I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Functional families and marriages very quickly adapted to the challenges of this pandemic. Lots of dysfunctional families and marriages are struggling though.

Many people are terrible parents anyways and cannot handle parenting if childcare to some extent is not outsourced. Poor children. They didn't ask to be born. And not to these parents.

This. It shouldn't be such a surprise to most people but apparently it is.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to hear the kids’ points of view from all these sitcom families.

Me too. A lot of parents think that they have the perfect suburban family, but the kids often think otherwise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

NP here. It is super easy for me. My teens are doing great and I am doing great. DL is working out fine. My kids don't have attitude because I have devoted a lot of time in raising them and have not outsourced their care to others. Only today I was thinking that except for the loss of meeting people in a social setting, the pandemic has turned out to be pretty good. We are able to effectively quarantine ourselves, eat good food, stay in comfort in our home and get along with each other.

I agree with others who have mentioned that the "pseudo"-parents who never spent time with their children are now finding them tedious.

You sound like a wonderfully empathetic person...not. Please go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

NP here. It is super easy for me. My teens are doing great and I am doing great. DL is working out fine. My kids don't have attitude because I have devoted a lot of time in raising them and have not outsourced their care to others. Only today I was thinking that except for the loss of meeting people in a social setting, the pandemic has turned out to be pretty good. We are able to effectively quarantine ourselves, eat good food, stay in comfort in our home and get along with each other.

I agree with others who have mentioned that the "pseudo"-parents who never spent time with their children are now finding them tedious.

You sound like a wonderfully empathetic person...not. Please go away.

If you or your kids are not happy the first thing you have to do is look at why and make changes. Its starts with the adults, not kids. We're having no issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

NP here. It is super easy for me. My teens are doing great and I am doing great. DL is working out fine. My kids don't have attitude because I have devoted a lot of time in raising them and have not outsourced their care to others. Only today I was thinking that except for the loss of meeting people in a social setting, the pandemic has turned out to be pretty good. We are able to effectively quarantine ourselves, eat good food, stay in comfort in our home and get along with each other.

I agree with others who have mentioned that the "pseudo"-parents who never spent time with their children are now finding them tedious.

You sound like a wonderfully empathetic person...not. Please go away.

If you or your kids are not happy the first thing you have to do is look at why and make changes. Its starts with the adults, not kids. We're having no issues.

The hubris is mind-blowing. Good luck...with your attitude you’ll need it

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

NP here. It is super easy for me. My teens are doing great and I am doing great. DL is working out fine. My kids don't have attitude because I have devoted a lot of time in raising them and have not outsourced their care to others. Only today I was thinking that except for the loss of meeting people in a social setting, the pandemic has turned out to be pretty good. We are able to effectively quarantine ourselves, eat good food, stay in comfort in our home and get along with each other.

I agree with others who have mentioned that the "pseudo"-parents who never spent time with their children are now finding them tedious.

You sound like a wonderfully empathetic person...not. Please go away.

If you or your kids are not happy the first thing you have to do is look at why and make changes. Its starts with the adults, not kids. We're having no issues.

x1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

NP here. It is super easy for me. My teens are doing great and I am doing great. DL is working out fine. My kids don't have attitude because I have devoted a lot of time in raising them and have not outsourced their care to others. Only today I was thinking that except for the loss of meeting people in a social setting, the pandemic has turned out to be pretty good. We are able to effectively quarantine ourselves, eat good food, stay in comfort in our home and get along with each other.

I agree with others who have mentioned that the "pseudo"-parents who never spent time with their children are now finding them tedious.

You sound like a wonderfully empathetic person...not. Please go away.

If you or your kids are not happy the first thing you have to do is look at why and make changes. Its starts with the adults, not kids. We're having no issues.

x1000

x1001

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

If you are very happy and contented by pandemic life, I feel a little bad that your normal life is so boring and mundane. Sounds terrible.

+1. These are the most boring people in the universe, the ones who don't care that they can't see friends because they don't have many, or extended family because they don't get along. What is especially disturbing about it, however, is that they are trying to pretend that this is a "new normal" that we should all adjust to. Sorry, I'm not playing.

It could be that we are boring or it could simply be that we are smart, adaptable people who aren’t afraid of spending time with ourselves. If you aren’t very interesting or interested then of course you need to fill all your hours with people and random activities else the sound of the wind blowing through your head can get loud. Learn how to entertain yourself. Jesus there are literally endless opportunities to learn something, to do something to make something good out of this even if it just a better you. We are 7 months in and you all are still having fits. No matter how much you whine and scream and complain, not one thing will change the way you want it to. The ONLY thing you have power over if how you choose to respond to the current circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

If you are very happy and contented by pandemic life, I feel a little bad that your normal life is so boring and mundane. Sounds terrible.

+1. These are the most boring people in the universe, the ones who don't care that they can't see friends because they don't have many, or extended family because they don't get along. What is especially disturbing about it, however, is that they are trying to pretend that this is a "new normal" that we should all adjust to. Sorry, I'm not playing.

It could be that we are boring or it could simply be that we are smart, adaptable people who aren’t afraid of spending time with ourselves. If you aren’t very interesting or interested then of course you need to fill all your hours with people and random activities else the sound of the wind blowing through your head can get loud. Learn how to entertain yourself. Jesus there are literally endless opportunities to learn something, to do something to make something good out of this even if it just a better you. We are 7 months in and you all are still having fits. No matter how much you whine and scream and complain, not one thing will change the way you want it to. The ONLY thing you have power over if how you choose to respond to the current circumstances.

+1

[Anonymous]

The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

[Anonymous]

Well I was sick of my teenage son’s antics before Covid. It’s about the age, not the parenting or circumstances. Similarly he was sick of our rules.

It’s a age appropriate response for 16+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

The process of learning independence and responsibility is not that of conflict and rebellion in a functioning household/family. My kids started to learn independence and domestic skills much before their teen years. They are mature and self-aware enough to know that this pandemic situation is an anomaly. They are more capable than many adults to find ways to keep themselves gainfully occupied during this period. You give your kids time, respect and consideration and they will give you back the same. Please don't be a snowflake or raise a snowflake. Most of us are employed, healthy and have a roof over our heads. Teach them to be grateful for their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I was sick of my teenage son’s antics before Covid. It’s about the age, not the parenting or circumstances. Similarly he was sick of our rules.

It’s a age appropriate response for 16+.

Part of it is parenting, especially when you refuse to look at your parenting and change to better meet your child's needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

We prepare ours but spending time together and doing things together from cooking to laundry to understanding money....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teenage years are supposed to be for slowly separating from parents and learning independence. That's a completely natural process and hard to do right now. So parents and teens who are ready for that next step, but can't do it are understandably frustrated.

People are "aren't having any problems" with their teens at home might be in for a surprise when the day eventually comes they need to step out on their own.

We prepare ours but spending time together and doing things together from cooking to laundry to understanding money....

+ 1

Model good behavior and habits, spend time with them, create a loving family & home life for them, give them a sense of security, listen to their concerns, understand and parent the child you have so that they have wings and roots. Show some empathy.

This is a pandemic that will end one day. It is a waiting game but we can choose to really use this time well and emerge stronger. This is a golden opportunity for everyone to spend quality and quantity time with their children, with their parents, with their spouse - and support each other.