I’m SO flipping sick of my teenagers

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Feed your kids and they will be more pleasant. Awful parents with non existent cooking skills are making teens long for the school lunch. Seriously, why are you all having kids if everything about them is hateful to you? I wish for your kind some good ol infertility.

Another good parent emanating happiness and contentment!

Certainly not happy and content with seeing abusive parents like op and many who have posted here. Trained to spot and report negligence and abuse - physical, emotional and sexual - of children and students. I am sorry that these children do not have the safety of school to escape from their home environments due to COVID.

OP here. I’m not abusive, cook for my kids, don’t have step kids and haven’t posted in days.

This thread has taken a life of its own. I’ll leave you all to the insults and nonsense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.

This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult. My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy. People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.

Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers. As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better? Same with your child? Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different. Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family. My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc. Child struggling in school. Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support. One parent having other health issues, others step in for support. Its a team effort, not individual. You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.

I’m the PP and I was responding to the blanket statement that poor communication is the reason teens are angry. Teens are angry for lots of reasons: climate change, economic inequalities, bias against LGBTQ. They’re angry because they’ve got raging hormones and because some kids are mean. They’re angry because their feelings overwhelm them and they’re still learning coping skills. There’s so little nuance on this thread. Parent is tired of teens therefore parent is horrible. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.

This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult. My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy. People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.

Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers. As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better? Same with your child? Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different. Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family. My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc. Child struggling in school. Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support. One parent having other health issues, others step in for support. Its a team effort, not individual. You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.

I’m the PP and I was responding to the blanket statement that poor communication is the reason teens are angry. Teens are angry for lots of reasons: climate change, economic inequalities, bias against LGBTQ. They’re angry because they’ve got raging hormones and because some kids are mean. They’re angry because their feelings overwhelm them and they’re still learning coping skills. There’s so little nuance on this thread. Parent is tired of teens therefore parent is horrible. Ridiculous.

Those aren't reasons to be angry. Those are rich kid problems whose parents are worried about their college applications and push them to believe in a social cause or justice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No, it's not. Not by any stretch of the imagination is it "difficult for everyone." Many of us are very happy and contented right now.

I’m way more concerned for parent/teen combos who are totally happy spending gobs and gobs of time together at home. Not developmentally normal.

I was thinking the same

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't need to go back to school they need a better parent.

F*** off. This is difficult for everyone.

No. Not really. Some people do fail at parenting. An angry teen was an angry tween, child, toddler....it is years of being unheard and disregarded that makes them lash out.

Good Communication is the key.

This is not true at all. I was a pleasant child, an angry teen, and I’m a very chill adult. My eldest was highly anxious and never stopped moving as a child m, was depressed as a teen and and is now very relaxed and happy. People change and evolve and often times it’s an “inside job” having nothing to do with parents, teachers, etc.

Actually it has a lot to do with parents and teachers. As an angry teen, why were you angry and what could have helped make the situation better? Same with your child? Its easy to dismiss things, its harder to figure out the problem and if you are able fix it.

I can see a lot of things my parents could have and should have done different. Now that I am older I can see how selfish they were, other things like their careers were more important and we are very aware for ours and make sure that our family is functioning well in terms of meeting their needs and being happy and if things aren't working even for one of us, we all make an effort to change as a family. My spouse was having health issues, we all as a family agreed to change our diet, exercise with the spouse, etc. Child struggling in school. Both parents stepped in and supported till they could take over DL but we are still there to support. One parent having other health issues, others step in for support. Its a team effort, not individual. You say its no big deal, but it was when you were going through it and a little bit of support could have made a huge difference.

I’m the PP and I was responding to the blanket statement that poor communication is the reason teens are angry. Teens are angry for lots of reasons: climate change, economic inequalities, bias against LGBTQ. They’re angry because they’ve got raging hormones and because some kids are mean. They’re angry because their feelings overwhelm them and they’re still learning coping skills. There’s so little nuance on this thread. Parent is tired of teens therefore parent is horrible. Ridiculous.

Those aren't reasons to be angry. Those are rich kid problems whose parents are worried about their college applications and push them to believe in a social cause or justice.

Huh. The teens you know (and their families) must not be very nice people then.