Annoying vegan sibling

[Anonymous]

I can’t eat half your menu. I do eat ahead and pack snacks. But it source would be awesome to have my family member consider me when planning. If you did and still are all ragey, this isn’t about food. Your family dynamics are trash and it’s not just your sibling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dairy free non vegan raising hand. Please don’t buy fake dairy or meat. It’s not palatable. Meze is fantastic.

How about it’s one meal, someone was kind enough to invite you over, eat what you are served. Like a grown-up.

I don’t love fish. But I eat it if that is what is served. I fill up on sides. There was once where I didn’t enjoy anything offered at a dinner party. But I ate some, made pleasant conversation, and ate again at home. It’s one meal. It’s someone’s home, not a restaurant.

DP but in my case I assume if someone invites me over it’s to invite me over. Not to force me to eat something as a power play. Someone who can’t ask a caterer to add a vegan meal in 2021 is making as much a choice as the vegan sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I was starving and inhaled all the potatoes after being there for hours without eating (all the “heavy apps” were unsafe food choices for me). I was desperate. The veggie looked amazing but I was unable to see through my hunger. I’ll pack snacks next time.

Guess you were not that badly starving if you bypassed carrots and broccoli and green beans, and sweet potatoes. What a funny selective hunger and starvation mode you go in!

I'm vegan, and when I'm starving....nope, not doing broccoli and carrots. Gimme French fries and a greasy veggie burger.

Oh, so you are a vegan and you think the proper main dish... is an imitation of meat? A veggie burger is ok, but veggies are not? Lentils are not nor are beans? But, put them in a shape of meat! Voila!
I think we (not you, but most normal people) can all agree that we do hate vegans and with totally legit resons.

No, carrots and broccoli are not an acceptable main dish, which is what PP wrote. They said nothing about bean or lentil dishes. What is wrong with you?

I swear, anti-vegans are more militant than vegans. EAT YOUR CARROT STICKS AND BE GRATEFUL!!! Bet your parties are loads of fun 🙄

Ha, ha. So now vegans have to have an acceptable main dish! And here we're told, by many posters, that they are happy with side dishes and do not make demands of their hosts. They are just happy with a salad or whatevs! You prove the point. You are there are clearly many like you, who are not ok with just side dishes and are prima donnas and attention seekers who want special dishes. No doubt, it should not be just a beyond burger, I might have to mash the chickpeas myself and give you the label as to how the chickpeas were humanely sourced in India!

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dairy free non vegan raising hand. Please don’t buy fake dairy or meat. It’s not palatable. Meze is fantastic.

How about it’s one meal, someone was kind enough to invite you over, eat what you are served. Like a grown-up.

I don’t love fish. But I eat it if that is what is served. I fill up on sides. There was once where I didn’t enjoy anything offered at a dinner party. But I ate some, made pleasant conversation, and ate again at home. It’s one meal. It’s someone’s home, not a restaurant.

I’ll quietly not eat or find what I can. Forcing someone to eat food they aren’t favoring is TOXIC behavior. I don’t expect to be treated differently than another guest, and that includes expectations of my eating what I’m told like a child. That is not a host behavior, it’s an emotional response. I’d be bummed if didn’t like something I made too, but that could be any guest with any dish. My best friend is allergic to blue cheese…guess when I found out? At a special dinner I dumped a wad of $$ blue cheese into. I was more upset that she was put in the spot. Personally I can’t eat a lot of substitute foods, so no I want eat it anyway. But unless you’re making a point of watching me you prob won’t notice. You’re reaction is greater than it needs to be here btw.

You’re very amazing and special that you don’t like vegan cheese or processed vegan burgers or whatever. That doesn’t mean you CAN’T eat them. It’s one meal. Just like I don’t like many types of fish, but I CAN eat them. It’s one meal. It’s not that you “can’t eat a lot of substitute foods,” it’s that you prefer not to.

Of course I don’t make a point of watching what my guests eat. But if you’re obnoxious enough to turn up your nose at a veggie lasagna made with vegan cheese which I took extra time and expense to make, for you, because you’re vegan, then stay home. I will accommodate “vegan,” gladly. I won’t bother with picky, entitled, you-should-do-this-instead guests, no matter what their dietary restriction or preference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

That is the weirdest part to me. The sister is being put to zero inconvenience. Every caterer in DC will offer you a vegan option. Every single one. This is a made up problem by a very toxic sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t eat half your menu. I do eat ahead and pack snacks. But it source would be awesome to have my family member consider me when planning. If you did and still are all ragey, this isn’t about food. Your family dynamics are trash and it’s not just your sibling.

Well, honey, first you were Paleo. Then you were vegetarian. Then you were vegan. Oh wait, except the few times we saw you “cheat” and eat meat because “you couldn’t help yourself.” And then you were Keto. Blah blah blah. It’s always about you, you always make it complicated, and we’re over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

Oh well. You voluntarily follow a weird diet, so be prepared to be weird sometimes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dairy free non vegan raising hand. Please don’t buy fake dairy or meat. It’s not palatable. Meze is fantastic.

How about it’s one meal, someone was kind enough to invite you over, eat what you are served. Like a grown-up.

I don’t love fish. But I eat it if that is what is served. I fill up on sides. There was once where I didn’t enjoy anything offered at a dinner party. But I ate some, made pleasant conversation, and ate again at home. It’s one meal. It’s someone’s home, not a restaurant.

I’ll quietly not eat or find what I can. Forcing someone to eat food they aren’t favoring is TOXIC behavior. I don’t expect to be treated differently than another guest, and that includes expectations of my eating what I’m told like a child. That is not a host behavior, it’s an emotional response. I’d be bummed if didn’t like something I made too, but that could be any guest with any dish. My best friend is allergic to blue cheese…guess when I found out? At a special dinner I dumped a wad of $$ blue cheese into. I was more upset that she was put in the spot. Personally I can’t eat a lot of substitute foods, so no I want eat it anyway. But unless you’re making a point of watching me you prob won’t notice. You’re reaction is greater than it needs to be here btw.

You’re very amazing and special that you don’t like vegan cheese or processed vegan burgers or whatever. That doesn’t mean you CAN’T eat them. It’s one meal. Just like I don’t like many types of fish, but I CAN eat them. It’s one meal. It’s not that you “can’t eat a lot of substitute foods,” it’s that you prefer not to.

Of course I don’t make a point of watching what my guests eat. But if you’re obnoxious enough to turn up your nose at a veggie lasagna made with vegan cheese which I took extra time and expense to make, for you, because you’re vegan, then stay home. I will accommodate “vegan,” gladly. I won’t bother with picky, entitled, you-should-do-this-instead guests, no matter what their dietary restriction or preference.

Are you aware that some vegan cheese contain cashews? Hello, tree nut allergy anaphylaxis. You do you. Let other people take care of themselves as they need to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t eat half your menu. I do eat ahead and pack snacks. But it source would be awesome to have my family member consider me when planning. If you did and still are all ragey, this isn’t about food. Your family dynamics are trash and it’s not just your sibling.

Well, honey, first you were Paleo. Then you were vegetarian. Then you were vegan. Oh wait, except the few times we saw you “cheat” and eat meat because “you couldn’t help yourself.” And then you were Keto. Blah blah blah. It’s always about you, you always make it complicated, and we’re over it.

I don’t fit this stereotype. You’re in the Stone Age. Many people have varied dietary needs that are not based on a whim. And as others have shared. It’s a catered event. Not having an appropriate meal is absolutely a choice. And a controlling one at that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

Oh well. You voluntarily follow a weird diet, so be prepared to be weird sometimes.

It is 2021. Vegan is understood by every restaurant, every takeout app, every caterer, every grocery store...but it’s still weird for you? Sounds like a you problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

Oh well. You voluntarily follow a weird diet, so be prepared to be weird sometimes.

Cool. Can I get a plate and napkin or should I bring those as well? Do I get a spot at the grown folk table this time? Or do you need to prove some weird point that only makes sense to you, again?

[Anonymous]

What zip code are you in OP?

[Anonymous]

I can’t stop laughing at the lady angry at the vegan for eating too many potatoes, instead of being embarrassed she didn’t cook enough food. Is it 3 green beans and one slice of pizza lady?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have nothing against people being vegan, but when you have a fairly significant dietary restriction like that, I think the appropriate thing to do is offer to bring a dish to share to any family gathering.

For a casual family event, I totally agree. OP specified that this was a catered event with no vegan options. It would definitely be weird to whip out your tupperware at a catered meal.

Oh well. You voluntarily follow a weird diet, so be prepared to be weird sometimes.

Well then I’ll just DoorDash some decent food since I’m on my own, right?