Any all-boy moms wistful about not having a daughter?

[Anonymous]

Friends are going with their tweens to Taylor Swift, making bracelets, etc. Such a bonding experience. It just hit me that I won't have that. I mean, I love my boys, but ... they like baseball, and I love their games and watch them, but it's not the same exactly, and sometimes I feel wistful!!

[Anonymous]

I used to be, but with every year, I love being a boy mom more. They're into nature and animals, and I enjoy that with them. I love planning trips for us and look forward to many more adventurous travels.

[Anonymous]

I really wanted a girl, but so glad I got a boy instead. Not missing Taylor Swift as I'd never want to go but we go to plenty of other bands together.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I’m so glad I don’t have the daily drama. I’m not a crafty or girly woman so maybe that has something to do with it, but there’s nowhere I’d rather be than their baseball games. I would hate having to acquire tickets and then deal with the Taylor Swift concert

[Anonymous]

I cried when I found out I was having a boy (thanks for making me believe boys suck, radical feminism!), but he's awesome.

[Anonymous]

No, but I have nieces and love buying cute things for them and chatting with them. Hopefully someday I'll have DILs that I'll be able to bond with. I'm fully bonded with both my boys.

[Anonymous]

Also, I'm pretty sure there are boys who wanted to go to Taylor Swift and plenty of girls who didn't.

[Anonymous]

I always wanted to be a girl scout leader so I would have liked to do that (boys scouts just isn't the same) but otherwise, I'm pretty happy with boys.

[Anonymous]

What makes me sad is the matrilineal bond is so much stronger. Boys do what the wife's family wants, often, leaving the boy-grandmother out in the cold.

[Anonymous]

I am, a little. Not because of T Swift (my boys would happily to go that concert!) but because I think it would be easier to have a friend relationship with an adult daughter than an adult son. However, I'm hoping my boys still want to hang out and go on coffee dates with me when they are adults!

[Anonymous]

I was sad when my second was a boy (and we knew we were done at two). But, now I am so grateful to only have boys. So much less risk of passing down all the eating disorder, enmeshment, etc toxicity from my own mom. I am able to see my kids as complete people totally separate from me and I can focus on who they are and what they need. I see other women projecting so much onto their daughters that it makes my heart ache. (Not that this doesn't happen with sons, I just see it more often with daughters.)

[Anonymous]

Nope. I had a great relationship with my mom and would have loved a girl. But especially now that they're teenagers, I'm so glad that I have 2 boys. So much less fraught.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I'm not into particularly girly things, so I thought whatever, nature and food and books are pretty gender neutral, but all my kids care about are vehicles, Legos, and video games. And books about vehicles, Legos, and video games. It's just hard for me to bond with them the same way as my husband who is *sincerely* into Legos and video games, as opposed to just attempting to meet the kids where they are. (On the other hand, im not a Swift fan, and one of my boys shares my love of metal.)

I don't foresee this getting much better as they get older, but whatever, my kids were going to have their own interests regardless of gender. More than that, I worry that men in our culture generally just don't have the same kind of emotionally close relationships with their moms as women as adults. Maybe there are individual exceptions but it is a norm. That makes me sad.

The funny thing is that my boys were wistfully wishing for a sister the other day too. I had to tell them you don't get to pick.

[Anonymous]

All-girl dad here. Life is great and wonderful, but...you know, still...

[Anonymous]

I'm just happy with the kids I have. I hope I would have been happy if I had had girls.

The only thing I miss is possibly coaching a girls' sport.