Have you ever told a manager to fu** off?

[Anonymous]

I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

[Anonymous]

No I haven’t.
But seems like this job and manager were a poor fit so good idea to move on. Wishing you well.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It felt good in the moment but was a poor choice. I had a good reason to be upset. The other managers had my back. Ultimately I chose to leave though. We were all super toxic and it was better to go. The business ultimately folded less than six months later. Too many managers in the kitchen, micromanaging the cooks. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

I didn't miss any of what you said they did. None of that justifies your own toxic behavior. I worked service and retail for 20 years. You were scheduled to work, you called out. It sounds like you called out in an abusive way. If you "never used profanity at work" how did you tell her to "f herself fat*ss"?

Either you cursed out your manager when you called in sick because you didn't like your schedule, or you're bragging about your toxic attitude while trying to paint someone else as toxic. To make it worse, you're pretending your behavior is normal and acceptable in "hourly positions" which is pretty insulting to everyone who works in an hourly position who manages to act like a professional grownup.

[Anonymous]

Yes under my breath. It was stupid. But he was terrible. And yes he heard me and glared but couldn't prove what he heard. We later got him fired.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

I didn't miss any of what you said they did. None of that justifies your own toxic behavior. I worked service and retail for 20 years. You were scheduled to work, you called out. It sounds like you called out in an abusive way. If you "never used profanity at work" how did you tell her to "f herself fat*ss"?

Either you cursed out your manager when you called in sick because you didn't like your schedule, or you're bragging about your toxic attitude while trying to paint someone else as toxic. To make it worse, you're pretending your behavior is normal and acceptable in "hourly positions" which is pretty insulting to everyone who works in an hourly position who manages to act like a professional grownup.

Op here. So my managers are allowed to be abusive kick things physically throw things and I am supposed to be professional and suck it up? I have had a few hourly positions and because it's so hard to find employees now they are allowed to be toxic and they won't get fired. Yes, when I was quitting I used profanity big deal. When people treat you badly you're allowed to do whatever you want. My manager isn't a god. If they want me to be professional then they should be professional themselves.
And it hurt me not to have enough hours. I have school fees and books to pay for. I know she did it intentionally.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it’s time to look into different kind of work

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it’s time to look into different kind of work

Op here. Definitely. Part of the problem is that I moved to Philadelphia. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough about the abuse from my managers. They would use profanity and insult each other and other coworkers behind their backs. The slamming and kicking and throwing stuff bothered me and made me feel unsafe. Once I explained this to my parents they told me to quit asap. If I were doing the job for a lot of money I wouldn't have chosen to be a server at a nursing home in memory care. I would have gone to a regular restaurant. I like seniors and wanted to be around them but I realized the environment is toxic. Also, the dishes and silverware were always dirty and servers would still use them. It was so gross and there was SO MUCH food that was wasted. Loads and loads of fresh food were dumped every day because they couldn't figure out how much to cook. These people are paying at least 6k to eat off of dirty plates, dirty silverware, and dirty drink glasses.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

I am sure they’re happy you’re gone.