8 student deaths so far this year at NC State
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Anonymous
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https://www.insidehighered.com/quicktakes/2023/02/13/8-students-have-died-nc-state-academic-year#.Y-uGmf9zTU0.link
What is happening? Our kids are hurting and this pressure is just too much! |
Anonymous
So what's changed in the past 20, 30, 40 years that makes suicide more common? |
Anonymous
| There is a mental health crisis amongst our young people. |
Anonymous
Yes, and schools are trying to build up counseling centers and mental health facilities but they aren't in a place yet to help all of these kids that are just suffering. It breaks my heart. |
Anonymous
Why? How did it get this way? |
Anonymous
Kids need more experience falling down and getting up again to learn that nothing is a fatal crisis. Some children live with so much fear borne of never having experienced getting back up from a fall. They don't realize they can do it. |
Anonymous
Do you read this board? The amount of insane pressure seeping out of the posts makes me uncomfortable. Average kid are seen as failures. They are pushed to do more and more and more. If you aren't, apparently you will left behind. If the parents posting here with the most intensity let on only a fraction of that intensity to their children, the pressure is immense. Not to mention social media's impact on mental health. And the pandemic, which was at a formative time for a lot of teens and young adults. There are many many articles about this. Go read them. Here's 2 I found in 5 seconds: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/11/19/teens-mental-health-parents-help/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/education/2023/02/13/teen-girls-violence-trauma-pandemic-cdc/ |
Anonymous
-covid fall-out---reactive depression: "we're back to normal so why do I feel so lost?" -social media, social media, social media |
Anonymous
| Parents allow electronics, teachers, daycare workers, Nannie’s, and coaches to raise their children, then expect them to be able to handle the stress and changes that come with college. They give them cell phones at 8 or 10 and that device quickly shuts out the parenting capabilities even more. They send them to schools that don’t even use textbooks and expect them to handle college life with note taking, writing, studying and reading from actual books and professional publications is often a requirement. They coddle them and cater to their every whim, claiming little Suzy doesn’t have time for learning how to cook, clean, do chores, plan a menu, learn finances because she has sooooo many activities. They don’t prepare them for the real world, too much coddling and not enough actual parenting. Then they get out on their own and lack basic skills and now college seems so much more difficult because someone missed how to adult 101 during the first 18 years of life. |
Anonymous
I don’t think we really know. Here are three theories: 1. Social media and technology. Less genuine human interaction, more watching other people seeming to be having a better time. Peer pressure, unrealistic body expectations, bullying. 2. Parenting that undermines resilience. Over programming and not letting children explore and fail leaves them unable to deal with any adversity. 3. A more competitive environment. Economic insecurity higher up the food chain, a winner-takes-all environment increases pressure on kids to get the best grades, work all the time, everything becomes goal-oriented rather than fun. And I am sure there are more. Take your pick. |
Anonymous
| This crazy admissions process does not help at all. kids try so hard and then it seems like they are playing a game and don’t even know the rules and the rules keep changing. |
Anonymous
| Its 100% social media. That's the big different between when we grew up and how they are growing up. That's it. |
Anonymous
Toxic home enviornment. Disinterested parents with bad marriages. Many people do not love their children or want to care for them. Look at all the parenting fails that are discussed all the time on DCUM. And mostly the DMV folks are educated, well off etc and in a better position to take care of their kids...but they don't. |
Anonymous
Only if you choose to participate in the process at the most competitive schools. Plenty of kids are getting their offers from the less selective schools. I mean, look at the thread from the person who was disappointed by her kid's four acceptances because she didn't think the schools were good enough. That's a sadly prevalent attitude. |
Anonymous
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Social media.
This is #1 what makes my kid unhappy. The high school brags only about students who get into top 25 schools. None of the others matter, I guess. My kid sees this on social and feels bad. They are an excellent student but they didn’t build a rocket or whatever you have to do these days for the elite schools. |