Should I include being vegan in my dating profile?

[Anonymous]

Yes list it. It is a big pain as we have quite a few in my family. My daughter was on that roll, told me how animals leave a big carbon footprint blah blah blah. Then on our cruise she got grumpy because not all the vegetarian choices were all that great. Before her European trip said she's going to eat what she wants, but would cut down on meat here and there. lol

[Anonymous]

Guys: the thing is that you learn on a first date whether someone is vegan, assuming you go out to eat. How much do you generally disclose about yourself prior to a first date? Are you doing background checks beforehand - or going out once to see if you like each other?

You people who think this needs to be disclosed like it's some sort of secret liability are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys: the thing is that you learn on a first date whether someone is vegan, assuming you go out to eat. How much do you generally disclose about yourself prior to a first date? Are you doing background checks beforehand - or going out once to see if you like each other?

You people who think this needs to be disclosed like it's some sort of secret liability are nuts.

NP here, how much online dating have you done?

I find listing things like this are great, it makes it easy for everyone involved. It is tough out there, good luck in your search OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys: the thing is that you learn on a first date whether someone is vegan, assuming you go out to eat. How much do you generally disclose about yourself prior to a first date? Are you doing background checks beforehand - or going out once to see if you like each other?

You people who think this needs to be disclosed like it's some sort of secret liability are nuts.

I am the pp who thinks the people berating that one pp are aholes. I don't think it HAS to be disclosed, but I think you're saving time on both sides by being up front about it.

There is very little a vegan could do on a first date to make me change my mind.

[Anonymous]

As some one posted on the spin-off thread, I would want to know if you're smoker, non-drinker or vegan. All of these have pretty big implications.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

No, he isn't.

Really? This Sunday, he made some kind of super expensive three meat chili with meat from whole foods that cost more than I care to think about. ? All organic, all free range, super spiced

On the side, he made me an incredibly tasty version of spicy chili without the meat.

For Thanksgiving, here and my kid had some 6 course tasting menu that included vegan butternut squash soup, turkey carpaccio and sweetbreads. I would say those are adventurous foodie foods for foodies.

Tonight, he's making us Margharita Pizza in his pizza oven with the dough that he makes himself. And his homemade pizza sauce.

I could go on about the excellent experience restaurants we go to, but you won't believe me anyway.

I certainly have known plenty of picky eaters who are not vegan or vegetarian and they are bigger pain to deal with then veg people. Half the time, the food is too spicy or the cheese is too weird or the meat isn't cooked enough for these people

This is precisely, as someone who loves to cook, why I would not date a vegan. I would not want to be a short order cook around someone's restrictive diet. Not sure why you are so offended. Not everyone wants all that hassle in their lives. It does everyone a favor.

I respect that this is a limitation for you that you do not want to deal with. Fine. But that doesn't mean it is a hassle for our family or that it is necessary to reduce my husband's Love of cooking and adapting dishes to being a short-order cook. He just sees things differently than you.

my only point, is is that mixed dietary households are not de facto a hassle

Well it’s not a hassle for you because you are not cooking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As some one posted on the spin-off thread, I would want to know if you're smoker, non-drinker or vegan. All of these have pretty big implications.

As the OP of that thread: I would recommend making that one of the first questions you ask someone, then, once you get chatting. Or be sure you bring it up on your first date. Communication, guys. Communicate. Don't expect the other person to volunteer all the info you think is dispositive without you asking about it.

There are things you may not know about someone until you get to know them. It's up to you to find out what you need to know.

[Anonymous]

You are a vegan for a reason and you are better off listing it.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

No, he isn't.

Really? This Sunday, he made some kind of super expensive three meat chili with meat from whole foods that cost more than I care to think about. ? All organic, all free range, super spiced

On the side, he made me an incredibly tasty version of spicy chili without the meat.

For Thanksgiving, here and my kid had some 6 course tasting menu that included vegan butternut squash soup, turkey carpaccio and sweetbreads. I would say those are adventurous foodie foods for foodies.

Tonight, he's making us Margharita Pizza in his pizza oven with the dough that he makes himself. And his homemade pizza sauce.

I could go on about the excellent experience restaurants we go to, but you won't believe me anyway.

I certainly have known plenty of picky eaters who are not vegan or vegetarian and they are bigger pain to deal with then veg people. Half the time, the food is too spicy or the cheese is too weird or the meat isn't cooked enough for these people

This is precisely, as someone who loves to cook, why I would not date a vegan. I would not want to be a short order cook around someone's restrictive diet. Not sure why you are so offended. Not everyone wants all that hassle in their lives. It does everyone a favor.

I respect that this is a limitation for you that you do not want to deal with. Fine. But that doesn't mean it is a hassle for our family or that it is necessary to reduce my husband's Love of cooking and adapting dishes to being a short-order cook. He just sees things differently than you.

my only point, is is that mixed dietary households are not de facto a hassle

Well it’s not a hassle for you because you are not cooking.

+1 ... PP please give us on trying to convince everyone that your "foodie" omnivore husband loves the fact you are vegan. I am sure it is a PITA for him, but he puts up with it. It's still definitely not for everyone.

[Anonymous]

OP, if people have to accommodate you, then yes.

If people don't have to accommodate you, in any way, then no.

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Anonymous wrote:As some one posted on the spin-off thread, I would want to know if you're smoker, non-drinker or vegan. All of these have pretty big implications.

As the OP of that thread: I would recommend making that one of the first questions you ask someone, then, once you get chatting. Or be sure you bring it up on your first date. Communication, guys. Communicate. Don't expect the other person to volunteer all the info you think is dispositive without you asking about it.

There are things you may not know about someone until you get to know them. It's up to you to find out what you need to know.

Of course! No one is saying that if they find out you're a vegan after committing to the first date that they're going to fly into a rage or anything. We're being asked if we would prefer someone list they are vegan ahead of time. We're saying yes, personal preferences, everyone has them. I'm sorry it's so distressing for you to realize this would be a deal breaker for so many but luckily you don't really need to care because you found a dude who loves you enough to make you vegan chili.

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Anonymous wrote:I have celiac disease and I would list being gluten free on my dating profile. Its not that big a deal at home but it is challenging when traveling, and some people are really into desserts which isn't the best fit for my life.

Celiac is tough. I'm sorry. My best friend has celiac and our nights out are always challenging, if fun...me being a vegan and all. I always remind myself that being vegan is a choice. Her dietary choices were taken from her. However, there is some overlap in our favorite foods so it tends to work out.

My good friend is gluten free (not celiac) and she is an ENORMOUS pain in the ass to go to dinner with. We went to 930 the other night and there are a limited number of restaurants near there and she had to call all of them first, talk to a manager and find out all about their use of gluten. She chose Declaration (I had no say) and she grilled the waiter about their GF pizza crust and cross contamination.

To say the least, I'd never date a vegan. GF is a big enough pain. Cant imagine travel with a vegan. Best to list it. Then people can have the choice in they want all that drama around food in their lives.

NP. Someone who's a pita will be a pita regardless of whether they're a omnivore, vegan, vegetarian, GF, etc.

I have a close friend who is basically a defacto vegan. She's a vegetarian who's lactose intolerant. We eat all kinds of cuisines together on a regular basis without any issues. She doesn't expect to be catered to and can always find something to eat.

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Anonymous wrote:I have celiac disease and I would list being gluten free on my dating profile. Its not that big a deal at home but it is challenging when traveling, and some people are really into desserts which isn't the best fit for my life.

Celiac is tough. I'm sorry. My best friend has celiac and our nights out are always challenging, if fun...me being a vegan and all. I always remind myself that being vegan is a choice. Her dietary choices were taken from her. However, there is some overlap in our favorite foods so it tends to work out.

My good friend is gluten free (not celiac) and she is an ENORMOUS pain in the ass to go to dinner with. We went to 930 the other night and there are a limited number of restaurants near there and she had to call all of them first, talk to a manager and find out all about their use of gluten. She chose Declaration (I had no say) and she grilled the waiter about their GF pizza crust and cross contamination.

To say the least, I'd never date a vegan. GF is a big enough pain. Cant imagine travel with a vegan. Best to list it. Then people can have the choice in they want all that drama around food in their lives.

NP. Someone who's a pita will be a pita regardless of whether they're a omnivore, vegan, vegetarian, GF, etc.

I have a close friend who is basically a defacto vegan. She's a vegetarian who's lactose intolerant. We eat all kinds of cuisines together on a regular basis without any issues. She doesn't expect to be catered to and can always find something to eat.

Come back when you’re planning on dating this person. Otherwise thanks for coming out.

[Anonymous]

Op, here.
I had no idea this question would inspire such strong feelings
As I said in my original post. I don't care what others eat. For the record I have traveled extensively and never had a problem finding something to eat.

But I think I'll take the majority advice and include it on my profile if only to avoid meeting the unhinged posters in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude. People talk about vegans being obsessed with their diets? freaking carnivores whocan't even imagine dating one because of their love of food seem like they are more overly focused on that.

I'm a vegan, my husband of 20 years is not. We have had 20 wonderful years of meals and dinners out and happiness. And he is a foodie, too. But not to the point that me being a vegan sucks joy out of his life I guess

No, he isn't.

Really? This Sunday, he made some kind of super expensive three meat chili with meat from whole foods that cost more than I care to think about. ? All organic, all free range, super spiced

On the side, he made me an incredibly tasty version of spicy chili without the meat.

For Thanksgiving, here and my kid had some 6 course tasting menu that included vegan butternut squash soup, turkey carpaccio and sweetbreads. I would say those are adventurous foodie foods for foodies.

Tonight, he's making us Margharita Pizza in his pizza oven with the dough that he makes himself. And his homemade pizza sauce.

I could go on about the excellent experience restaurants we go to, but you won't believe me anyway.

I certainly have known plenty of picky eaters who are not vegan or vegetarian and they are bigger pain to deal with then veg people. Half the time, the food is too spicy or the cheese is too weird or the meat isn't cooked enough for these people

This is precisely, as someone who loves to cook, why I would not date a vegan. I would not want to be a short order cook around someone's restrictive diet. Not sure why you are so offended. Not everyone wants all that hassle in their lives. It does everyone a favor.

I respect that this is a limitation for you that you do not want to deal with. Fine. But that doesn't mean it is a hassle for our family or that it is necessary to reduce my husband's Love of cooking and adapting dishes to being a short-order cook. He just sees things differently than you.

my only point, is is that mixed dietary households are not de facto a hassle

Well it’s not a hassle for you because you are not cooking.

How is Mrs Vegan eating a Margharita Pizza? Buffalo Mozzarella is not vegan....