In your social circle how much cheating is going on?
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Anonymous
| I don't know but I also don't think I would know. I've been blindsided by divorces in the past so I don't think I have any insight into other people's relationships. I particularly think that something like infidelity, which only one partner knows about within the marriage, is something it would be very strange to expect that I could suss out from the outside. |
Anonymous
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I will never know because its not something I would ever talk about with anyone. If a friend approached me to confide, I would cut them off. Too much drama. Not interested. My DH would never randomly say "Hey Steve is cheating on Nancy with his assistant."
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Anonymous
He wouldn’t? Why not? I think desperately not wanting to know is as odd as searching out this kind of information. |
Anonymous
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It's so hard to know in social circles. I have a few friends marriages who blew up post cheating, and that's how we all found out, but socially ongoing affairs seem well hidden...
At work however, OMG. When I taught at a private high school here in DC there was SO MUCH cheating going on, not very well hidden. We all talked about it. And my husband works in a lots-of-travel non profit and many of his co-workers seem to be enjoying their freedom too much. I am so curious about how they are doing during the COVID year... |
Anonymous
| Most people don't talk about it because of the gossip and stigma their kids would face. It happens way more than anyone knows. In fact, there are probably several 'happy marriages' you know of that have been rocked by it. |
Anonymous
| None that I know of. But I’m 37, maybe it is still coming. |
Anonymous
How old are you? I used to say then I was in my twenties and thirties. Then I was cheated on. And I still felt alone, but now I sadly hear about marriages breaking up all the time because of it. Every time I hear it, it hurts. This is in NW DC, Bethesda, and Chevy Chase, families with kids in private schools. As far as I know, no one in my immediately family has ever cheated - or would ever do it in the future. My parents have been happily married for 50 years. |
Anonymous
PP here. Oh yes, I remember being 37 and knowing no one! |
Anonymous
She's going through life with blinders on. And pretending she's above it all. Unfortunately, that's how many women feel before they discover infidelity in their own marriages. |
Anonymous
| No one that I know of. |
Anonymous
| I worked in a company for 10 years (investment banking) and there were so many affairs. To the extent it was surprising when someone wasn’t having one. It got to the point that I thought it was a relatively normal thing for people to do, particularly post 40 years old. I’ve now moved to a different industry (tech). It probably still happens but I certainly see no evidence of it. |
Anonymous
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At an international NGO I worked at, I went to HH with coworkers and one of the senior guys on our team was obviously flirting with this younger colleague. I worked in a doctor's office and there was so much cheating. All the senior doctors would flirt with and have affairs with the PAs and assistants. |
Anonymous
| Two out of 15 couples in our friend group. I wouldn’t be shocked to find out there is one more. Beyond that I would be really shocked. One of them is not us (both working from home and not having left the house much since last March I can say my husband is not cheating on me, not that I thought he ever was). |
Anonymous
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I think you usually only hear about it if they divorce. And, even then some will not divulge it so it doesn't get back to their children via town gossips.
I think there are many more suffering in silence. It is incredibly hard to go through. Very isolating. |
Anonymous
| In my early and mid 30s, seemed like many of my guy friends cheated. Now mid 40s, seems to have died down but who knows |