Is there an age where the whole wedding thing needs to chill?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

I hope this is a joke? Most people can purchase their own sheets when they need them or want new ones! Especially at age 36 if they are married and own a home??? Why do you need your friends to continually buy your household necessities for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

I hope this is a joke? Most people can purchase their own sheets when they need them or want new ones! Especially at age 36 if they are married and own a home??? Why do you need your friends to continually buy your household necessities for you?

I don't care about stuff you wear out. I don't care to celebrate your marriage (do that yourself- I already went to the wedding).

[Anonymous]

I thought that stuff was tacky in my 20s. I remember seeing those types of bachelorette parties and thinking the women were all so trashy. No way would I have participated.

Now that I’m in my 30s? Dude, maturity is overrated. Getting skanked up, going out with my trashy friends, and hitting on guys 15 years younger sounds awesome. Bring on the penis sashes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

I hope this is a joke? Most people can purchase their own sheets when they need them or want new ones! Especially at age 36 if they are married and own a home??? Why do you need your friends to continually buy your household necessities for you?

Of course it’s a joke. I am not going to throw myself a ten year shower and expect everyone to buy me presents. But if my extended family decided to start doing this, I would totally support it .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

I hope this is a joke? Most people can purchase their own sheets when they need them or want new ones! Especially at age 36 if they are married and own a home??? Why do you need your friends to continually buy your household necessities for you?

Of course it’s a joke. I am not going to throw myself a ten year shower and expect everyone to buy me presents. But if my extended family decided to start doing this, I would totally support it .

Lol, with this board you never know!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be a little embarrassed to be having a shower and a balls to the wall bachelorette party at 36.

It was tacky and embarrassing at 30. Could not imagine doing it all so close to 40.

You’d be embarrassed to have a shower? Should women in their mid-30s not even bother with a wedding because now it’s embarassing at that age?

I said I'd be embarrassed to have a shower not a wedding.

A 36 year old is not just starting out. Seems tacky to expect to be treated like a 25 year old who is just out of school and truly has very little.

This is why I didn’t have a wedding shower. We both had already lived in our own. We had everything we needed. It felt like a foolish waste of time to register for towels. We had towels. x2! We also had gainful employment that could afford us new towels if needed. It wasn’t worth wasting two Saturdays to register and have the damn shower.

Really? I am 36 and have been married for 10 years. I feel like I could use another shower . I need new cookie sheets, bed sheets, bath towels, and hand towels. My dishes and flatware have been broken then replaced piecemeal so nothing matches. I also have my home now, so I know what colors would work well for things like sheets, blankets, and table linens. I think that people should have showers every ten years as a chance to get together, celebrate your marriage, and replace all of your worn out stuff.

I hope this is a joke? Most people can purchase their own sheets when they need them or want new ones! Especially at age 36 if they are married and own a home??? Why do you need your friends to continually buy your household necessities for you?

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We had so much fun at our wedding that we did joke about wanting to do it again every 10 years. But that was a joke.

It's funny - I wonder if people bring the same spirit to their lives and marriages as they do to their weddings. Like are the people who are like YOU OWE ME NOW DO WHAT I WANT AT MY BACHELORETTE PARTY more flexible and compromising in their lives, or is it always like that with them?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why you assume that just because the bride wants a bachelorette party, she wants plastic penis straws and a sash. I definitely went to those bachelorette parties in my 20s, but by the time we hit our 30s and mid-30s, my friends still wanted bachelorette parties, they just were different types of girls' trips. I went to some really fun girls' weekends where we went to spas, had a private chef come to our airbnb, one where we did a charter boat around Charleston for the day.... bachelorette parties in our 30s were way better because we all had more money and more taste.

In short, don't assume that just because a bride wants a bachelorette party, it will be tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you assume that just because the bride wants a bachelorette party, she wants plastic penis straws and a sash. I definitely went to those bachelorette parties in my 20s, but by the time we hit our 30s and mid-30s, my friends still wanted bachelorette parties, they just were different types of girls' trips. I went to some really fun girls' weekends where we went to spas, had a private chef come to our airbnb, one where we did a charter boat around Charleston for the day.... bachelorette parties in our 30s were way better because we all had more money and more taste.

In short, don't assume that just because a bride wants a bachelorette party, it will be tacky.

+1

I actually would rather go to a bach weekend at this age (where we're more mature and have more money) than the crap ones I attended in my 20s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you assume that just because the bride wants a bachelorette party, she wants plastic penis straws and a sash. I definitely went to those bachelorette parties in my 20s, but by the time we hit our 30s and mid-30s, my friends still wanted bachelorette parties, they just were different types of girls' trips. I went to some really fun girls' weekends where we went to spas, had a private chef come to our airbnb, one where we did a charter boat around Charleston for the day.... bachelorette parties in our 30s were way better because we all had more money and more taste.

In short, don't assume that just because a bride wants a bachelorette party, it will be tacky.

+1

I actually would rather go to a bach weekend at this age (where we're more mature and have more money) than the crap ones I attended in my 20s.

+2

Consider it a reason for a girls' trip and now that you all have more money you can go somewhere nice and have spa treatments while you celebrate your friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like a three day bachelorette weekend with penis sashes is over the top no matter what age you are.

Spot on and I know this from unfortunate experience. Attended a bachelorette/shower weekend about 10 years ago when we were all late 20s. It was excruciating. Going to a male strip club and watching a bunch of smart women embarrass themselves by wearing "future Mrs. ___" t-shirts with penis sashes was insane. All I could think was "ladies, you are already living with these men. The penis is not a novelty for you."

And then there was a penis cake. So awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Oh, I am going. And wearing a penis sash. And "ooooooo-ing" when we all drink pink cocktails. And all the other stuff she wants. Bc I love her and she wants this.

But I will say here I would rather be in bed. Or if I could really choose, rather be at a fun concert or a cooking class or christ, even a strip club. But pumping music and sashes and heels at 3am makes me pre-tired.

Now you know how we felt during your hens weekend years ago. Get off your high horse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why you assume that just because the bride wants a bachelorette party, she wants plastic penis straws and a sash. I definitely went to those bachelorette parties in my 20s, but by the time we hit our 30s and mid-30s, my friends still wanted bachelorette parties, they just were different types of girls' trips. I went to some really fun girls' weekends where we went to spas, had a private chef come to our airbnb, one where we did a charter boat around Charleston for the day.... bachelorette parties in our 30s were way better because we all had more money and more taste.

In short, don't assume that just because a bride wants a bachelorette party, it will be tacky.

I have a husband, a mortgage and two young children. I’m happy to go out to dinner/drinks to celebrate you, but I don’t have the time or money for long weekends of private chefs or charter boats. (And no I didn’t have a fancy bachelorette either.)