Annoying vegan sibling

[Anonymous]

I'm happy to accommodate dietary restrictions when I host.

That said, if you have an especially restrictive diet and are attending a large social event, I think you should assume your needs won't be met and eat beforehand so you don't starve.

[Anonymous]

So mute her on Facebook (or delete the whole thing, who even has an fb anymore?) and ignore her going off at family events. There are a lot of very valid reasons to choose to be vegan or vegetarian. It sounds like your sister is being obnoxious but there is no reason to have a fit over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

That’s what everyone else except host poster has been saying.

I’m “host poster” (lol) and you don’t have very good reading comprehension bc this is what I’m saying—people who do it for attention make it other peoples problem.

Doing what for attention? Asking to to be included. How dare they? Terrible.

Choosing a totally optional diet that sets you apart from the entire rest of humanity and requires that a host of a large group event make a specificities menu just for you is not "asking to be included," it's just the opposite. It's asking that other people go out of their way to accommodate the ways in which you have excluded yourself and demanding other adjust to YOUR DECISION to set yourself apart.

[Anonymous]

Quinoa farming has displaced and caused the death of many lamas whose grazing lands are destroyed to grow the "superfood." Yet, quinoa is pretty similar in everything to most grains we have. WHy is it that vegans always have to have the last fad food? Us regular eating people are happy with... wheat and rice and corn.

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Anonymous wrote:People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

That’s what everyone else except host poster has been saying.

I’m “host poster” (lol) and you don’t have very good reading comprehension bc this is what I’m saying—people who do it for attention make it other peoples problem.

Doing what for attention? Asking to to be included. How dare they? Terrible.

Choosing a totally optional diet that sets you apart from the entire rest of humanity and requires that a host of a large group event make a specificities menu just for you is not "asking to be included," it's just the opposite. It's asking that other people go out of their way to accommodate the ways in which you have excluded yourself and demanding other adjust to YOUR DECISION to set yourself apart.

I’m sorry are you posting from 1952? Are you living under a bridge with no access to DoorDash or UberEats or Seamless? You realize Every Part of the food service industry does vegan menu items now? Amazing if only one person IN ALL OF HUMANITY follows this diet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m vegan. I know many of us are annoying, but I’m kind of horrified at the suggestions to serve nothing but broccoli or to cook things in bacon. I have had a couple friends who get extremely sick from eating meat, and adding things to people’s food is extremely unethical. How would you feel if someone intentionally fed you a food you found revolting without your consent? What if it was something you were allergic to and they wanted to prove a point that you were just being dramatic?

Many vegans get excited when they first start, as do many people who starts other diets, such as paleo, keto, weight watchers, or even just calorie restriction. Many have also struggled with lifelong disordered eating and need support, not criticism. Plus most vegans get into the diet for animal welfare reasons, which is a cause many are passionate about.

And often times there really isn’t anything for us to eat. Vegetarian is not vegan, so something with cheese or eggs doesn’t really help me. Most of the time at social gatherings, I’ll have nothing to eat but some vegetables, which is maybe 100 calories and not enough for fill me up. And equally as annoying are the people who mock me or try to cajole me into eating meat.

Can’t you just ignore the FB posts, like all of us have to do with every annoying political FB post we see? Can you offer sibling support, too? It’s not that hard to pick up a pack of vegan burgers and some vegan cheese for a cookout.

Veganism IS an eating disorder.

[Anonymous]

Lol. Since we’re just randomly shouting bizarreness into the void. I prefer margarita rocks to frozen ones. And colorful band aids instead of the skin color ones. Also if you come to my house I’ll be sure to find something you can comfortably eat and enjoy, even if it’s entirely different from anything we eat (unless you are a cannibal or diaper eater).

[Anonymous]

I think that if you choose to eat a diet so far out of the mainstream, you should be prepared to fend for yourself.

My husband happens to only eat halal. Yet he accompanies me to social gatherings and picks from the bread and vegetable plate, without talking about why he does it. In his mind, his diet is his business.

[Anonymous]

I started making sure that the vegetables sides were in fact just plant based and GF. This seems to work for vegetarians, dieters, gf free people etc.Frankly, they are far tastier than the green beans cooked in a casserole with flour, butter, cream and bacon.

I’ve noticed that if an older relative brings a vegetable side it’s loaded with cheese, butter, flour and usually has some meat like ham cubes or bacon.

[Anonymous]

If she were a cucumberarian, I’d think it weird. Not eating animal products is NBD. I’ll inform the caterer. And if you need a kosher or halal meal I can figure that out too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I started making sure that the vegetables sides were in fact just plant based and GF. This seems to work for vegetarians, dieters, gf free people etc.Frankly, they are far tastier than the green beans cooked in a casserole with flour, butter, cream and bacon.

I’ve noticed that if an older relative brings a vegetable side it’s loaded with cheese, butter, flour and usually has some meat like ham cubes or bacon.

Thank you. Our family is moving towards this style and the elders are enjoying the lighter versions (thankfully). We put out slabs of cheese for them to nosh separately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do some people seem to become such narcissists about their eating? Sibling turned vegan which is fine, but has to advertise it all the time, post drama about it on FB, and complain when there is "nothing she can eat" at catered family gatherings (that have vegetarian options). It's like a made-up disability concocted around food hat people then seek attention for.

I experience the opposite (and I"m only vegetarian). Grilling me on why? Dramatically proclaiming they could NEVER not eat meat. etc.

Why is it so hard for people, when you know you are inviting veggies over, to offer a SINGLE offering. I wouldn't invite you over and not have a meat dish. Someone else's dietary needs or preferences are really none of your business. And while you may not agree with veganism/vegetarianism, that is also not your concern. There are valid reasons -health and other reasons- to choose that.

If you're going to host. Be a good host. Otherwise, who's the narcissist here? You're criticizing, judging . . . . you're as bad as she is.

You really would cook meat to serve? Just so you know, that is really awkward. Just cook something vegetarian that is an actual entree. No one expects meet to be served at a vegetarian’s dinner party.

When I have vegans or vegetarians over in a group, I might serve meat but I also have a vegan dish that can serve as an entree, like red beans and rice.

People are making this much more difficult than it needs to be. There is a lot of lovely food in the world that can be vegan without changing a thing or adding fake products. Why not pick one of those dishes? I host weekly and accomodate all sorts of guests. I find keto the most annoying diet to cook for because they always seem to eat everything anyway, even though I go out of my way to have several balanced Keto-only options. If you are going to eat the carbs anyway, don’t even mention your restriction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that if you choose to eat a diet so far out of the mainstream, you should be prepared to fend for yourself.

My husband happens to only eat halal. Yet he accompanies me to social gatherings and picks from the bread and vegetable plate, without talking about why he does it. In his mind, his diet is his business.

Again the issue is not how good a hostess someone is. It's the vegan's need to be vocally distressed as if it is a crisis. "There's nothing I can eat! [standing in front of salad]."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that if you choose to eat a diet so far out of the mainstream, you should be prepared to fend for yourself.

My husband happens to only eat halal. Yet he accompanies me to social gatherings and picks from the bread and vegetable plate, without talking about why he does it. In his mind, his diet is his business.

Where do you live that veganisn is considered outside the mainstream? I can’t think of a single restaurant that doesn’t have a vegan option.

[Anonymous]

The NYT cooking subscription is great for vegan dishes.