be offended by things. It was kind of rude what you said.

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I’d be willing to bet this isn’t the first “joke” of this nature or on this topic. It’s just the first time she called you out on it.

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Anonymous wrote:If she doesn't seem to appreciate your sense of humor, or is overly sensitive, maybe this isn't the girl for you.

But it was kind of a condescending "joke".

This. You can be a laid back person with a sense of humor and still be offended by things. It was kind of rude what you said.

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Anonymous wrote:We just started dating about a month ago. We were talking on the phone and I asked her what she was up to. She said she had just finished watching the news. I replied with, “oh what news? TMZ, National inquirer, Star magazine?” and I started laughing. She paused, and said, “you must think I’m an airhead or not particularly bright for you to assume I read such low brow things as my source of news. I don’t appreciate it and don’t do that again”. In my defense I know she is into celebrity gossip. Heck, she’ll even ask me once in awhile if I want to hear the gossip of the day.

I think she was being petty. Thoughts?

Can we just revisit this for a minute? I’m assuming you’re just a troll who didn’t proofread carefully enough, because this is nonsense.

By those references, I assume OP is over 45 and trying to date younger or doesn’t understand where people other than middle age women get info/gossip.

+1

Seems like there is a reason why OP is single at his age.

I’m 39. She’s 30.

Ok, National Enquirer.