“Your baby isn’t invited.”

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Anonymous wrote:I've never been to a baby shower that included children.

NP and I haven't either. I hope that would be indicated on the invitation, something like "children welcome!" so I can decline the invitation.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been to and hosted many showers and never had children at any. It’s a time for a new mom to relax with friends and family, and an opportunity for other women to have a few hours of peace as well.

[Anonymous]

It’s a completely different proposition hosting a 12 adults only event vs. 12 adults + 10 children event. I

[Anonymous]

In our circles if you have a little baby they are welcome, but the general rule is not to bring kids who are mobile.

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My baby shower was co-ed and had kids. We had fun. The babies were easy and the older kids entertained each other. I think the parents who came were glad for a built in play date/activity for their kids. The fact that it was co-ed and pretty low key (no sitting in a circle opening gifts, no silly games) made it something everyone enjoyed.

Also, the co-hosts all had kids, so it would have been pretty annoying/burdensome for them to host if it was a no-kids event.

We were the last of our friends to have kids, which no doubt influenced this. Certainly I have been to showers without kids, but if you have kids later, you have to be realistic about your friends' ability to make time for events that don't involve kids. If I'd had a no kids shower, I'm sure it would have been fun too, but it would have been smaller and I'm certain that at least one or two people I really love wouldn't have been able to make it, or might have only been able to come for part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never been to a baby shower that included children.

+1

If y’all are the type who won’t watch your kid, stay home if you can’t leave him/her behind.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

So send a gift and don’t go? It’s not your party so you don’t get to dictate the guest list.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

It really isn't weird at all. Showers are traditionally adult women only.

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Are you insane? You are celebrating the mother to be. You don't want your two year old distracting everyone from that. Get a sitter or don't go. I hate parents like you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Did you never go to a shower before you had a kid? This isn't a recent shift. Other babies/kids are distractions. The hosts may not want to have to cater to having little guests by changing the menu or making sure the home or space is safe. It doesn't sound like you care to celebrate the mom to be, you should probably just take your toddler to the park so you can focus on him 100% since that's what you would be doing at the gift grab party anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

Why self centered? I have no plan to bring my kid, I just think it’s bizarre to expect people to come to a party to celebrate a future baby and get sitters for their own. I hope those mothers don’t anticipate their children will be welcome at any of their friends’ parties anytime soon.

Like most people I know, I go because I have to. Does anyone enjoy baby showers? I truly can’t imagine why any adult would want to play the ridiculous shower games and watch presents be opened for an hour and a half.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

Why self centered? I have no plan to bring my kid, I just think it’s bizarre to expect people to come to a party to celebrate a future baby and get sitters for their own. I hope those mothers don’t anticipate their children will be welcome at any of their friends’ parties anytime soon.

Like most people I know, I go because I have to. Does anyone enjoy baby showers? I truly can’t imagine why any adult would want to play the ridiculous shower games and watch presents be opened for an hour and a half.

They're not celebrating all babies, just the one unborn baby. What's not to understand? You had your shower, now it's their turn.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a two year old son. In the last two years I’ve been to several baby showers, and all of them have been child free events. Two of them said that they’d rather no babies because it wouldn’t be as fun for their mothers (lol, like watching the mother-to-be unwrap gifts and guessing how big her belly is with a ribbon is tremendous fun). The third specifically said that children are not invited. I wasn’t planning to bring my son (the shower falls during nap time) so I’m not offended, but I think this is strange! Am I wrong? Aren’t baby showers typically baby friendly?

Your two year old isn't a baby. A baby is different than a 2 year old toddler. No, they aren't always baby friendly and you have a toddler, not a baby.

I said that I’ve been to several in the last two years since he was born. I didn’t think I had to say both baby and toddler in the title for you to understand.

For those saying the hosts are probably tired of having children around, they were all hosted by the future grandmother. They don’t have small children and haven’t in decades.

Again, I didn’t plan on bringing my kid, but I think it’s very weird to celebrate a baby’s impending birth by banning other babies from attendance. A shower, which we all know is just a gift grab, really isn’t worth a sitter.

Then don't go.

You sound really self centered by the way.

Why self centered? I have no plan to bring my kid, I just think it’s bizarre to expect people to come to a party to celebrate a future baby and get sitters for their own. I hope those mothers don’t anticipate their children will be welcome at any of their friends’ parties anytime soon.

Like most people I know, I go because I have to. Does anyone enjoy baby showers? I truly can’t imagine why any adult would want to play the ridiculous shower games and watch presents be opened for an hour and a half.

No, but they'd be even worse if kids were there, too.