Have you ever told a manager to fu** off?

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

There is also no life judge. She/ he gets to decide what they will tolerate. OP can get another service job probably this weekend. They are a dime a dozen and she/ he owes them nothing.

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You are incredibly unprofessional OP. But you say you want a more professional job? Act like it then.

Always quit any job with grace, and don't burn any bridges - even if you feel you were treated unfairly. But you sound very very young - learn this now and don't ever do what you did ever again.

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How many jobs have you had in the last 5 years, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:You are incredibly unprofessional OP. But you say you want a more professional job? Act like it then.

Always quit any job with grace, and don't burn any bridges - even if you feel you were treated unfairly. But you sound very very young - learn this now and don't ever do what you did ever again.

I get the feeling she wasn't at the job for long and a reference from a restaurant means very very little. She may have not gone about it professionally but it's nice to hear they stood up for themselves. Unpaid work is also a very serious matter. If my child were going through something similar in college I would have them quit as soon as I heard all of this.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

No. I will be fine. They also clocked me out for breaks I didn't take which is illegal and I am considering reporting them for that. I sent a message to HR about not getting paid for hours I worked. Getting another service job won't be harder. I'm not thinking about my own advancement in the service industry? Not too many people want to advance because the environment sucks.

This is all I needed to read. Report her and move on. This happens a lot more than people realize.

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

No. I will be fine. They also clocked me out for breaks I didn't take which is illegal and I am considering reporting them for that. I sent a message to HR about not getting paid for hours I worked. Getting another service job won't be harder. I'm not thinking about my own advancement in the service industry? Not too many people want to advance because the environment sucks.

Okay well then sure, go nuts. You can bounce from crappy service job to crappy service job for ever, or at least until the labor market shifts and they have enough applicants to call your references.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not trying to be snarky OP, but you were out of line to call your boss a fat a%#.
Especially in a professional setting.

I can understand why you would be angry but name-calling is taking things a little too far in my opinion.

Plus like another person stated ->> you will need professional job references in the future so best to not burn any bridges, especially w/name calling.

Just some food for thought (No pun intended Btw.)

When people mess with your income people get nasty. The manager promised an income I.e. a certain amount of hours and then she didn't deliver on that and became nasty when I asked for it. That was personal. I was professional when I asked about my hours and I gave them 6 weeks to figure it out. I'm not going to be loyal to a job that doesn't value me and lies about what they are offering. I have had an internship at a non-profit for two years now so I do have that reference. I do agree that maybe I went overboard but managers in the service industry can be nasty too and they usually have no consequences for their actions.

OP, no manager is going to want to help you because you’re not a good investment for them. You have the maturity of a 14 year old. Even if you work hard, you can’t be put in a position with more responsibility because you won’t be able to conduct yourself professionally.

To clarify, the correct response to not getting the hours you want is to smile, work hard, and find another job. Everyone has bad managers and bad situations. But what you did accomplished nothing for you. Zero. You don’t have any job and getting the next one will be harder. What you did was not strategic at all. You’re not thinking in terms of your own advancement, you’re just lashing out like a child, like some magical Job Judge will come down and declare that you were right. There’s no Job Judge. You’ve only f$&ed yourself here.

No. I will be fine. They also clocked me out for breaks I didn't take which is illegal and I am considering reporting them for that. I sent a message to HR about not getting paid for hours I worked. Getting another service job won't be harder. I'm not thinking about my own advancement in the service industry? Not too many people want to advance because the environment sucks.

Okay well then sure, go nuts. You can bounce from crappy service job to crappy service job for ever, or at least until the labor market shifts and they have enough applicants to call your references.

Or maybe until they finish college. There are enough service jobs available that they don't need to accept this level of abuse.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

All that may be true, but there is never an excuse to call a manager (or anyone) a fata$$. That’s just ugly, in any context.

[Anonymous]

It would benefit you to learn to advocate for yourself without profanity and insults. Taking the high road reflects well on you. Immature behavior diminishes your valid message.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

All that may be true, but there is never an excuse to call a manager (or anyone) a fata$$. That’s just ugly, in any context.

It's equally ugly to body shame a thin person. The manager was constantly making jokes that I needed to eat a cheeseburger. I'm done being nice when I was not given the same respect.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Man the meanest girls I met in my life have been fat to obese.

Women CAN be body shamed for being thin. I remember a fat one saying a girl who was her 'friend' was so thin she could float away.

Float away? That's the dumbest thing I've heard it's hardy shaming. And it's nothing compared to how people talk about fat people. Beached whale.... for example. Get real.

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Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them.

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug.

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally.

All that may be true, but there is never an excuse to call a manager (or anyone) a fata$$. That’s just ugly, in any context.

It's equally ugly to body shame a thin person. The manager was constantly making jokes that I needed to eat a cheeseburger. I'm done being nice when I was not given the same respect.

Eat a cheeseburger is not equal to fat a$$.

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What are you doing on this site, OP? This doesn’t really seem like your demographic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional.

Ummm, maybe then you should start acting more professional. I mean, like-attracts-like, no?

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Anonymous wrote:How many jobs have you had in the last 5 years, OP?

I think we can all guess the answer to this question!