“Your baby isn’t invited.”

[Anonymous]

I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

[Anonymous]

Nothing in this country is kid friendly. Personally, I don't find that style for me so I just decline events if it's a PITA for me. To each his own

[Anonymous]

Nope. People don't want to childproof or change diapers or hear the crying/screaming. They want a few hours off from all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. People don't want to childproof or change diapers or hear the crying/screaming. They want a few hours off from all that.

These people are all first time parents, though. No one is screaming at their houses. They aren’t hosting in their homes so they aren’t childproofing and they definitely wouldn’t be changing other children’s diapers.

[Anonymous]

Sounds typical.

[Anonymous]

I've never been to a baby shower that included children.

[Anonymous]

No. Baby showers and events that take place before the baby is born are an adult gathering to celebrate the pending baby. They are not a childcare or child playdate.

Events like sip & sees or meet the new baby that occur after the baby are born are more likely to be child-friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. People don't want to childproof or change diapers or hear the crying/screaming. They want a few hours off from all that.

These people are all first time parents, though. No one is screaming at their houses. They aren’t hosting in their homes so they aren’t childproofing and they definitely wouldn’t be changing other children’s diapers.

Why do you think "people" refers only to guest of honor? It also means hosts and other guests as well. Some times all those people want a child free event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

No they are not. This is her day regarding her unborn child. If people bring their own children, they will be distracted. It’s like making an appearance, or something, instead of being fully invested.

[Anonymous]

I have been to both sorts and frankly prefer the ones with no little kids. But it’s up to the guest of honor and I have no issue going along with her wishes.

[Anonymous]

There are two kinds of baby showers, the woman-only kind where kids are not brought because the ladies are drinking and the both-sexes kind where everyone brings their kids. Personally I think it's more fun at the woman-only kind because the men are all sitting around awkwardly and you can't talk freely about birth, etc.

[Anonymous]

No one wants kids crawling around at any kind of party. If you don’t want to go, don’t. But FFS, most moms enjoy a few hours catching up with friends with a mimosa, and so what if someone is unwrapping gifts? There’s tea sandwiches and macarons. I’m having a good time, and Little Billy isn’t as cute as you think he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

[Anonymous]

I'm from a European country where kids are welcome everywhere, so I've never quite adjusted to this Anglo-Saxon concept of child-free events. I say Anglo-Saxon because it's the same in the UK, and some other English-speaking countries, not just the US.

On the other hand, having no babies at an event cuts down on the germ transmission, and it's true pregnant women have reduced immunity, so... consider it your sacrifice for the health of the mother to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. People don't want to childproof or change diapers or hear the crying/screaming. They want a few hours off from all that.

These people are all first time parents, though. No one is screaming at their houses. They aren’t hosting in their homes so they aren’t childproofing and they definitely wouldn’t be changing other children’s diapers.

I have two children. I have hosted half a dozen baby showers both before and after having kids. If my husband has taken my kids out of the house for a few hours, then I definitely don't want to smell shit, or hear kids crying, and when I'm throwing a nice party don't want to worry about a kid pulling down decorations, licking things, dropping food, etc.