What attracts men to women?

[Anonymous]

Beauty, intelligence and a whole lotta curves. Fascination with me and real enthusiasm in bed.

[Anonymous]

Beauty is subjective. I find a girl next door cute far more beautiful than the done up model look. Kristen Bell is far hotter to me than for example Melania Trump.

They are just different types, but you still like a proportionate woman with symmetrical features and a decent body. It's like saying - "She doesn't have to be a 10, an 8 is fine too"
Beauty is not as subjective as you believe.

[Anonymous]

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Why would that matter to a guy, weather a woman had 3 previous sexual partners or 13? What difference does it make to a guy? If the woman he marries stays incredible loyal and has only eyes for him, in what way would her previous sexual history bother him?

Doesn't matter why it matters. You might as well ask why it matters to women that a man is taller than them. Maybe it shouldn't, but it does.

It probably won't matter for casual dating, but it certainly matters for marriage. The more previous partners she's had, the more likely the marriage will end in divorce. Not to put too fine a point on it, if she's had a lot of previous partners, this decreases the odds that she will "stays incredible loyal and has only eyes for him".

Finally, the question is not what men should want, but what men do want. And they don't want a girl who has been plundered by countless other guys.

Not true.
My sisters were both virgins when they married, they now wonder and fantasize about other men while they are married.
I worry they will cheat. I have had 27 partners. I got all that crap out of my system. Married 21 years now, no interest in other men, at all.

Somewhat off topic but how does one get the desire for other partners out of ones system? Man here, had lots of partners before marriage and still want lots now.

FWIW, I don't care if my wife had fun before they met me. I can understand why some men care although usually its because they dated women who made them work hard to get into bed with them and are resentful of the fact women let others in much easier.

It’s a different mindset. I grew up with parents who were married for life. Divorce wasn’t an option. So, I modelled that. I knew I would marry once and I wasn’t going to screw it up. Also, I no longer live for excitement and thrills.
I just stoned wanting other men when I met DH.

[Anonymous]

*stopped
Not stoned

[Anonymous]

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Why would that matter to a guy, weather a woman had 3 previous sexual partners or 13? What difference does it make to a guy? If the woman he marries stays incredible loyal and has only eyes for him, in what way would her previous sexual history bother him?

Doesn't matter why it matters. You might as well ask why it matters to women that a man is taller than them. Maybe it shouldn't, but it does.

It probably won't matter for casual dating, but it certainly matters for marriage. The more previous partners she's had, the more likely the marriage will end in divorce. Not to put too fine a point on it, if she's had a lot of previous partners, this decreases the odds that she will "stays incredible loyal and has only eyes for him".

Finally, the question is not what men should want, but what men do want. And they don't want a girl who has been plundered by countless other guys.

Not true.
My sisters were both virgins when they married, they now wonder and fantasize about other men while they are married.
I worry they will cheat. I have had 27 partners. I got all that crap out of my system. Married 21 years now, no interest in other men, at all.

Actually, you probably got a lot of crap IN your system. But that's ok...I'm not judging you.

Good because there is nothing to judge. Looking forward to my 25 th anniversary in a few years. Never had eyes for another since meeting DH. So happy things worked out how they did.

Dw here with 10+ sex partners pre-Dh. How do you keep from wanting other men?? I’m in my late 30s and lust for 3-4 men other than my DH. I won’t cheat because I value what we have and we have an active sex life. But there are so many funny, attractive smart men out there, at least where I work.

[Anonymous]

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Um. 1) you're going on dcum to meet women? 2) I doubt a lawyer, doctor, senior business executive is devoting time to writing a detailed post on an internet forum about women's hotness, the way you just did..... I think the responses we're getting on this thread are from a certain type of man looking for a certain type of woman.

You "doubt" that men in with certain jobs are on here. Have you ever read the medical posts and seen the number of doctors that respond? Ditto with the lawyers that respond when a legal issue comes up.

You are not able to support your statements in any real fashion, and you have no idea who is devoting time to writing posts on here. I am an executive (I do tax related M&A work) and there is a very, very good chance my time is more valuable than yours in terms of what I earn for what I do.

You "think" a certain type of man is responding, but you have no idea how to support your "thought." What do you do for a living? Do you make unfounded statements as a part of your job? The question is sincere. Specifically, do you often draw conclusions based on your feelings instead of based on objective information?

There was a confession thread a while back and loads of posters said they routinely posed as doctors and gave medical advice on thread when they were just doctors wives.

[Anonymous]

If you're just talking about attraction, it's always going to come down to being attractive- in whatever way appeals to a certain man. That's what will draw them to you. It is also not hard and no big accomplishment. I could go to Target later and find a man who would be happy to f*ck if I offered. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

When it comes to anything beyond simple attraction, you'll have to bring more to the table. Some kind of personality or some quality that makes you more desirable than the other millions of attractive women walking around. The men who have actually loved me cared about something beyond the looks but obviously the looks are the only reason they ever bothered to find out anything at all about the rest.

But push comes to shove, its all about looks, unless they're desperate in which case even being attractive is negotiable. Simply being a living being with a body will do for some guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, men are pretty simple. Looks is the first thing they notice, then personality and chemistry. They really don't care about career or degrees. That doesn't mean they don't care if the woman is stupid, but they don't really care how many degrees a woman has or from where.

I love men. (love women, too, but men here). I obsess over things my partner does NOT obsess over, and it is so helpful to have the different perspective from a man!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're just talking about attraction, it's always going to come down to being attractive- in whatever way appeals to a certain man. That's what will draw them to you. It is also not hard and no big accomplishment. I could go to Target later and find a man who would be happy to f*ck if I offered. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

When it comes to anything beyond simple attraction, you'll have to bring more to the table. Some kind of personality or some quality that makes you more desirable than the other millions of attractive women walking around. The men who have actually loved me cared about something beyond the looks but obviously the looks are the only reason they ever bothered to find out anything at all about the rest.

But push comes to shove, its all about looks, unless they're desperate in which case even being attractive is negotiable. Simply being a living being with a body will do for some guys.

You have a very sexist view of men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you're just talking about attraction, it's always going to come down to being attractive- in whatever way appeals to a certain man. That's what will draw them to you. It is also not hard and no big accomplishment. I could go to Target later and find a man who would be happy to f*ck if I offered. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

When it comes to anything beyond simple attraction, you'll have to bring more to the table. Some kind of personality or some quality that makes you more desirable than the other millions of attractive women walking around. The men who have actually loved me cared about something beyond the looks but obviously the looks are the only reason they ever bothered to find out anything at all about the rest.

But push comes to shove, its all about looks, unless they're desperate in which case even being attractive is negotiable. Simply being a living being with a body will do for some guys.

You have a very sexist view of men.

Why? We care about looks. We don’t care nearly as much about diploma count.

[Anonymous]

All men want is to use and hurt you. The sooner you realize men just want an ego stroke the better off you'll be.

[Anonymous]

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Um. 1) you're going on dcum to meet women? 2) I doubt a lawyer, doctor, senior business executive is devoting time to writing a detailed post on an internet forum about women's hotness, the way you just did..... I think the responses we're getting on this thread are from a certain type of man looking for a certain type of woman.

You "doubt" that men in with certain jobs are on here. Have you ever read the medical posts and seen the number of doctors that respond? Ditto with the lawyers that respond when a legal issue comes up.

You are not able to support your statements in any real fashion, and you have no idea who is devoting time to writing posts on here. I am an executive (I do tax related M&A work) and there is a very, very good chance my time is more valuable than yours in terms of what I earn for what I do.

You "think" a certain type of man is responding, but you have no idea how to support your "thought." What do you do for a living? Do you make unfounded statements as a part of your job? The question is sincere. Specifically, do you often draw conclusions based on your feelings instead of based on objective information?

I was going to lol at this, but you sound like the kind of guy who goes on shooting rampages if a woman laughs at him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If you're just talking about attraction, it's always going to come down to being attractive- in whatever way appeals to a certain man. That's what will draw them to you. It is also not hard and no big accomplishment. I could go to Target later and find a man who would be happy to f*ck if I offered. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

When it comes to anything beyond simple attraction, you'll have to bring more to the table. Some kind of personality or some quality that makes you more desirable than the other millions of attractive women walking around. The men who have actually loved me cared about something beyond the looks but obviously the looks are the only reason they ever bothered to find out anything at all about the rest.

But push comes to shove, its all about looks, unless they're desperate in which case even being attractive is negotiable. Simply being a living being with a body will do for some guys.

You have a very sexist view of men.

Why? We care about looks. We don’t care nearly as much about diploma count.

Do you really think you speak for all men here? Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're just talking about attraction, it's always going to come down to being attractive- in whatever way appeals to a certain man. That's what will draw them to you. It is also not hard and no big accomplishment. I could go to Target later and find a man who would be happy to f*ck if I offered. It's like shooting fish in a barrel.

When it comes to anything beyond simple attraction, you'll have to bring more to the table. Some kind of personality or some quality that makes you more desirable than the other millions of attractive women walking around. The men who have actually loved me cared about something beyond the looks but obviously the looks are the only reason they ever bothered to find out anything at all about the rest.

But push comes to shove, its all about looks, unless they're desperate in which case even being attractive is negotiable. Simply being a living being with a body will do for some guys.

You have a very sexist view of men.

Yeah and it's accurate. Die mad about it.

[Anonymous]

here you go

Education levels -- Not really
Youth -- Corresponds to beauty
Wealth -- No
Social Status -- Corresponds to wealth, which doesn't matter
Career -- No
Fertility -- Sort of implied
Independence -- What?
Beauty -- yes -- is she good looking? That's subjective, but that's ALL that matters, at least to spark the interest. Then after that, its is she like YOU.
Confidence -- No -- that's what women want from men
Athletic/Physically active -- corresponds to beauty, although there's are plenty of good looking women who, while fit, are not athletic.