| For the first time ever I introduced my 7 year old son to the man I’m dating. Things have been getting more serious between us and thought it was time. My son behaved horribly making fun of my boyfriend all night. I’m mortified. Does anyone have stories of a poor initial meet up that went on to be a good relationship? |
| Call me. |
This dude got rhetorically destroyed by a 7 year old? |
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How long have you been dating?
How did you talk about this with your son prior to the meeting? |
| More details please. |
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In front of you?
My boyfriends teenage sons are fairly polite and civil to me in front of him. They are much less nice to me when he is around. Which feels very….manipulative. I haven’t decided yet if it’s a deal breaker |
| Lmao. Good for your son. |
Oh big typo sorry They are much LESS nice to me when he IS T around. Curt one word answer, unpleasant facial expressions. Nothing solid I can report to my boyfriend but just a very unfriendly vibe. I did not meet my boyfriend until two years after the divorce so no I am not the AP |
Curt one word answers sounds like how teens treat their actual parents. Unpleasant facial expressions? From immature teenage boys? Report it to Guinness Book! |
| Uhhhhmmmm. He's seven. He's either a little monster (in which case you'd have seen this before) or he is genius/picking up on something he doesn't like (dump the guy), or he's a normal kid who senses this guy will compete for his attention/affection- in which case- he is not ready to know you are dating/meet any of your boyfriends. |
| I judge parents by the way their children treat new acquaintances and behave in public. Your son's behavior is a reflection of your parenting. |
Well yeah. But it’s kinda weird that they know to be nicer to me when their dad is around, but when he is not around, they are rude to me. I mean I guess that’s a good sign he’s told the, or they know they have to be polite in front of their dad. But it feels weird to have them be ok when dad is around and rude when he isn’t. |
| What are you doing about it? |
We’ve been dating for almost two years. I told him that a friend would like come with us to the playground and asked if he was up for it. He said yes. We spent about an hour at the playground and it was a complete disaster! |
| That it went on "all night" and you either did nothing or it was not effective does not indicate good parenting. Maybe start there before you try to have a boyfriend. |