Dating someone whose ex has full custody of their kids?
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Anonymous
| Would you like this because more time with your SO, or would it be a red flag? |
Anonymous
| Very, very, RED flag. Even if I not looking to have kids of my own. |
Anonymous
| On paper or is that it how it works for them in real life? Are they never seeing their kid? |
Anonymous
| Red flag. I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't trying their damndest to be the best parent they could be and if no custody is their best, then they aren't for me. |
Anonymous
| If someone has full custody, I assume it’s because they are vindictive & froze their ex out. |
Anonymous
| Huge red flag. Either the other parent fought for full custody and won it or this person freely signed away their rights. |
Anonymous
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RED FLAG.
IMO the best is every other week custody. That way you know he isnt an ass who didnt get custody of his kids, but you can be with him alone a full week every other week. I started out dating someone on that schedule and now he has full custody. Full custody sucks. He just doesn't have much time for me. If we break up, I am only dating guys whose kids have fully launched. |
Anonymous
it is VERY hard in this day and age to get full custody |
Anonymous
| No. It eiher means they are a dead beat or it means they have been dealing with parental alienation / vindictive ex and niehter is a cross I wish to bear. |
Anonymous
| What is their explanation for the fill custody situation? |
Anonymous
| It's a red flag you don't want to have kids with this person. |
Anonymous
| I can’t imagine being functional enough to get up in the morning, let alone date anyone, if I somehow found myself without custody of my kids. |
Anonymous
| In the case of my ex it means he was violent to me and kids and I had proof he didn’t want revealed so he didn’t fight for it. He also was an alcoholic with a porn addiction but that wouldn’t have affected custody. His GF thinks he moved for work. |
Anonymous
| Scarlet red |
Anonymous
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I do not know. It depends and is worth finding out more info.
One of my colleagues lives in an expensive city in a small place. The dad is remarried and lives in a spacious house so the kids live there. I am not sure if my colleague technically has shared custody or not but they don’t have room in their small place for kids. Money is an issue, I think. My colleague picks their kids up from school and sees them on weekends and holidays. |