“Your baby isn’t invited.”

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Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

Why self centered? I have no plan to bring my kid, I just think it’s bizarre to expect people to come to a party to celebrate a future baby and get sitters for their own. I hope those mothers don’t anticipate their children will be welcome at any of their friends’ parties anytime soon.

Like most people I know, I go because I have to. Does anyone enjoy baby showers? I truly can’t imagine why any adult would want to play the ridiculous shower games and watch presents be opened for an hour and a half.

You don’t have to. I absolve you from attendance at all future showers, provided you send a gift.

But other than a very new baby— which wouldn’t be smart to have in a group anyway but if it was a siblings shower or something— babies don’t really belong at showers. It’s not a playdate and it’s not about your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are two kinds of baby showers, the woman-only kind where kids are not brought because the ladies are drinking and the both-sexes kind where everyone brings their kids. Personally I think it's more fun at the woman-only kind because the men are all sitting around awkwardly and you can't talk freely about birth, etc.

At a baby shower? The guest of honor can't drink, it's rude to drink right in front of her at a party honoring her!

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I'm from a European country where kids are welcome everywhere, so I've never quite adjusted to this Anglo-Saxon concept of child-free events. I say Anglo-Saxon because it's the same in the UK, and some other English-speaking countries, not just the US.

On the other hand, having no babies at an event cuts down on the germ transmission, and it's true pregnant women have reduced immunity, so... consider it your sacrifice for the health of the mother to be.

Yes, I’m Jewish and the idea of child free lifecycle events is crazy to me — especially child free weddings. But we don’t traditionally do baby showers anyway so everything about baby showers makes me queasy. The sexism of it being female only, opening gifts in front of people, infantilizing games - yuck. I don’t have kids yet, before anyone accuses me of being an annoying parent.

[Anonymous]

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I'm from a European country where kids are welcome everywhere, so I've never quite adjusted to this Anglo-Saxon concept of child-free events. I say Anglo-Saxon because it's the same in the UK, and some other English-speaking countries, not just the US.

On the other hand, having no babies at an event cuts down on the germ transmission, and it's true pregnant women have reduced immunity, so... consider it your sacrifice for the health of the mother to be.

I bet your country has better behaved children and parents who watch them like hawks when they are visiting someone. I bet the hosts are allowed to discipline them too and ask them to follow the rules of the host's household.

[Anonymous]

Women and moms deserve a break from their kids and have a kid free event.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

If you truly feel the shower is a gift grab you are obligated to attend, send your regrets. This is not difficult.

[Anonymous]

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I'm from a European country where kids are welcome everywhere, so I've never quite adjusted to this Anglo-Saxon concept of child-free events. I say Anglo-Saxon because it's the same in the UK, and some other English-speaking countries, not just the US.

On the other hand, having no babies at an event cuts down on the germ transmission, and it's true pregnant women have reduced immunity, so... consider it your sacrifice for the health of the mother to be.

So different cultures have different traditions and norms? Even different European countries? Hmm.

Love it when Europeans throw the European card as if to say their way is better than any other way.

[Anonymous]

I brought my 7 year old daughter to a baby shower last month. The mother-to-be was my daughter’s babysitter and my daughter’s name was on the invitation. What’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I brought my 7 year old daughter to a baby shower last month. The mother-to-be was my daughter’s babysitter and my daughter’s name was on the invitation. What’s the problem?

That is not the same situation AT ALL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I brought my 7 year old daughter to a baby shower last month. The mother-to-be was my daughter’s babysitter and my daughter’s name was on the invitation. What’s the problem?

There isn’t a problem when the host has said kids are invited. When host said kids aren’t, you either go without your kids or you don’t go. No problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women and moms deserve a break from their kids and have a kid free event.

Of course they do. A baby shower is not a fun kid free event. The food is always paltry, the entertainment is dismal, the activities suck.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

Why self centered? I have no plan to bring my kid, I just think it’s bizarre to expect people to come to a party to celebrate a future baby and get sitters for their own. I hope those mothers don’t anticipate their children will be welcome at any of their friends’ parties anytime soon.

Like most people I know, I go because I have to. Does anyone enjoy baby showers? I truly can’t imagine why any adult would want to play the ridiculous shower games and watch presents be opened for an hour and a half.

So don’t go. You don’t have to do anything, are you 12? It’s also extremely rude to be complaining about how you dislike these events and whining behind the backs of the host and guest of honor. No one is forcing you to go any social event, get over yourself. Do everyone a favor and send a gift or just stay home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women and moms deserve a break from their kids and have a kid free event.

Of course they do. A baby shower is not a fun kid free event. The food is always paltry, the entertainment is dismal, the activities suck.

Some are and some aren’t. Kids and husbands were welcome at mine. I enjoyed it that way, but I also really appreciate kid free events. Not all showers have to have children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are two kinds of baby showers, the woman-only kind where kids are not brought because the ladies are drinking and the both-sexes kind where everyone brings their kids. Personally I think it's more fun at the woman-only kind because the men are all sitting around awkwardly and you can't talk freely about birth, etc.

At a baby shower? The guest of honor can't drink, it's rude to drink right in front of her at a party honoring her!

Oh please.

[Anonymous]

Ive seen plenty of men at baby showers, but no babies.