Annoying vegan sibling

[Anonymous]

People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

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Anonymous wrote:Dairy free non vegan raising hand. Please don’t buy fake dairy or meat. It’s not palatable. Meze is fantastic.

How about it’s one meal, someone was kind enough to invite you over, eat what you are served. Like a grown-up.

I don’t love fish. But I eat it if that is what is served. I fill up on sides. There was once where I didn’t enjoy anything offered at a dinner party. But I ate some, made pleasant conversation, and ate again at home. It’s one meal. It’s someone’s home, not a restaurant.

I’ll quietly not eat or find what I can. Forcing someone to eat food they aren’t favoring is TOXIC behavior. I don’t expect to be treated differently than another guest, and that includes expectations of my eating what I’m told like a child. That is not a host behavior, it’s an emotional response. I’d be bummed if didn’t like something I made too, but that could be any guest with any dish. My best friend is allergic to blue cheese…guess when I found out? At a special dinner I dumped a wad of $$ blue cheese into. I was more upset that she was put in the spot. Personally I can’t eat a lot of substitute foods, so no I want eat it anyway. But unless you’re making a point of watching me you prob won’t notice. You’re reaction is greater than it needs to be here btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

That’s what everyone else except host poster has been saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the lettuce sandwich with lettuce and mustard, sis. I best go take a nap. Stuffed. Phew.

😆 I literally got one of those once. A "wrap", wrapped with lettuce (not an actual wrap), stuffed with lettuce and a small scoop of canned black beans.

That's so sad.

Cold unseasoned beans? BE GRATEFUL!!! ITS PROTEIN!!!

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I learned something new today. Potatoes are not vegetables vegetables.

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Anonymous wrote:As a person who mostly follows a Whole Food Plant based diet (I still have half/half in coffee), when I am invited to an event or out to a particular restaurant I ALWAYS, ALWAYS eat before I go. Some of my friends know how I eat and will ask what can they prepare for me. I typically tell them do not fuss over me and as long as there is salad and fruit I will be OK. Normally, there are some sort of veggies as side dishes that I can enjoy.
I never say I am vegan simply because I don't want the fake processed vegan cheese, meats or anything else labeled "vegan". If the ingredients on a box, jar, can, etc have items other than an actual food, it stays on the shelf.
I find other people make more of a big deal about the way I've chosen to eat than I do. I try to move the conversation away from my food choices, so I don't have to hear and educate the "Where do you get your protein question, which ALWAYS comes up.

Why even say you’re vegan then? Do you get it? Just eat beforehand, eat what you eat, and leave.

It's helpful for pp to speak up. The host doesn't waste food if there are individual servings and if possible, as a host I'd rather have something for those with dietary restrictions.

So then say you’re vegan, but don’t sneer at what it specially purchased and made for you. I care enough to accommodate your vegan restriction and will feed you with a vegan entree and several vegan sides. I don’t care if you sneer because I chose to serve a lasagna with vegan cheese, or a vegan burger, or what have you. Sneer and complain and you will not be invited back, and I won’t socialize with you further, because you are rude, entitled attention-seeking.

I'm the PP. Not sure who you are asking this question to, but like I said, I DON'T say that I am vegan (because technically, I'm not) and I don't want the host to purchase and cook fake meat, fake cheese products, etc. because I don't like the taste of them and I don't want to feel obligated to eat something that was prepared especially for me. I ALWAYS eat before I go to an event and once there I can usually find something to fill my plate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vegan and vegetarian are different. Make her a salad.

Often salads aren’t vegetarian, let alone vegan.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do some people seem to become such narcissists about their eating? Sibling turned vegan which is fine, but has to advertise it all the time, post drama about it on FB, and complain when there is "nothing she can eat" at catered family gatherings (that have vegetarian options). It's like a made-up disability concocted around food hat people then seek attention for.

I experience the opposite (and I"m only vegetarian). Grilling me on why? Dramatically proclaiming they could NEVER not eat meat. etc.

Why is it so hard for people, when you know you are inviting veggies over, to offer a SINGLE offering. I wouldn't invite you over and not have a meat dish. Someone else's dietary needs or preferences are really none of your business. And while you may not agree with veganism/vegetarianism, that is also not your concern. There are valid reasons -health and other reasons- to choose that.

If you're going to host. Be a good host. Otherwise, who's the narcissist here? You're criticizing, judging . . . . you're as bad as she is.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do some people seem to become such narcissists about their eating? Sibling turned vegan which is fine, but has to advertise it all the time, post drama about it on FB, and complain when there is "nothing she can eat" at catered family gatherings (that have vegetarian options). It's like a made-up disability concocted around food hat people then seek attention for.

I experience the opposite (and I"m only vegetarian). Grilling me on why? Dramatically proclaiming they could NEVER not eat meat. etc.

Why is it so hard for people, when you know you are inviting veggies over, to offer a SINGLE offering. I wouldn't invite you over and not have a meat dish. Someone else's dietary needs or preferences are really none of your business. And while you may not agree with veganism/vegetarianism, that is also not your concern. There are valid reasons -health and other reasons- to choose that.

If you're going to host. Be a good host. Otherwise, who's the narcissist here? You're criticizing, judging . . . . you're as bad as she is.

These people are beyond. Whenever I hear someone loudly proclaim that, I immediately think less of them. I mean, really? You're so set in your ways and dependent on the death [b]of other beings that you could NEVER not eat meat?? I think it shows a lack of intelligence and critical thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m vegan. I know many of us are annoying, but I’m kind of horrified at the suggestions to serve nothing but broccoli or to cook things in bacon. I have had a couple friends who get extremely sick from eating meat, and adding things to people’s food is extremely unethical. How would you feel if someone intentionally fed you a food you found revolting without your consent? What if it was something you were allergic to and they wanted to prove a point that you were just being dramatic?

Many vegans get excited when they first start, as do many people who starts other diets, such as paleo, keto, weight watchers, or even just calorie restriction. Many have also struggled with lifelong disordered eating and need support, not criticism. Plus most vegans get into the diet for animal welfare reasons, which is a cause many are passionate about.

And often times there really isn’t anything for us to eat. Vegetarian is not vegan, so something with cheese or eggs doesn’t really help me. Most of the time at social gatherings, I’ll have nothing to eat but some vegetables, which is maybe 100 calories and not enough for fill me up. And equally as annoying are the people who mock me or try to cajole me into eating meat.

Can’t you just ignore the FB posts, like all of us have to do with every annoying political FB post we see? Can you offer sibling support, too? It’s not that hard to pick up a pack of vegan burgers and some vegan cheese for a cookout.

Exactly. So leave an extra 10 minutes early for the cookout and pick some up for yourself. Easy peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

That’s what everyone else except host poster has been saying.

I’m “host poster” (lol) and you don’t have very good reading comprehension bc this is what I’m saying—people who do it for attention make it other peoples problem.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a vegetarian since I was 8 (much to my meat-eating family’s chagrin), and I’ve tried to go vegan countless times but I’ve found that it makes for awkward social situations, so I’ve begged off each time. I married a vegetarian man, so our house is almost vegan anyway (with dairy free cheese and the like), but I do eat regular dairy so that I’m not a pariah at parties, lol. It’s a real concern.

[Anonymous]

IDK, I probably come at it from a different perspective. My ASD son is an extreme picky eater. We generally mention that so that people understand he won't be eating a ton. But, we neither expect nor want the host to go out of his or her way to make my child something special, as we make clear. We just feed him a bit beforehand, and encourage him to find one thing there that he can tolerate a little bit of.

[Anonymous]

Can’t you just ignore the FB posts, like all of us have to do with every annoying political FB post we see? Can you offer sibling support, too? It’s not that hard to pick up a pack of vegan burgers and some vegan cheese for a cookout.

That's not really how it works. People who are serious about being vegans will not eat food cooked on the same grill as meet, even if the food is vegan.

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Anonymous wrote:People like this give those with dietary restrictions a bad name. I am a pescatarian and I would never expect people to cater to me - I bring my own food or happily eat sides, etc. it’s not other people’s problem that I’ve CHOSEN to eat this way.

That’s what everyone else except host poster has been saying.

I’m “host poster” (lol) and you don’t have very good reading comprehension bc this is what I’m saying—people who do it for attention make it other peoples problem.

Doing what for attention? Asking to to be included. How dare they? Terrible.