What attracts men to women?

[Anonymous]

This is a question I’ve been pondering about lately. I’m finding it very hard to find a nice guy to settle down with. I’ve been hearing different things from different people regarding the things men find attractive in a woman. However, they’re usually from a woman’s perspective. I would like to hear the men’s perspective regarding this, so I can understand them better and have realistic expectations.

I’ll list the qualities/attributes that a woman may possess:

Education levels
Youth
Wealth
Social Status
Career
Fertility
Independence
Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

If men were to select the top 3 attributes from the list that attracts them to a woman, what would they be?

[Anonymous]

Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

[Anonymous]

Beauty
Confidence
Life goals (not necessarily career wise but things she wants to do in her life)

[Anonymous]

Beauty

Everything else in variation.

[Anonymous]

Guys are simple, its all about the looks.

[Anonymous]

Beauty

Beauty

Beauty

[Anonymous]

Beauty
Intelligence
Sense of humor

After a few dates bedroom skills.

[Anonymous]

OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

[Anonymous]

You don't "ponder about" something, you just ponder it. I find intelligence and the ability to communicate clearly attractive, in both men and women.

[Anonymous]

I think women like to believe that men are attracted to them because they are smart and successful and all of that but men aren't that complex when it comes to attraction. Smart and successful are nice to haves.

[Anonymous]

Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

These are my top three and I've said it before,

"a woman with a pleasing figure and a pleasant disposition will always be more popular with men than a very pretty woman with neither."

The good news, ladies, is you have a measure of control over your figure and your disposition. There's really no requirement to be a beauty queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

These are my top three and I've said it before,

"a woman with a pleasing figure and a pleasant disposition will always be more popular with men than a very pretty woman with neither."

The good news, ladies, is you have a measure of control over your figure and your disposition. There's really no requirement to be a beauty queen.

Ugh, please don't refer to us as a collective "ladies". It's so condescending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys are simple, its all about the looks.

No, not for all guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a question I’ve been pondering about lately. I’m finding it very hard to find a nice guy to settle down with. I’ve been hearing different things from different people regarding the things men find attractive in a woman. However, they’re usually from a woman’s perspective. I would like to hear the men’s perspective regarding this, so I can understand them better and have realistic expectations.

I’ll list the qualities/attributes that a woman may possess:

Education levels [NO]
Youth [YES]
Wealth [NO]
Social Status [NO]
Career [NO, NO, NO]
Fertility [YES]
Independence [NO]
Beauty [YES, YES, YES, YES, YES]
Confidence [NO]
Athletic/Physically active [YES - but only matters if she's got youth and beauty]

If men were to select the top 3 attributes from the list that attracts them to a woman, what would they be?

And there's another one that will enrage the DCUM women, but you asked for a male perspective so here it is:

Reasonably low number of previous sexual partners. Meaning, less than ten. No man wants to marry a woman who has been with dozens of other guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

It depends on what he is looking for. Is he looking for a wife or a date?