St. Barta and my inhibitions.
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Anonymous
| We are going there in March with two couples who have been there before and it’s clear that going topless is pretty normal. I’ve been topless at a beach but never with close guy friends so I’m definitely feeling uneasy. My husband said that there will be so many topless women that no one will pay attention to me and that if I’m nervous start the day with a couple of mimosas. Is he being cavalier or should I just go with the flow? FWIW at 38 and after 3 kids I’m in good shape but I’m no hardbody. |
Anonymous
| I'm female and felt like your husband about being topless around friends. I also really just don't care if someone checks me out. If youre not comfortable, don't do it. Or see how you feel at the time. |
Anonymous
| I am admittedly a prude and would never do it no matter how good I look. |
Anonymous
| Do you mean St. Barths? Never saw anyone topless there. |
Anonymous
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Your husbands attitude creeps me out a bit. Get drunk in the morning so you can sunbathe topless? What an odd encouragement.
I say you go with what youre comfortable with. Start out with your swim suit as normal. If you want to try it, then do! But dont feel pressured to do it, and dont drink to excess to twist yourself into thinking youre comfortable with something you aren't. |
Anonymous
| Americans are so repressed and ashamed of their own bodies. It is sad, really. |
Anonymous
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Do whatever you're comfortable with. Don't let your husband or anyone else pressure you.
This is honestly why I like nude beaches better than topless beaches. They force men to have a bit of skin in the game. Topless beaches are just gravy for men. |
Anonymous
| You really don't have to go along if you are uncomfortable. No one will judge you if you keep your top on. |
Anonymous
| Does your husband watch a lot of porn? His advice is very weird. |
Anonymous
| I’ve been there. They are plenty of women with and without their bikini tops. Don’t feel pressured into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
Oh stop it. I'm not repressed at all but don't feel like being pressured to get naked around my friends and their husbands. |
Anonymous
| Your husband’s attitude is ick. Is he trying to show you off? |
Anonymous
OP - here. He was joking about mimosas as I rarely drink. He was just telling me to relax. |
Anonymous
| We went with friends a few years ago and while I was initially inhibited it wasn’t an issue once you saw almost all of the women were topless. The fun part was convincing our husbands to visit the nude beach. All of a sudden the tide turned! |
Anonymous
| Ive not been topless on a topless beach but in other naked situations I have been in (like at Spa World) it took less than 5 minutes for the novelty to wear off. Then its just boobs. And everyone is showing them. So if you arent topless you are the exception. |