Husband inviting random people to stay at Christmas
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Anonymous
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My husband and I live with our toddler, I am English but husband is from a community oriented culture where it’s common for many relatives to stay together in one house.
our families both live in a city quite far away, we have invited them plus his family friend (single 33F) to come to us for Christmas and stay at our house. It’s going to be quite crowded as we only have a small 3 bedroom house but that’s ok, I’m happy to have family stay. however his family friend has now asked if she can bring her sister and cousin (both of whom I’ve never met) to stay as well for Christmas, and my husband said yes without asking me. I’m not happy about adding people I’ve never met to an already crowded house over Christmas. I told the family friend this and she said her cousin has already booked flights to our city. Am I being unreasonable to expect them to stay in an Airbnb rather than with us? Obviously husband shouldn’t have told them it was ok without checking with me but also they shouldn’t be asking if they can bring extra people to stay over Christmas for an indefinite period of time (I think they’re intending to stay for new years as well). |
Anonymous
| I would tell them that you don't have space and if they come they will be on a twin air mattress in the living room. (you can get them cheap at walmart) |
Anonymous
| I would nip it in the bud immediately. “So sorry, there’s been a miscommunication…” Extend an invite for a holiday dinner, and that’s it. That’s more than enough. |
Anonymous
| That’s terrible, OP. You have my sympathies. I would be very upset with my husband. |
Anonymous
| He needs to uninvite them because if you let it go he will forever refer to how it worked out fine in 2023 so what's the big deal? |
Anonymous
| OP you should get an airbnb for you and your toddler. Leave DH with his house guests |
Anonymous
This is brilliant but go to a nice hotel with room service and daily housekeeping. Or, better, leave DH with the toddler and guests and you find a hotel with a massage and other perks. |
Anonymous
This is what I'd do. And I would do it with a lighthearted attitude so that everything would be stress free, at least for me. |
Anonymous
This. Who imposes on people on Christmas? |
Anonymous
Done cheap people wouldn’t care, then she will have randoms sleeping in her living room. Are all of these people sharing one bedroom??? One bathroom?? |
Anonymous
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This sounds like a troll, honestly, what with the single female friend of your husband's. Are you expecting us to jump all over that?
Anyway, if you're real, you have a serious husband problem. Where is he thinking of putting these extra people? Who is making the meals? Is he imagining YOU are going to do all that? I would make it so that he has to do most things. When he's not there, you order in - so he remembers how expensive it is. Tell him if he wants to invite random people, you will get yourself a nice hotel. |
Anonymous
| The idea of just going to a hotel is funny, but why should OP and her child miss Christmas morning in her own home? Is she supposed to set up stockings there while randoms sleep next to her tree? |
Anonymous
OP here- I wish I was a troll… this is real! She’s a family friend more of his sisters, nothing weird going on there. Just mentioned it to give background. Extra people will sleep on the spare bed, the couch or the living room floor. I guess I’ll be the one making all the meals… |
Anonymous
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OP, how many people are we talking about here?
I'm British and would definitely get a hotel with my toddler. Not kidding. |
Anonymous
| OP here- it will be the three of us, his parents, his sister, possibly my sister and possibly his other sister and his brother - plus this family friend and her cousin. I don’t want to pay exorbitant Christmas hotel prices when I can just stay in my own home! |