I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aw your post makes me sad. Yeah it can be an age that - as a parent - makes you want to stick forks in your eyeballs sometimes but I actually love teenagers ( not just mine, their friends/peers/classmates) and in many ways it’s been my favorite stretch of parenting.

Eh, toddlers were my favorite stage of parenting and yet many people on this board wanted to give theirs away. Some kids are easy, some aren't. This isn't an easy time for many people. Sometimes I can't even stand my own life because I am way more active and extroverted than the pandemic allows. Some days I want to give away every single person in my house, dogs and cats included, for a little while. It doesn't make us bad parents. It doesn't make us bad people. It doesn't mean we are not committed or that we wish our kids didn't exist. And, it doesn't mean that we don't want to see our kids. These are just unprecedented times and it's hard on everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

[Anonymous]

Listen I want both my kid and husband to GTFO. It doesn't make me a bad parent or wife, I've just had enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

Go find your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

+1000. The people flaming the OP are not going through this. Every parent of a teen wants them out of the house. It is unnatural and unhealthy for teens to spend 24 / 7 at home with parents. They need to get out of the damn house and be with friends and other adults. It’s destroying mental health on both sides of this. It’s been seven damn months. And the electronics / social media make it a thousand times worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

I’m way more concerned for parent/teen combos who are totally happy spending gobs and gobs of time together at home. Not developmentally normal.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know if you can OP, but we have found getting away to somewhere different for a week to be very restorative. We did it once in the summer and are currently in a rented house in another state for a week. We drove both times. Our DCs did remote learning from here (there were only 3 days of DL last week). DH worked but I took most of the time off and checked in to work a couple of times remotely.

Also, we let our DCs spend time occasionally with a limited number of friends outside and I find our kids are both trustworthy at mask wearing. Mine are 12 and 15.

We have blowups in our house too and then we take several deep breaths and try to get back on a positive track.

DL is also really awful for one of my DCs, mild ADHD has morphed into a huge problem when the structure of in person learning is gone. I try and take it one day at a time and not let setbacks derail our slow but steady progress in establishing (and her accepting) her needed structure at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One day I was thinking “And this is why 18th century parents sent their teens off to apprentice with other people.” Throughout human history, no one has really wanted to spend this much time with their teenagers. Its unnatrual.

this is great

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

+1000. The people flaming the OP are not going through this. Every parent of a teen wants them out of the house. It is unnatural and unhealthy for teens to spend 24 / 7 at home with parents. They need to get out of the damn house and be with friends and other adults. It’s destroying mental health on both sides of this. It’s been seven damn months. And the electronics / social media make it a thousand times worse.

-1,000,000 We have 3 teens at home. We're having a great time. For a while we were waiting for the other shoe to drop but it is pretty clear that it isn't going to.

Tolstoy says something like (bad paraphrase) 'all happy families are alike while each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.'

I don't know why you're having such troubles but you might want to think about what you're doing. What's working and what's not. Then try correcting items on your what's not list. It doesn't seem to me like kicking the kids out the door solves anything other than gets rid of your symptoms.

Address your real issues otherwise it is like putting lipstick on a pig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

If you are very happy and contented by pandemic life, I feel a little bad that your normal life is so boring and mundane. Sounds terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

lol. So you are happy and contented, and you cannot empathize with others who aren't.

You don't seem very much like an adult. Op should be happy she is not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

Not difficult for us at all. DL has been good, we spend more time with our kids without the commuting back and forth to school and some activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

Not difficult for us at all. DL has been good, we spend more time with our kids without the commuting back and forth to school and some activities.

+1 Put us in the "happy and contented" camp as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

I’m way more concerned for parent/teen combos who are totally happy spending gobs and gobs of time together at home. Not developmentally normal.

Dumbest post on the thread.