Have you ever told a manager to fu** off?

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How old are you OP? I have never told anyone to do that. You just cannot if you want to have/ keep a job. Avoid ever doing it again.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any workplace you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

I am sure they’re happy you’re gone.

Op. Well, one manager has to work all my shifts this weekend so there's that 😆 no tips. Both managers are miserable people. They name-call each other when the other one isn't working. When the managers are unhappy it makes the entire environment dysfunctional. I have had other jobs and this wasn't the norm with managers. Sure employees sometimes don't like each other but managers are expected to keep it together. It's not typical for one manager to say, "the bit** who works tomorrow thought this would be a good idea." I heard stuff like this all the time. Every time they weren't happy about something which was always that person became a bit***. I'm happy to be able to focus on my school work so hopefully one day I can have a professional job and be treated better.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? I have never told anyone to do that. You just cannot if you want to have/ keep a job. Avoid ever doing it again.

With restaurant jobs, you can do whatever you want. They don't check references. OP did it when they were quitting. More employees should fight back. Has the pandemic not taught you anything?

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any workplace you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

I am sure they’re happy you’re gone.

Op. Well, one manager has to work all my shifts this weekend so there's that 😆 no tips. Both managers are miserable people. They name-call each other when the other one isn't working. When the managers are unhappy it makes the entire environment dysfunctional. I have had other jobs and this wasn't the norm with managers. Sure employees sometimes don't like each other but managers are expected to keep it together. It's not typical for one manager to say, "the bit** who works tomorrow thought this would be a good idea." I heard stuff like this all the time. Every time they weren't happy about something which was always that person became a bit***. I'm happy to be able to focus on my school work so hopefully one day I can have a professional job and be treated better.

Are you under age 20?

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any workplace you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

I am sure they’re happy you’re gone.

Op. Well, one manager has to work all my shifts this weekend so there's that 😆 no tips. Both managers are miserable people. They name-call each other when the other one isn't working. When the managers are unhappy it makes the entire environment dysfunctional. I have had other jobs and this wasn't the norm with managers. Sure employees sometimes don't like each other but managers are expected to keep it together. It's not typical for one manager to say, "the bit** who works tomorrow thought this would be a good idea." I heard stuff like this all the time. Every time they weren't happy about something which was always that person became a bit***. I'm happy to be able to focus on my school work so hopefully one day I can have a professional job and be treated better.

Are you under age 20?

Who cares what their age is? They are free to say anything. They are at-will employees. Restaurants are notorious for bullying. People like that will never learn by being nice.

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The reality is that unless you lead a very sheltered life, you will have to learn the art of telling people to f off. We were raised that "authority" can do whatever they want to us. Our parents and teachers taught us that we don't have the right to not get hit or yelled at. We had to be polite to adults when they were not polite to us. So we became very confused about what is appropriate and inappropriate and numb to the way we feel about the way others treat us because adversarial treatment has become normal to us.

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Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Man the meanest girls I met in my life have been fat to obese.

Women CAN be body shamed for being thin. I remember a fat one saying a girl who was her 'friend' was so thin she could float away.

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Yes, my bruh told his manager F* you over loudspeaker after being fired. Whole store heard it.

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Service workers are in shortage, just move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

No. I will be fine. They also clocked me out for breaks I didn't take which is illegal and I am considering reporting them for that. I sent a message to HR about not getting paid for hours I worked. Getting another service job won't be harder. I'm not thinking about my own advancement in the service industry? Not too many people want to advance because the environment sucks.