Friend’s 8 year old is awful to my 4 year old

[Anonymous]

Why is your SN 4 year old playing with a dog while supervised only by an 8 year old? This is a recipe for disaster. OP sounds clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your SN 4 year old playing with a dog while supervised only by an 8 year old? This is a recipe for disaster. OP sounds clueless.

Op sounds clueless and the 8 year old seems to be a bit of a brat.

Although, her parents are going through a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really can't believe this thread.

Op stop doing stuff with kids. This group is not going to gel because the parents are not interested in making it a good environment for your Ds.

My kids went to a multiage preschool ages 2-5 and they are good with younger kids. My kids are 4 yrs apart and their friends are age differences from 2 to 5 yrs between siblings. No one is treating the younger kids badly. My kids are tweens and teens now.

This parent may be overwhelmed with a difficult kid or with her marriage or career or whatever. She will regret her laxity in the future though.

I take it you just read the first 3 or 4 pages...

[Anonymous]

We were just at a party with a SN boy. He hit my kids with light sabers. My boys were running around with nerf guns and this boy wanted to play. I thought of this thread.

Both OP and the other mom should look out for their own kids and keep them home.

Most of our friends have kids. If I was hanging out with a childless friend, I would get a sitter.

Or I may bring a screen like iPads and switch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your SN 4 year old playing with a dog while supervised only by an 8 year old? This is a recipe for disaster. OP sounds clueless.

The dog owner was there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my friend’s has an 8 year old daughter who is awful to my son, who is almost 5. We are in the same friend circle and the only ones with kids, so the two of them, plus the girl’s older brother, are often together. From the moment my son enters the room, the girl is on him, barking orders at him, making fun of him. The other day, we sat down for dinner and she said loudly “mommy can you sit next to me so I don't have to sit next to baby Larlo?” That was the limit for me and I scolded her sharply in front of everyone and said “That’s not very nice Larla”, at which point my friend also grudgingly chimes in that it was not very nice. To make matters worse, my child has a not-insignificant special need. He’s slightly impaired cognitively and processes language very poorly. We work extremely hard on self advocacy. He’s able to stick up for himself when someone is aggressive with him or mean- like a peer telling him “I’m not your friend” or something like that. I want him to learn self advocacy and I try to give him the words like “stop bossing me around”. But this is new territory for him. I don’t want to sit there and shadow his play, but the alternative is that I let him go and play with the older kids knowing he’s being harangued and ordered around like a peon and being teased. The worst is that he doesn’t even get sometimes that she’s being awful to him and teasing him! (The older brother is extremely nice btw and often defends my child against his sister). So wwyd!

She’s going to grow up and be like my adult step son. I’d drop dead if he didn’t insult me at least once a day when he visits.....over stupid things. I just ignore him now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your SN 4 year old playing with a dog while supervised only by an 8 year old? This is a recipe for disaster. OP sounds clueless.

The dog owner was there.

That’s not enough supervision. A special needs 4 year old needs very close supervision with a dog. Like, a parent within two feet level of supervision. This is basic stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were just at a party with a SN boy. He hit my kids with light sabers. My boys were running around with nerf guns and this boy wanted to play. I thought of this thread.

Both OP and the other mom should look out for their own kids and keep them home.

Most of our friends have kids. If I was hanging out with a childless friend, I would get a sitter.

Or I may bring a screen like iPads and switch.

Do you know how ignorant you sound? My child has challenges processing language, so things like...pronouns are hard for him. He can’t use he/she/they correctly and can’t sort it out (using that part of speech as an illustrative example). It makes talking hard for him. He needs time so self advocacy can be hard and especially hard when a bossy and verbal little girl is in his face. Your sentiment is so ignorant, same as the dog commenter above. The dog owner is a known entity, and person who I made the determination it is ok to trust bc of their experience with dogs and kids. My child having a speech disorder is completely irrelevant. It’s like saying the dyslexic needs extra attention bc the dog is around. No idiot. All parties need to be extra careful with a dog when any kid is around. Not just the kids with language disorders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were just at a party with a SN boy. He hit my kids with light sabers. My boys were running around with nerf guns and this boy wanted to play. I thought of this thread.

Both OP and the other mom should look out for their own kids and keep them home.

Most of our friends have kids. If I was hanging out with a childless friend, I would get a sitter.

Or I may bring a screen like iPads and switch.

Do you know how ignorant you sound? My child has challenges processing language, so things like...pronouns are hard for him. He can’t use he/she/they correctly and can’t sort it out (using that part of speech as an illustrative example). It makes talking hard for him. He needs time so self advocacy can be hard and especially hard when a bossy and verbal little girl is in his face. Your sentiment is so ignorant, same as the dog commenter above. The dog owner is a known entity, and person who I made the determination it is ok to trust bc of their experience with dogs and kids. My child having a speech disorder is completely irrelevant. It’s like saying the dyslexic needs extra attention bc the dog is around. No idiot. All parties need to be extra careful with a dog when any kid is around. Not just the kids with language disorders.

I was sympathetic to OP. I was saying that if you hang out with childless friends, I would get a sitter.

I also have a toddler. When I bring her to gatherings, DH and I keep an eye on her at all times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were just at a party with a SN boy. He hit my kids with light sabers. My boys were running around with nerf guns and this boy wanted to play. I thought of this thread.

Both OP and the other mom should look out for their own kids and keep them home.

Most of our friends have kids. If I was hanging out with a childless friend, I would get a sitter.

Or I may bring a screen like iPads and switch.

Do you know how ignorant you sound? My child has challenges processing language, so things like...pronouns are hard for him. He can’t use he/she/they correctly and can’t sort it out (using that part of speech as an illustrative example). It makes talking hard for him. He needs time so self advocacy can be hard and especially hard when a bossy and verbal little girl is in his face. Your sentiment is so ignorant, same as the dog commenter above. The dog owner is a known entity, and person who I made the determination it is ok to trust bc of their experience with dogs and kids. My child having a speech disorder is completely irrelevant. It’s like saying the dyslexic needs extra attention bc the dog is around. No idiot. All parties need to be extra careful with a dog when any kid is around. Not just the kids with language disorders.

I’m the PP who scolded you about insufficient supervision near the dog. You’re absolutely right, all four year olds need supervision around a dog, regardless of whether they have special needs. That doesn’t mean your failure to supervise your kid around the dog is any less negligent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An 8 year old has no interest in a 5 year old.

My son is nearly 10 and loves playing with kids both older and younger than him. He plays with toddlers, babies, etc.

That said, it's something to say not interested in playing and being rude to a small child. It's not ok to bully or belittle any child at any age.