Update to previously deleted thread- my sister won’t let anyone hold her baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has a full time nanny. She’s not COVID-avoidant, she’s you-avoidant.

She has a full time live in nanny.

[Anonymous]

OP I think your sister might need somebody to inquire about her mental health. But not you. I don't think there is any way you can bring it up with her without your entitlement and lack of boundaries coming through, and it'll just make it worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People love piling on an OP, no matter the situation. If the OP was the sister and asking if what she was doing was normal, she would absolutely have the majority saying she needs help, because, she does, you dingbats.

People ARE saying that she needs help, but they are doing it and framing it in an empathetic way that does not make the word or possibility of needing help some kind of grave insult or moral judgement.

It still doesn’t change the fact that OP is pushy, judgmental, and entitled. She is not owed access to the baby, and that goes doubly with the clear dislike and disdain she has for her sister, who would use a little extra handling with care right now.

You can help by cooking/delivering meals, etc. not insisting on coming in the house holding the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People love piling on an OP, no matter the situation. If the OP was the sister and asking if what she was doing was normal, she would absolutely have the majority saying she needs help, because, she does, you dingbats.

People ARE saying that she needs help, but they are doing it and framing it in an empathetic way that does not make the word or possibility of needing help some kind of grave insult or moral judgement.

It still doesn’t change the fact that OP is pushy, judgmental, and entitled. She is not owed access to the baby, and that goes doubly with the clear dislike and disdain she has for her sister, who would use a little extra handling with care right now.

You can help by cooking/delivering meals, etc. not insisting on coming in the house holding the baby.

I’m pretty sure op has said that the y won’t even take meal delivery from relatives

[Anonymous]

So glad my family members aren't like your sister. Can't imagine having to deal with a train wreck like her. Good luck..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shut up about how everyone is vaxxed and boosted. Guess what? That doesn’t stop them from spreading COVID.

Signed,
A person whose pastor BIL just led the funeral service for a FOUR YEAR OLD in the Midwest who died of COVID

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So glad my family members aren't like your sister. Can't imagine having to deal with a train wreck like her. Good luck..

OP is the train wreck. There is probably a good reason to avoid her.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but I think op has a right to be concerned about her sister who is not behaving normally. Her do has concerns and her family is concerned. Her untreated mental illness will negatively impact her child. Her do is suffering. Boundaries should be bent if that’s what it takes. Her dh can and should insist that she get help. Op and her family need to back dh up. Amazed that so many posters have failed to make the dinstinction between carful new parent and somebody who is suffering from mental illness. Friends and family should not ignore mental illness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She has a full time nanny. She’s not COVID-avoidant, she’s you-avoidant.

She has a full time live in nanny.

So? That nanny still has time off to do whatever she wants, she could be out licking doorknobs for all your sister knows. You realize this isn’t Downton Abbey and the help is allowed out of the house even if they live in, right?

[Anonymous]

BACK OFF.

Why are you trying to control this woman??? MYOB.

If she wants to be supercautious while she has a baby during a pandemic, that is HER call.

[Anonymous]

You are the sister in law from hell, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does your paediatrician sister have to say?

It doesn't matter. It's not her baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but I think op has a right to be concerned about her sister who is not behaving normally. Her do has concerns and her family is concerned. Her untreated mental illness will negatively impact her child. Her do is suffering. Boundaries should be bent if that’s what it takes. Her dh can and should insist that she get help. Op and her family need to back dh up. Amazed that so many posters have failed to make the dinstinction between carful new parent and somebody who is suffering from mental illness. Friends and family should not ignore mental illness

OP sounds mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like sister is keeping the baby hostage and not allowing her family to see it, even outside. OP stop trying to see it and let her do it on her own...with her nanny of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are the sister in law from hell, op.

It’s op’s sister.not sister in law