Head of School at National Child Research Center (NCRC) - Arrest warrant issued

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Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

I doubt this is true. Have you ever been to an after school program? It’s crowded, chaotic and kids running around everywhere

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

I doubt this is true. Have you ever been to an after school program? It’s crowded, chaotic and kids running around everywhere

DP, these percentages are based on reporting data at the national level over many years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

That 39 percent is a lot higher if you include friends of family that come to the house (your inner circle)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

All of these stats are based on reported cases. Nobody knows the true numbers. Rather than focus on how common or uncommon these crimes are and who perpetrates them, we should focus on trying to give our kids the tools to understand boundaries and tell us when they've been crossed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

All of these stats are based on reported cases. Nobody knows the true numbers. Rather than focus on how common or uncommon these crimes are and who perpetrates them, we should focus on trying to give our kids the tools to understand boundaries and tell us when they've been crossed.

Right, and I would think that things at school would be reported and dealt with at a higher percentage than a child being afraid to tell what their uncle did to them.

[Anonymous]

Studies showing that 1 in 10 kids experience sex abuse by educators in schools by the time they graduate high school. 9 out of 10 sex abusers are male.

I think it's important to recognize our duty as parents to talk to our kids about protecting themselves, and to listen to our instincts when anything feels off about an educator, especially if they are male.

That being said, it is not parents' fault when this happens, that is a really cruel and inaccurate thing to tell parents who are wondering if their young child has been abused by this man. It's also not helpful to assume any male educator is a sex abuser.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

All of that is horrible but 10% isn’t “common.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

All of these stats are based on reported cases. Nobody knows the true numbers. Rather than focus on how common or uncommon these crimes are and who perpetrates them, we should focus on trying to give our kids the tools to understand boundaries and tell us when they've been crossed.

Right, and I would think that things at school would be reported and dealt with at a higher percentage than a child being afraid to tell what their uncle did to them.

According to this study only 4% of cases of sex abuse in schools are reported to authorities.
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/10790632221096421

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

One or two? You have no idea about what you are talking about.

What do you plan on doing when your child goes to Elementary school and lots of guys work there?

Or when your child goes to middle, high school, college as the # of male teachers/professors increases at each level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

All of that is horrible but 10% isn’t “common.”

Wow, yes it is, SMH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Studies showing that 1 in 10 kids experience sex abuse by educators in schools by the time they graduate high school. 9 out of 10 sex abusers are male.

I think it's important to recognize our duty as parents to talk to our kids about protecting themselves, and to listen to our instincts when anything feels off about an educator, especially if they are male.

That being said, it is not parents' fault when this happens, that is a really cruel and inaccurate thing to tell parents who are wondering if their young child has been abused by this man. It's also not helpful to assume any male educator is a sex abuser.

Per the stats given a few stages ago, most of that abuse occurs in high school. And if you've read the news lately -- even the local news -- you know that abuse is women teachers and high school boys with surprising frequency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies showing that 1 in 10 kids experience sex abuse by educators in schools by the time they graduate high school. 9 out of 10 sex abusers are male.

I think it's important to recognize our duty as parents to talk to our kids about protecting themselves, and to listen to our instincts when anything feels off about an educator, especially if they are male.

That being said, it is not parents' fault when this happens, that is a really cruel and inaccurate thing to tell parents who are wondering if their young child has been abused by this man. It's also not helpful to assume any male educator is a sex abuser.

Per the stats given a few stages ago, most of that abuse occurs in high school. And if you've read the news lately -- even the local news -- you know that abuse is women teachers and high school boys with surprising frequency.

* pages, not stages

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s crazy how people lose complete perspective in this area. It’s horrible this happened and everyone can agree on that, including NCRC, but to act like it’s this rampant problem with males in preschools isn’t true.
We have 3000 preschools in metro area, and lots of guys work at these schools. One or two cases, as evil as they were, does not mean that males shouldn’t work with children.
It’s not a common thing here, so get a grip, people.

The point is that the severity of and individual incident of sexual abuse is very high, even if uncommon. And certain institutions facilitate it - namely, ones that serve children and especially if they have a culture of hierarchy, secrecy, and placing protection of the institution reputation above other values; and do not have clear policies in place to make the risk of abuse outweigh the risk of a ding on the school’s reputation. This means that a high profile preschool or elementary school is absolutely the type of at-risk environment where abuse can happen. And yes we know that males are much more likely to be offenders.

So this means that if you send your child to a high profile institution with a lot of make caretakers … you should be wary if the school has a board that tightly controls the image and also if “cults of personality” seem to abound (“Mr Larlo is SO WONDERFUL! A little awkward with adults but so great with the kids …”)

Once again, chances are way higher that someone in your family or inner circle will abuse your child than a teacher at school.

Only 39% of abuser are from the family. 59% are acquaintances (schools, after schools programs, other children).

Link to where you got that statistic. And I’m guessing “acquaintances” also includes neighbors, family friends, boyfriend of mom, stepdad. In fact stepdads or men the mother is dating are the #1 offender. https://rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in

Sex abuse in schools is unfortunately common and mostly perpetrated by men.

But remember women can abuse kids in other ways (physical, verbal, emotional)

No, it is not common. Even one case of it is too much but as horrible as it is, it is thankfully not “common” in schools. It is much more common for kids to be sexually abused at their home or the perpetrators home than at school or anywhere else.

Educators are some of the most cherished members of our community. Arguably they play one of the most pivotal roles in our children’s lives, educating them in fundamental skills and promoting their social and emotional growth and well-being. However, in recent years there has also been increased media attention on cases of educator sexual misconduct. Sadly, these are not isolated incidents, as it is estimated that about 10 percent of students will experience educator sexual misconduct by the time they graduate high school.

A new large-scale, multistate survey of recent high school graduates about the nature and scope of educator sexual misconduct in Grades K-12 conducted by our lab found that almost 20 years after the publication of the Shakeshaft report, educator sexual misconduct remains rampant. Of the 6632 participants, 11.7 percent reported having experienced at least one form of educator sexual misconduct during grades K-12.

Similar to past research, we found that:

Most perpetrators were teachers (63.4 percent) or coaches/gym teachers (19.7 percent).
Most perpetrators were male (89.1 percent).
The majority of those who experienced educator sexual misconduct were female (72 percent), and in high school at the time, they experienced sexual misconduct.
Sexual grooming behaviors such as giving the student gifts, food, money, jewelry, and special attention were often reported.
There were low rates of reporting, and few reports resulted in the disciplinary action of the educator.

All of that is horrible but 10% isn’t “common.”

Wow, yes it is, SMH

You’re talking 10% of kids over their entire school career. Not 10% every day or every year. So no, it luckily isn’t common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Studies showing that 1 in 10 kids experience sex abuse by educators in schools by the time they graduate high school. 9 out of 10 sex abusers are male.

I think it's important to recognize our duty as parents to talk to our kids about protecting themselves, and to listen to our instincts when anything feels off about an educator, especially if they are male.

That being said, it is not parents' fault when this happens, that is a really cruel and inaccurate thing to tell parents who are wondering if their young child has been abused by this man. It's also not helpful to assume any male educator is a sex abuser.

Per the stats given a few stages ago, most of that abuse occurs in high school. And if you've read the news lately -- even the local news -- you know that abuse is women teachers and high school boys with surprising frequency.

Yes, in that study they surveyed recent high school grads, so it's not surprising that they primarily reported recent abuse. A high school grad may not even remember or understand how to characterize abuse that occurred when they were a young child (not that it doesn't affect them). A significant portion of the abuse reported by these kids was not in high school, fyi

But, I sometimes catch myself thinking my young child will always be little, but kids grow up and go to high school. All of this is relevant to the questions of:
- Are most perpetrators of sexual misconduct in schools male? Yes.
- Does most sexual misconduct in schools get reported? No.
- Should parents recognize all children are at risk, regardless of how perfectly they select their kids' schools, and have intentional conversations with their kids about protecting themselves? YES