Boyfriend won't leave ex-wife alone

[Anonymous]

Come on OP. It's time to DTMF. He's not the one for you. It doesn't matter if this situation would not bother other women. It bothers you (it would bother me too). You deserve better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just the mere fact that your S/O knows how you feel yet refuses to cease communicating is a clear sign that your feelings are not a priority for him.

You need to speak w/your ex - you two are co-parenting.

That is so different than maintaining a friendship w/an ex.

OP: I agree. When I bring it up, he says I'm "jealous" and that I throw a "tantrum" when I can't have all of his attention for myself. Eyeroll forever. It has absolutely nothing to do with his attention, and everything to do with who he's giving it to.

Your story keeps getting worse and worse. Please have some self-respect and dump him. Your kids deserve better if nothing else.

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Anonymous wrote:OP: For those asking, she doesn't know about me, and I've never met her. I've asked many times if I could meet someone so important to him. BF says it's none of her business what his love life is like now.

If all of the other things weren’t a red flag for you (which they should be), then this is the GIANT red flag you need to accept.

To play devil's advocate, what should OP do, exactly? Sit over her boyfriend's shoulder and watch him tell the ex about his new girlfriend? I don't know how that's enforceable.

She should get some dignity and dump him. I mean, wtf?

She should but if pps are right and she blew up her marriage for the BF She's probably having a hard time admitting she messed up. Even if that's not the case and there was no affair still seems like she's worried about calling it quits and pulling the plug on another "failed" relationship

That's my understanding of OP too, or else it would be pretty simple to call it quits with a boyfriend who clearly has no respect for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just the mere fact that your S/O knows how you feel yet refuses to cease communicating is a clear sign that your feelings are not a priority for him.

You need to speak w/your ex - you two are co-parenting.

That is so different than maintaining a friendship w/an ex.

OP: I agree. When I bring it up, he says I'm "jealous" and that I throw a "tantrum" when I can't have all of his attention for myself. Eyeroll forever. It has absolutely nothing to do with his attention, and everything to do with who he's giving it to.

Op, you’re an affair. You’re his side piece. He won’t tell his ex-wife about you, because his ex-wife will stop talking to him if she knows he’s sleeping with someone else. You’re his #2. She is his #1. Either agree to that position, or throw him out and move on with your life.

Seriously, I watched my BIL do something similar. He got a divorce and a girlfriend, and never told his ex-wife or daughter about the girlfriend. Girlfriend put up with it for five years. She finally insisted on meeting his daughter. Guess what happened? They broke up. It only worked for him if his ex-wife didn’t know about her. I am sure his ex-wife thinks they’ll get back together someday. BIL wants to keep that fantasy going because it makes his life easier. Keeping that part of his life the way he wants it was more important than keeping his gf happy. She was a lovely girl, I’m sorry to see her go, but for her own sake I’m glad they’re done. No one should be happy with being a secret for years on end. It’s not okay.

How's someone an affair if he's not married...? np

Op dated the guy for two years before the divorce was final. It’s in another thread.

Oh for the love of God! Thread over. OP- Wtf do you think when you cheat with a cheater? He’s going to be a great catch?

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Anonymous wrote:Why did they divorce?

OP: He initiated it, but he has expressed regret over it. When I sat there with my mouth open listening to him talk about his regret, he backtracked and said "Regret over HOW I did it. it was abrupt and cold." Yeah...

Have some self-respect and move on.

[Anonymous]

He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: For those asking, she doesn't know about me, and I've never met her. I've asked many times if I could meet someone so important to him. BF says it's none of her business what his love life is like now.

If all of the other things weren’t a red flag for you (which they should be), then this is the GIANT red flag you need to accept.

To play devil's advocate, what should OP do, exactly? Sit over her boyfriend's shoulder and watch him tell the ex about his new girlfriend? I don't know how that's enforceable.

OMG! He doesn't want op to meet his ex, because she is not just the ex!
This is the case of more like it is not ex-business to meet op, as he doesn't want to upset his true love. He is sleeping with both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

He knows he made a mistake of cheating on the wife is what I meant to say.

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Anonymous wrote:He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

He knows he made a mistake of cheating on the wife is what I meant to say.

Yes. He does not have kids with the ex and the fact he’s in constant daily communication about the smallest things and reminiscing together makes it clear he’s not over it. You are not a true love or his “one”. He f@cked up cheating on that one and he knows it.

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Anonymous wrote:He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

He knows he made a mistake of cheating on the wife is what I meant to say.

Yes. He does not have kids with the ex and the fact he’s in constant daily communication about the smallest things and reminiscing together makes it clear he’s not over it. You are not a true love or his “one”. He f@cked up cheating on that one and he knows it.

Just read he was with her for 20 years. Yeah- u are the midlife screw mistake, OP. No substance there. They probably both regret divorcing over you.

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Anonymous wrote:He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

He knows he made a mistake of cheating on the wife is what I meant to say.

Yes. He does not have kids with the ex and the fact he’s in constant daily communication about the smallest things and reminiscing together makes it clear he’s not over it. You are not a true love or his “one”. He f@cked up cheating on that one and he knows it.

Just read he was with her for 20 years. Yeah- u are the midlife screw mistake, OP. No substance there. They probably both regret divorcing over you.

Where was that?

[Anonymous]

You either need to learn to accept it or leave. This isn’t a new situation, it’s been this way the whole time.

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Anonymous wrote:He loves the wife and has zero respect for you. He knows he made a mistake.

He knows he made a mistake of cheating on the wife is what I meant to say.

Yes. He does not have kids with the ex and the fact he’s in constant daily communication about the smallest things and reminiscing together makes it clear he’s not over it. You are not a true love or his “one”. He f@cked up cheating on that one and he knows it.

Just read he was with her for 20 years. Yeah- u are the midlife screw mistake, OP. No substance there. They probably both regret divorcing over you.

Where was that?

It came out in pieces. First post was he has known ex-wife for 20 years...throughout the thread it’s leaked she was cheating with him for 2 years of the guy’s marriage...and more bits and pieces. It’s easy to see what happened. I agree somebody said she most likely ditched her own marriage for him and it’s not turning out like she hoped.

[Anonymous]

This sounds awfully like our resident op of I divorced and am in a wonderful relationship now. Her kid was 6, then 7, and she refused to hear out the nanny that told her this was way too fast. She then posted about her sister not being supportive, and then she did a few role reversal posts.

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Anonymous wrote:This sounds awfully like our resident op of I divorced and am in a wonderful relationship now. Her kid was 6, then 7, and she refused to hear out the nanny that told her this was way too fast. She then posted about her sister not being supportive, and then she did a few role reversal posts.

I was wondering if it was the same OP. I don’t think the timing matches but this and that OP is a liar so how long this has been going on is probably not the truth. Still can’t get over that this person is a side piece to a grown man with a Pooh obsession. 😆