Relatives who always want to bring their dog!!!
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Anonymous
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Brother in law and wife super fun. They like to travel and like to stay free even more. Mother in law lives in nursing home here so when passing thru, they’ll stop by to see her. They always bring dog and I’m allergic so they stayed in hotel.
Now we built a tiny poolhouse - after saving for it for 10 years- built much ourselves -and they want to stay with us. Which we love their company but for same reason I didn’t want dog in house- don’t want in poolhouse. What would you all do? I feel like it’s so much when people in general add a pet to a visit. Unless the owners have encouraged it. But I don’t know how to handle. They seem to be so excited to stay with us. |
Anonymous
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What do you do? You make sure that they know, well before they come, that they cannot bring their dog anywhere on your property, including the poolhouse.
Do you want other people staying in your pool house? Because 25 percent of the population is allergic to dogs. You are not obliged to provide free lodging to their dog. |
Anonymous
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You say nothing. Your husband tells them no.
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Anonymous
| We'd love to host you guys, but, as you know, I'm allergic and we can't have Fido at the house, even in the poolhouse. |
Anonymous
| You just say no. "Sorry, we have a firm no dogs policy. Even for you, who we love visiting with." You are uncomfortable because you think you're being mean, but they're being mean to ask someone who's allergic. |
Anonymous
| You keep the boundary 100%. I've had relatives try to guilt me so many times. They'll have the dog in the car with them, and oh, it's so hot, and they'll only be here for a little while, please, just a few minutes inside. Nope, nope, nope. Several times they let it out and it promptly pooped on the grass. It's pooped on every relative's carpet except mine because it's never been inside. |
Anonymous
| People before dogs. |
Anonymous
| OP you’re not allergic to their dog. You just hate dogs. Admit it. |
Anonymous
I was going to disagree with you but then I re-read OP and it’s pretty clear you’re right. If it were sincerely allergies the cost/effort of building the pool house wouldn’t matter. Nor that a pet is “so much” to ask when visiting. But if the true concern were dislike:wear & tear from pets? Ah. Now it makes sense. |
Anonymous
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“We’d love to see you. The dog, however cannot stay here, even in the pool house. If you’d like to board the dog while you’re here, our friends recommend this place…”
Whether OP dislikes dogs or is allergic is irrelevant. The bottom line is that OP gets to say who comes into her home. The BIL/SIL don’t have to like it. But they do have to respect it. |
Anonymous
It's her property. If she has to tell a white lie, so be it. She shouldn't need to justify it. |
Anonymous
| Give them the phone number of a local pet boarding service if they want to stay with you. |
Anonymous
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If you are really allergic to dogs then you say that as the reason.
If you are not and you just don’t like dogs then you either need to continue the lie, or try it and see how it goes. Fwiw we have dogs and my kid has a bestie with dog allergies. She takes a Zyrtec before she comes over; she’s even spent the night ( not in same room as dog ms but dogs do generally go in that room too) |
Anonymous
Doesn't matter, if they don't want dogs in their house or pool house, they are allowed to say so. |
Anonymous
| We have no allergies, but we don’t allow dogs. Period, no exceptions. We just don’t like dogs-I love animals in general and that applies to dogs, but I actively dislike being around dogs. I have a cousin who I love but who won’t leave her dogs. So she doesn’t visit. It is what it is. |