I hate Mom Cliques

[Anonymous]

My DD just had her last day of K and I just found out ( bc one of DD’s friend moms posted pics on Facebook) that the moms of the group of 4 or 5 girls that DD became good friends with from her class arranged an after school get together with all the girls except for my daughter. And there’s no other reason I can find for this other than the fact that I’m not part of the Mom clique. I’ve arranged lots of play dates with these girls over the year and DD has been invited over to most of their houses as well, so I don’t think it’s a matter of them unintentionally excluding her.

It just makes me so mad and I can’t wait until DD is old enough to where the Moms aren’t so influential and involved in the social lives of their kids. Thank god DD is still clueless to these kinds of things, but I know that won’t last forever too. It just makes me feel terrible because she has been talking about having these girls over for a group playdate this summer and she’s clueless to the fact that she’s getting left out by the Moms.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP that was really crappy of them.

[Anonymous]

That sucks OP

[Anonymous]

It's been shocking to me to learn how many mean girls never grew up.

[Anonymous]

It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

I doubt it was unintentional. Sounds like OP’s kid has been in the mix all year with the other girls and this graduation is for the kids. So the normal, polite thing parents trying to raise good kids do is invite her. If these moms want an exclusive time out with good friends they should go out for drinks.

OP I’ve been there and DD is going into middle school and the same moms are still trying to push their kids together. It gets more pathetic every year. Best advice is to look for your own mom friends and also let your DD expand her circle a bit.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. Sixth grade parent still dealing with this crap and I’m so over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

So don't post it all over Facebook. Again, that's what's causing the bad feelings. Otherwise nobody would know. But, no, mean moms needed the likes and validation that they aren't friendless losers. Look at us!

[Anonymous]

OP, have the playdate! You can’t get upset about this sort of thing. Five kindergarteners is a lot. Smaller gatherings are okay. There is probably a sixth girl feeling left out too.

And for goodness sake get off social media.

[Anonymous]

I hate it too but just FYI these moms are still pulling this crap in 6th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

So don't post it all over Facebook. Again, that's what's causing the bad feelings. Otherwise nobody would know. But, no, mean moms needed the likes and validation that they aren't friendless losers. Look at us!

So don’t look at Facebook, if it affects you so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

Oh, it crossed their minds. They knew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have the playdate! You can’t get upset about this sort of thing. Five kindergarteners is a lot. Smaller gatherings are okay. There is probably a sixth girl feeling left out too.

And for goodness sake get off social media.

+1. If you are susceptible to feelings of FOMO the best thing you can do for yourself is to get off social media or at the very least mute your “mom friends”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It probably was unintentional. The 5 moms are good friends and just decided to have this get-together.

So don't post it all over Facebook. Again, that's what's causing the bad feelings. Otherwise nobody would know. But, no, mean moms needed the likes and validation that they aren't friendless losers. Look at us!

So don’t look at Facebook, if it affects you so much.

I'm not the OP. OP was upset by it and these threads occur all the time. If you're posting your intimate get togethers know that those you didn't invite may have feelings about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's been shocking to me to learn how many mean girls never grew up.

Mean girls grow up? Never. It's the only thing they are good at!