Any all-boy moms wistful about not having a daughter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you ladies who think your boys will be drama free, wrong. It’s the Wild West out there, and boys are caught up in so much drama, awful behavior, fighting, machismo, insecurity, caught up in being cool and they shut you out emotionally. Good luck to all of you.

You clearly do not have boys.

[Anonymous]

I only have sons. I went through a small anount of sadness when I was first pregnant, mainly because I “assumed” I’d have a girl (for no real reason). Since my first son was born I’ve not spent a minute wishing I had a girl, I just love him as a person. Nor did I wish my second was a girl (nor did I wish for a boy, I just didn’t care either way). My sons are great and I’ve enjoyed learning about their interests which sometimes overlap mine and often don’t, much the same I assume as if I had daugthers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you ladies who think your boys will be drama free, wrong. It’s the Wild West out there, and boys are caught up in so much drama, awful behavior, fighting, machismo, insecurity, caught up in being cool and they shut you out emotionally. Good luck to all of you.

Well I'm 12 years in and it has been nothing like this, so YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All you ladies who think your boys will be drama free, wrong. It’s the Wild West out there, and boys are caught up in so much drama, awful behavior, fighting, machismo, insecurity, caught up in being cool and they shut you out emotionally. Good luck to all of you.

Well I'm 12 years in and it has been nothing like this, so YMMV.

Yeah the real drama (for either gender) has not started by age 12. Lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

[Anonymous]

So many of you have such awful stereotypical reactions to raising daughters that it makes me even more worried for my girls. Not all girls are full of drama and not all boys are easier.

[Anonymous]

Such a disgusting premise of a thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Such a disgusting premise of a thread.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Such a disgusting premise of a thread.

+100000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

Why does a husband need to wish for a son any more than a wife needs to wish for a daughter? Some people truly just pray for a happy healthy family. I know that’s hard for some of you to believe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

Why does a husband need to wish for a son any more than a wife needs to wish for a daughter? Some people truly just pray for a happy healthy family. I know that’s hard for some of you to believe.

It's this simple. Guys have family pride. If you have only daughters, they will eventually not share your name and your grandkids and great grandkids will not share your name. Daughters only means the end of your family line. Very sad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

Why does a husband need to wish for a son any more than a wife needs to wish for a daughter? Some people truly just pray for a happy healthy family. I know that’s hard for some of you to believe.

It's this simple. Guys have family pride. If you have only daughters, they will eventually not share your name and your grandkids and great grandkids will not share your name. Daughters only means the end of your family line. Very sad

So a last name is the only thing that keeps the family line going?? I don’t think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

Why does a husband need to wish for a son any more than a wife needs to wish for a daughter? Some people truly just pray for a happy healthy family. I know that’s hard for some of you to believe.

It's this simple. Guys have family pride. If you have only daughters, they will eventually not share your name and your grandkids and great grandkids will not share your name. Daughters only means the end of your family line. Very sad

I feel very sad that you and your spouse view your family so transactionally, boys or girls. I’m sorry this has been your experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. This is normal. We are all daughters after all and it seems weird not to have one since it's the relationship we know. I've accepted it and I love my boys so much and happy with the family I have, but every once in a while I do get jealous of what I don't have and maybe what could have been.

This^. It's natural to want to have a daughter if you are/were a daughter.

My husband doesn’t have any sons, and if it bothers him or makes him “wistful” he hasn’t expressed it to me. I even offered to have another baby and he said it was not an issue. He is as close to the kids as I am.

Guy here. There is ZERO chance your husband does not wish he had a son. But he obviously doesn’t want a son enough to also want an additional kid (which may not even end up being a boy), so he made the right call

Why does a husband need to wish for a son any more than a wife needs to wish for a daughter? Some people truly just pray for a happy healthy family. I know that’s hard for some of you to believe.

It's this simple. Guys have family pride. If you have only daughters, they will eventually not share your name and your grandkids and great grandkids will not share your name. Daughters only means the end of your family line. Very sad

+1 this is so true

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Such a disgusting premise of a thread.

+100000

Why is it disgusting? Who are you to judge? This is a very deep, sensitive feeling for many people (clearly), so why dismiss it? You can love your sons and still have pangs of wondering what a daughter would have been like. You're not saying you wish you had different children. It's a yes/and. Do you see that? Explain why you're so disgusted?