Just got ghosted

[Anonymous]

I just got back on the app- did not receive much traction - did my very best to have a decent profile ( updated clear photos, kept profile answers light and fun, was clear about my dating intention) met a guy - started off very slow and levelheaded. No love bombing - no excessive communication or penpal behavior and we had 2 pleasant dates.

Ghosted after planning a third date.

Whew it stings!

[Anonymous]

Definitely stings, but I am proud of you for putting yourself out there! Their loss!

[Anonymous]

If you didn’t have sex you were not ghosted

[Anonymous]

Call me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely stings, but I am proud of you for putting yourself out there! Their loss!

+1 better to find out now with that one OP. Keep trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn’t have sex you were not ghosted

I am a guy and think this is a dumb response.

[Anonymous]

I literally just posted this on the thread that mentioned people being flaky...It sucks but the whole window-shopping culture of dating is miserable.

I don't get it. I matched with someone over the weekend and we were having a good back and forth. We decided based on schedules to grab a bite to eat today. I had sent a message about watching the game last night and if she watched sports. I didn't hear back. Okay, no big deal. I made reservations for dinner and was going to send her the details, but we're not matched anymore. I'm like WTF happened? Oh well. I'll have a nice steak on my own.

[Anonymous]

When this happens to me I tell myself - they had HIV or are pedophiles or serial killers and I was sparred. You were sparred.. that’s all you can think.

[Anonymous]

OP - yes, it stings. But this is also the point of dating - to see if there’s a mutual interest. Trust that if she unmatched it means she’s not a person for you. Doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you

I’ve used it as a guide in how I communicate too - being polite and clear, and not ghost.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it sounds incredibly boring and like there was zero spark. Is this some kind of new OLD where you’re supposed to show as little interest as possible? If I really like someone I communicate. There’s a difference between “love bombing” and being excited to talk/email someone. You’re allowed to flirt OP and if there is zero flirting energy in the initial stages, them there’s no chemistry. It sounds like you are viewing this like a job interview process!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally just posted this on the thread that mentioned people being flaky...It sucks but the whole window-shopping culture of dating is miserable.

I don't get it. I matched with someone over the weekend and we were having a good back and forth. We decided based on schedules to grab a bite to eat today. I had sent a message about watching the game last night and if she watched sports. I didn't hear back. Okay, no big deal. I made reservations for dinner and was going to send her the details, but we're not matched anymore. I'm like WTF happened? Oh well. I'll have a nice steak on my own.

If you don't know from her profile she's into sports, a pretty lame suggestion.

[Anonymous]

Women do not get ghosted at nearly the rate that men do. So don’t worry this was just an outlier. If you were a man on the other hand, I would have told you to tighten your belt because it will happen again if you stay long enough on OLD

[Anonymous]

Ghosting is so rude. I would never talk to someone again after they ghosted me.

[Anonymous]

The love mating market is simply broken. The Left/Right swapping mania is making people think that better and better and better options are right around the corner. This lead to a very inefficient market. A good chunk endless keep swapping and hoping, another chunk get discouraged and leave the market, and others never even try because they know what await them. And that’s precisely the best outcome for these App makers. Ghosting has been remarkably mainstreamed and it’s frankly disgusting and rude. No wonder so many people are single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - yes, it stings. But this is also the point of dating - to see if there’s a mutual interest. Trust that if she unmatched it means she’s not a person for you. Doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you

I’ve used it as a guide in how I communicate too - being polite and clear, and not ghost.

I’m a woman. I thought there was mutual interest because we planned a third date.