Head of School at National Child Research Center (NCRC) - Arrest warrant issued

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

All of these stats are based on reported cases. Nobody knows the true numbers. Rather than focus on how common or uncommon these crimes are and who perpetrates them, we should focus on trying to give our kids the tools to understand boundaries and tell us when they've been crossed.

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And any adult employed or volunteering in a job that involves contact with children should be required to undergo mandatory reporting training and a culture of facilitation of mandatory reporting should be created at the school. That includes boards, admins, etc. Ignorance is not an excuse. Mandatory reporting is the law. What to report is defined and restricted. That could have prevented both Toth and Carroll from having contact with vulnerable children.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

All of that is horrible but 10% isn’t “common.”

Wow, yes it is, SMH

You’re talking 10% of kids over their entire school career. Not 10% every day or every year. So no, it luckily isn’t common.

That study shows how deeply impacted each of those students were, and that parents should not be complacent. Because this does happen and is rarely reported, so talk to your kids about protecting themselves because everyone is at risk. Your money won't protect them.

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't file the lawsuit on 11/18 - it was filed much earlier, by the landlord. He just filed his response on 11/18.

Get what you’re saying but on 11/18 he requested a jury trial for this Monday on the case. Did he alert the board of either?

A jury trial is beyond the scope of simple landlord/tenant disputes. It would be interesting to see the exhibits and arguments brought by the landlord.

It is allowed under DC law in this scenario, thus his lawyer requested it.

The cases are completely unrelated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't file the lawsuit on 11/18 - it was filed much earlier, by the landlord. He just filed his response on 11/18.

Get what you’re saying but on 11/18 he requested a jury trial for this Monday on the case. Did he alert the board of either?

A jury trial is beyond the scope of simple landlord/tenant disputes. It would be interesting to see the exhibits and arguments brought by the landlord.

It is allowed under DC law in this scenario, thus his lawyer requested it.

The cases are completely unrelated.

I don't know anything about landlord/tenant disputes, but the fact that James requested a jury trial (or was wanting to even engage in a lawsuit at all) certainly suggests that he had no concern about this being linked to his personal activities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He didn't file the lawsuit on 11/18 - it was filed much earlier, by the landlord. He just filed his response on 11/18.

Get what you’re saying but on 11/18 he requested a jury trial for this Monday on the case. Did he alert the board of either?

A jury trial is beyond the scope of simple landlord/tenant disputes. It would be interesting to see the exhibits and arguments brought by the landlord.

It is allowed under DC law in this scenario, thus his lawyer requested it.

The cases are completely unrelated.

I don't know anything about landlord/tenant disputes, but the fact that James requested a jury trial (or was wanting to even engage in a lawsuit at all) certainly suggests that he had no concern about this being linked to his personal activities.

They don’t want to move out of rental and are exercising rights under DC law. Completely unrelated and landlord filed months ago. Coincidental timing.

He was using identifiable emails to create Discord accounts to share csa images. So no, not too concerned seeming.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He didn't file the lawsuit on 11/18 - it was filed much earlier, by the landlord. He just filed his response on 11/18.

Get what you’re saying but on 11/18 he requested a jury trial for this Monday on the case. Did he alert the board of either?

A jury trial is beyond the scope of simple landlord/tenant disputes. It would be interesting to see the exhibits and arguments brought by the landlord.

It is allowed under DC law in this scenario, thus his lawyer requested it.

The cases are completely unrelated.

I don't know anything about landlord/tenant disputes, but the fact that James requested a jury trial (or was wanting to even engage in a lawsuit at all) certainly suggests that he had no concern about this being linked to his personal activities.

They don’t want to move out of rental and are exercising rights under DC law. Completely unrelated and landlord filed months ago. Coincidental timing.

He was using identifiable emails to create Discord accounts to share csa images. So no, not too concerned seeming.

Interesting point. He was clearly very comfortable and confident and operating normally in his daily life. Quite a dual life operating that vile discord account since 2016.

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I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

One or two? You have no idea about what you are talking about.

What do you plan on doing when your child goes to Elementary school and lots of guys work there?

I make sure I chose a school that either never had this problem, or did but manage it perfectly fine and have a reputation to not put things under the rug. And I make sure they have a good policy, no hugs with teachers, nobody alone with a child…

Never that you know of. The school could either have had zero issues, which is what you see, or the school could have covered up every single one to make it invisible and it would appear the same to you. The latter is what my school did. It wasn’t that there was less abuse or no abuse, it was that it was covered up so well every single time.

[Anonymous]

It’s the Toth connection, obviously, and the length of tenure. And BVR is part of a group of elite interconnected schools and feeder preschools (including the closest DC gets to a British boys boarding school) so the number of people involved and aware is much higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

One or two? You have no idea about what you are talking about.

What do you plan on doing when your child goes to Elementary school and lots of guys work there?

I make sure I chose a school that either never had this problem, or did but manage it perfectly fine and have a reputation to not put things under the rug. And I make sure they have a good policy, no hugs with teachers, nobody alone with a child…

Never that you know of. The school could either have had zero issues, which is what you see, or the school could have covered up every single one to make it invisible and it would appear the same to you. The latter is what my school did. It wasn’t that there was less abuse or no abuse, it was that it was covered up so well every single time.

THIS. Never voice any potential abuse to the school. You’ll REGRET it. Always go straight to the POLICE to report your concerns. They’ll decide how to proceed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

—> EDUCATOR — SEXUAL —MISCONDUCT — REMAINS — RAMPANT <—

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

DP. Incorrect he worked at Beauvoir until 2016. We had him as our outplacement director.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure what the obsession is over BVR (and even allegations against STA and NCS) on this thread and not a single mention of Concord Hill. It’s clear there are posters with a grip against the Cathedral schools. This man hasn’t been on the close since 2008 and no allegations of misconduct have been made about made against him during that time. Why is it more likely to have happened at BVR and not CH?

He created the discord account while at bvr. That info is 3 days old so we have no idea the damage done while he was there. But it’s likely not great. He was at CH for only 1 year and was interviewing mid year. And well the creepy Toth 3rd grade connection at bvr. And the working relationship he continued to have with bvr while at ncrc too- when he left CH he was done.

He was at bvr for 10 years, ncrc since 2018. While at ncrc since 2018 he was talking, meeting with and visiting with bvr constantly. CH connection def not great but the bvr and ncrc damage seems so much worse.

The bolded is not true. He established his mobile phone account when he was at Beauvoir. He later registered the number associated with that phone on Discord accounts that he created. But that was years after he left Beauvoir.

[Anonymous]

Zero evidence^