DH simply doesn’t respond when I talk

Anonymous
My ex-husband did this. In his case, he just didn’t want to listen to what I had to say. One of the many reasons I’m glad to be divorced.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think that you need to realize that a partner's desire to listen to another partner wanes over time.

You have no right to demand that he listen to you when he doesn't feel like doing so and no right to complain about this natural progression in your marriage.

Even though being listened to might be a core part of your romantic relationship, you must accept passively that he won't do so and never ever seek out anyone else to talk to.


OP only gave examples of having to communicate in order to make and plan for family decisions.
This implies her spouse either doesn’t care, thinks everything is Women’s Work, doesn’t like OP and lashes out this lame way, or all of the above.
He needs to step up and be an adult, instead he hides away from adult and family responsibilities.
Anonymous
You may want to read this. I found this when I was looking for something entirely else but that explains a lot about many couples that do not realize that a husband might be Asperger's

This study used a rich interview protocol to develop a theoretical model representing communications between neurotypical (NT) and AS partners, which the authors have called the “prompt dependency cycle”. This cycle occurs through repeated attempts by the NT partner to prompt reciprocal interaction from their AS partner, followed by avoidance or blocking of interaction by the AS partner.




Abstract
Reciprocal communication between couples is central to sustaining strong intimate relationships. Given that Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) affects communication and social reciprocity, adults with this disorder are vulnerable to experiencing difficulties in relating to their “neurotypical” (NT) partner. As reported in a previous paper, prompt dependency was found to be a compensatory mechanism for some of the communication difficulties within AS-NT relationships. This paper draws on the same data-set to describe the impact of prompt dependency on AS-NT relationships. The research reported here is also used to derive a theoretical model that illustrates how a cycle of prompt dependency results in a communication “roundabout” for partners. Implications for practice and further research are discussed.



Everyday interpersonal interactions are critical for sustaining intimate relationships. However, people with ASD Level 1 (Asperger’s Syndrome, AS) are concrete, literal communicators who usually do not have the same connectedness needs as others. Accordingly, they often remain unaware of the reciprocal interaction and affection needs of significant people in their lives. This study used a rich interview protocol to develop a theoretical model representing communications between neurotypical (NT) and AS partners, which the authors have called the “prompt dependency cycle”. This cycle occurs through repeated attempts by the NT partner to prompt reciprocal interaction from their AS partner, followed by avoidance or blocking of interaction by the AS partner. Understanding how cycles of communication arise and are sustained through interaction between AS and NT partners is a critical first step in developing effective clinical interventions for couples experiencing these communication problems.


https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/23311908.2017.1283828
Anonymous
Maybe you talk too much about silly things.
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