In your social circle how much cheating is going on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I had the same experience, and it was probably more like 80% of the men cheated. It was also quite out in the open on business travel. My theory is that all men want to cheat and if the shame of it is taken away and the opportunity is there, they will.

When I got divorced, so many married male friends came on to me, and yes, including the types that I wouldn't have thought. No idea what % of my social circle is cheating but the correct answer is "most" men if they could.

Agree: most married men would cheat if they "could" and the difference comes down to opportunity. Men who are super attractive, tall, wealthy, high status have opportunities without effort. That is a pretty elite group.

But the other 95% of married men have to really WORK for it. And let's be honest: most married men are just not that sexy where any sane woman wants to smash that (wedding ring and all). Most men have to actively pursue a long line of uninterested women (looking at you PP), fight through this wall of rejection, finally to create a single "cheating opportunity".

Men who are sexually satisfied at home rarely would even consider doing all this extra work! It's hard enough to pursue the wife, forget about pursuing even more lady drama! Men who are NOT sexually satisfied at home it's a no brainer, these men will even go to pathetically desperate measures to meet their sexual needs (like coming on to recently divorced PP).

not true about your last statement. Many men will cheat even if they're sexually satisfied at home. Many want something new.

Also many men won't give in to opportunity because of who they are (value family etc.).

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Studies show, you are who you hang out with. Cheaters and divorcees tend to associate with one another. They don’t get disapproval amongst their friend group and even encourage one another. Women who tell others how great cheating is and how much happier you will be divorced, etc. Hos tend to hang out with other hos and cheating bros with other cheating bros.

This.

That’s why for some, everyone they know does it.

Others don’t actively associate with people with such different ethics/morals.

[Anonymous]

I don't talk about my sex life with friends (not cheating) and have never had a friend offer up insight or info on theirs. Only time one has is when her spouses was cheating and asked for a divorce.

There is one other couple I know where I have suspicion. I accidentally witnessed what i would consider clandestine activity. But it also could be nothing, I don't know. Though now if I heard they were splitting, I would assume my suspicion was correct. But they aren't and seem happy, who knows.

[Anonymous]

In our social circle little, if any, cheating is going on though you never know. But at our club one social circle has had quite a few divorces so there has certainly been plenty of cheating. Most are in their 40’s and early 50’s which seems to be prime restless time.

We are both 61 and we still have a very active and very fun sex life so neither of us gives the other a reason to cheat. But it’s not just sex that keeps us from cheating.

[Anonymous]

Out of my entire of childhood friends, college friends, grad school friends, kid's friend's parents that I became friendly with, coworkers and neighbors I know of two.

One was my college housemate whose wife basically shut down after the first kid . Probably sever port partum. My housemate (36 at the time) started sleeping with the daughter (22) of his neighbor. She'd moved home after college. This went on for a good while, maybe a year. His wife never found out.

Two was a girl I knew in HS. She married young (26) and her husband was on some fast track at AOL at the time. He was, surprise, surprise, screwing his admin.

That's out of a circle of 150 + people.

More probably goes on but nowhere near what others would have you believe. There's simply no way everyone is capable of hiding all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Out of my entire of childhood friends, college friends, grad school friends, kid's friend's parents that I became friendly with, coworkers and neighbors I know of two.

One was my college housemate whose wife basically shut down after the first kid . Probably sever port partum. My housemate (36 at the time) started sleeping with the daughter (22) of his neighbor. She'd moved home after college. This went on for a good while, maybe a year. His wife never found out.

Two was a girl I knew in HS. She married young (26) and her husband was on some fast track at AOL at the time. He was, surprise, surprise, screwing his admin.

That's out of a circle of 150 + people.

More probably goes on but nowhere near what others would have you believe. There's simply no way everyone is capable of hiding all that.

Cheaters always say everyone does it and that does come down to who they hang out with and what happened in their own families. 24% and 10%, men and women, is hardly everyone. 75-85% don’t.

[Anonymous]

I know of 3. All women. No intention of divorcing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

I said, “Everyone I know.” I didn’t say I hang around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

I said, “Everyone I know.” I didn’t say I hang around them.

How do you know someone if you don't hang around with them? Do you think you 'know' every actor in every film you've ever seen?

[Anonymous]

Open relationships are becoming the new normal. Seems the older generations haven’t caught up to idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Open relationships are becoming the new normal. Seems the older generations haven’t caught up to idea.

“Older generations?” Like, millennials? Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Out of my entire of childhood friends, college friends, grad school friends, kid's friend's parents that I became friendly with, coworkers and neighbors I know of two.

One was my college housemate whose wife basically shut down after the first kid . Probably sever port partum. My housemate (36 at the time) started sleeping with the daughter (22) of his neighbor. She'd moved home after college. This went on for a good while, maybe a year. His wife never found out.

Two was a girl I knew in HS. She married young (26) and her husband was on some fast track at AOL at the time. He was, surprise, surprise, screwing his admin.

That's out of a circle of 150 + people.

More probably goes on but nowhere near what others would have you believe. There's simply no way everyone is capable of hiding all that.

Wow, what a horrible housemate to go after a 22 yo daughter. Do you still hang around this slimeball?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know does. I could care less and that’s on them.

You need to hang around better people.

I said, “Everyone I know.” I didn’t say I hang around them.