“Your baby isn’t invited.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Here's a news flash: the only time children should be invited to an adult party is when they are adults. Nobody wants small children at adult parties even showers for expectant mothers.

That's as ridiculous as the OP. People can invite who they want to the parties they are hosting. If an adult wants to have a party that's for an adult, with a guest list that's mostly adults and and let guests know they are welcome to bring their children, they can do that. Plenty of people like seeing little kids at showers, and when those of us who do throw showers we can invite whoever we please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never been to a baby shower with children. Seems a low class thing to do. I suppose the hostess had to spell it out for the rude people who think their kids are invited to everything. Newsflash: no one wants a 2 year old around.

You show everyone who you are with the use of the phrase "low class." I am somewhat ambivalent on children at baby showers, but I don't socialize with people like you.

[Anonymous]

Guys all that matters is that it’s clear from the invitation. Please make it clear on the invitation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never been to a baby shower with children. Seems a low class thing to do. I suppose the hostess had to spell it out for the rude people who think their kids are invited to everything. Newsflash: no one wants a 2 year old around.

A low class thing to do like that disgusting chocolate diaper game?

I always assumed that baby showers were really about welcoming expectant mothers into a community of women and mothers. It’s abundantly clear that many women hate children and see them as a burden. The responses that women without available partners should just send gifts and stay home are really telling. Buy your own baby brezza and spare us the drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been to a baby shower with children. Seems a low class thing to do. I suppose the hostess had to spell it out for the rude people who think their kids are invited to everything. Newsflash: no one wants a 2 year old around.

A low class thing to do like that disgusting chocolate diaper game?

I always assumed that baby showers were really about welcoming expectant mothers into a community of women and mothers. It’s abundantly clear that many women hate children and see them as a burden. The responses that women without available partners should just send gifts and stay home are really telling. Buy your own baby brezza and spare us the drama.

I’ve lost track of who we’re hating on here.

[Anonymous]

Kids at adult celebrations are a big NO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids at adult celebrations are a big NO

A baby shower isn’t an adult celebration. It’s literally celebrating a baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids at adult celebrations are a big NO

A baby shower isn’t an adult celebration. It’s literally celebrating a baby!

Never had a baby shower due to covid and it does seem weird to me to exclude kids BUT a baby shower is probably not going to be a toddler friendly event either. There needs to be a toddler safe space for them to play and an extra set of eyes on them for the adults to be able to focus on the mom-to-be. When I have get togethers with parents of other toddlers - there's like some adult conversation but more monitoring of toddlers going on.

tired solo mom of 2 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been to a baby shower with children. Seems a low class thing to do. I suppose the hostess had to spell it out for the rude people who think their kids are invited to everything. Newsflash: no one wants a 2 year old around.

You show everyone who you are with the use of the phrase "low class." I am somewhat ambivalent on children at baby showers, but I don't socialize with people like you.

NP here. I understand what PP is saying, however. It is considered lower class to have kids at a non kids event. Maybe that tis not true in all circles, but that is true in certain circles. Certain events are for the adults. It's not a big deal, it just is.

[Anonymous]

All baby showers I’ve been to are adults only, maybe a little tiny baby. And I’ve thrown them, and they can be expensive to host- fancier foods and a lovely custom cake. When we were younger we had to co-host with other girlfriends because we *weren't* rich yet. We didn’t want to throw a backyard BBQ like any other weekend. Also at the time, it was expected to include mothers, aunts, grandmas and was a more genteel event, if I were looking for a word to describe it. YMMV.